12 Habits Girls Love (Habits Girls Find Attractive)

Its that time of year again, when love is in the air, so we thought it was important to talk about some habits to cultivate that girls will absolutely find attractive.
 


 

Be Prompt & Punctual

Yes, women may not hold to this, so there’s definitely a double standard, but a man who is prompt and punctual shows how in-control of his life he is. That’s very sexy to all women. Being pushed around by your circumstances and not taking charge of their schedule diminishes a girl’s confidence in you.

Be Well-mannered

Have good manners (i.e. holds door open for a woman, offering your jacket to her if it’s chilly). You’d be surprised how uncommon a well-mannered man is these days.

Smile around her

There’s nothing more pleasing to a woman than knowing that her presence makes you happy. It makes her feel wanted and confident that she’s made the right choice in spending time with you.

Have a sense of humor

You’ll never meet a girl who says she prefers a guy without a sense of humor. Don’t be too raunchy or racy (unless you know she likes that type of humor) and try not to make fun of others while showing her your funny side. A well-timed joke goes a long way! The best thing to do is look up some jokes online and memorize a few and deploy them as-needed or when the situation presents itself.

Be Romantic

Plan an entire day or evening out with your girl, surprise her with flowers or sneak a handwritten note in her purse or send her sweet text during the workday. Just knowing that a man is thinking about her makes her heart sing.

Start a Conversation

Asking how her day was, or what she’s been up to and then asking follow-up questions shows you actually care (even if you really don’t care about how much of a b*#$# Tammy has been at work). Asking her questions makes her feel important and good knowing that she is valued.

Be A Good Listener

Goes with the previous point:  Show you’re genuinely interested by being a good listener. Most women who want help, will ask for it, so don’t hear what she’s having issues with as an invite to jump in and start solving her issues. She mostly likely just wants to vent a little and will make her feel good knowing that she has a sympathetic ear she can depend on when she’s feeling upset.

Be Affectionate

Holding her hand, wrapping your arms around her from behind, kissing her neck, telling her how beautiful she looks are all things that make her feel amazing, more confident, and turned on.

Exude Confidence

Being confident in yourself and everything you do is a huge turn on for women. Guys may never fully understand this, but having confidence can make up for a lacking in the looks department.

Take Control

Going out? Have a plan of action. Ordering at a restaurant? Ask her what she wants and then order for her first, when the time comes. There’s nothing sexier than a man who takes control.

Take Care Of Yourself

Show her you respect yourself by having good grooming habits, ensuring you’re dressed well, and keeping your home clean, especially your bedroom and bathroom, will indicate to her that you’re a keeper.

Have Ambition & Passion

In all that you do, including your career and hobbies, be ambitious and passionate. It doesn’t matter how nerdy or weird your hobbies are, if you have a knowledge and passion for something, that’s incredibly sexy to a woman.

Hairstyles Girls Love On Guys | Best Men’s Hairstyles for 2020

The most popular men’s hair trends for 2020 are: 1. Adopting a longer, more natural style and letting your hair do its thing. 2. New takes on old classics, like a messy, textured hairstyle. Pretty much take your current favorite hairstyle and finish it off by running your fingers through your hair for a slightly less-polished finish that lets your hair’s natural tendencies shine through. In this video and article, we talk about the hairstyles that girls love on guys in 2020 that you should consider.

Modern Pompadour

This haircut is great for long, short, thick, wavy or curly hair. Longer on top and tight and tapered on the sides – it’s more about a low fade vs a more severe high fade. Style it straight back or slightly to the side using a blow dryer to dry your hair in preferred direction and then use a matte pomade or wax to lock in the style and run your fingers through for a less polished look.

Buzzcut

For those men who want the lowest maintenance haircut possible, or those who have thinning or receding hair, It’s an easy haircut to do at home and doesn’t require shaving with a razor and shaving cream. The hair is buzzed with a clipper set to the closest setting. You could balance out this look with a short beard.

*Don’t forget sunscreen on the scalp, as it’s susceptible to burning!

Textured Flat Top

This looks amazing on black men! Using natural curls to build height on top of your head is like an optical illusion. It builds volume without weighty products. Keep the sides slightly longer than a fade to show off the natural texture and enhance it all around with a curl sponge.

Crew Cut

A classic and low maintenance hair style. The hair is cut close up the sides and back, and it’s shorter at the crown and gradually gets longer toward the front.

Classic businessman (with one change)

A.K.A. the Don Draper. This is basically a classic taper with a very clean, slick side part. Update the Don Draper shiny slick back by using product with a matte finish and have the top of the hair tousled around loosely for a less formal, yet impeccably well-groomed look.

Longer, Natural Hair

This is seen on guys like: Jason Momoa, Brad Pitt in Once Upon A Time In Hollywood, Timotee Chalamet. If longer hair is what you’re wanting, take note of a few things. Make sure you have a full head of curly or wavy hair. If you don’t have either of these, then this hairstyle is out for you because pin-straight and/or thinning long hair lays flat and looks dead so unless you want to put in a lot of work to get it to look thin and have curls, this isn’t for you. It’s still important to get regular trims. As for styling, choose a low or medium hold and smoothing hair product to help control the hair and enhance the body. Use your fingers, rather than a brush, to encourage natural movement, and once dried, a pea size amount of product is enough.

19 Men’s Accessories in 2020 (Must-have Essentials)

Accessories are just as important as your clothing, so definitely don’t neglect this part of your style! Below are your favorite accessories every man should have in 2020.

Backpack/Rucksack or Briefcase

We’ve done articles and videos about both of these items a few times. But definitely grab a backpack/rucksack if you don’t work in a more formal environment and grab a briefcase with a detachable shoulder strap for versatility if you need it for more formal occasions.
Favorites: Backpacks – here, here and here
Briefcases – here and here

Casual or dress Watch

We went over the details and different watches you should own in great depth here. Ideally, you want to have both, but if you had to choose one, let your lifestyle determine which you should get. A casual watch with a metal bracelet or perlon, canvas or other straps goes with everything but suiting, and a dress watch can also work in your casual outfits, but some guys may find a leather-strapped watch too formal, so go with whatever fits your style and lifestyle best.

Favorites: Straps

Luggage

If you’re going to be going on any trips, whether a quick, getaway weekend or something more extended, you definitely want a nice piece of luggage to go with it. Whether it’s a carry-on, roller style or more of a weekender bag is up to you. We can make a case for both, but it will mostly depend on your needs.

Favorites: Roller Luggage, Weekender Bag options here, here and here

Headphones

In this day and age headphones are almost a necessity. Especially if you do a lot of traveling since the noise-canceling features of modern headphones is exceptional and helps reduce the stress associated with travel.

Favorites: Over-The-Ear, In-Ear – iPhones, Android

Slim wallet

You want either a bi-fold or card wallet so it’s not so bulky – unless you’ll be carrying it in a bag or jacket pocket exclusively. In which case, you can go for something bigger. As for materials, leather is more hearty and robust, but you can definitely use alternative leathers, as well.

Favorites: Here and here

Slim Phone Case

Just like your wallet, you want something slim and classy to show off your modern, sophisticated personality. Unless you have a specific need for a big, bulletproof case, it’s best to avoid those.
Favorites: iPhone and Android

Fun Socks

As Ashley has been saying for years: Go crazy with your socks! It’s one of the few menswear items where you can wear anything and everything you want because it will mostly be hidden and the little peek of sock showing when you sit down can actually turn into a conversation starter.
Favorites: Here

Fabric watch straps

Perlon, Nato, Canvas, even rubber, are all great ways to add your personality to an outfit as well as to freshen up the look of your watch(es).
Our favorite place for straps. 


Water bottle & coffee thermos

We’ve been signing the praises of these for years now, and they’re still amazing! Not only are they crazy functional, but they also look great and help cut down on environmental waste.

Mini Keychain tool

Having a keychain multi-tool comes in handy way more than we’d like to admit. It has been a lifesaver on more than one occasion, so you should definitely pick one up!

Favorites: Here

 

 

Sunglasses

A classy pair of sunglasses can really elevate an outfit, so definitely grab a pair or two. If you want to cover all bases, grab a black and tortoise shell pair. They’ll go with literally anything you’ll wear.

Favorites: Here, Here and Here

Boxer Briefs

Underwear are one of the few things that will have an immediate impact on your well-being because if you’ve never worn bad vs good underwear, you may be dealing with issues you never realized didn’t need to happen.

Favorites: Here

Tie, Tie Bar & Pocket Square

For the tie, you should at least have a solid navy and/or black one. Make sure it has some texture, as a simple, silk tie looks too conservative and dated. For the tie bar, go with something silver or matte silver to start and then you can play with colors after that. For a pocket square, start with a white cotton one with some colored tipping for just a little added touch of class and personality.
Favorites: Ties, Tie Bars, Pocket Squares

Wool and/or cashmere scarf

Like socks, you definitely want a black or blue one, and then just like your socks have fun with them and grab some with colors or patterns.

Favorites: here

watch travel case

It looks like a hockey puck but protects a single watch like a champ! It’s actually a hard shell and is large enough to handle almost any watch size.
Favorites: Here


Dopp Kit

We’ve talked about dopp kits and their importance before. Not a single thing has changed and if you don’t have one yet. Now is the time! Whether you use it for going to the gym or for traveling, a dopp kit comes in is essential for keeping your toiletries organized and orderly.
Favorites: Here

Biggest Male Grooming Mistakes (How To Fix Them) 2020

Its a new year and definitely time to step up your grooming game if you’ve let it slip recently. So let’s talk about the biggest grooming mistakes you may be making as well as how to fix them. 

 

 

Overdoing it with… anything

There’s a fine line between a man who is well-groomed and one who’s enthusiastic use of a fragrance makes people wish they didn’t have a nose. Whether it’s too much hair product, cologne or oil in your beard, the art of good grooming is to make an effort, but not to make it obvious – through both sight and smell. Any proper, modern gentleman doesn’t assault people’s senses.

Unkempt Body Hair

This include legs, arms, chest, back, and the nether regions. Shag carpeting is out of style for a reason, so best to cut it down with a pair of clippers with a 1 or 2 setting or guard.

Ungroomed Eyebrows

Eyebrows should be separate, caterpillar brows should be tamed and trimmed. Most good barbers will trim your eyebrows if you ask, or there’s specialty trimmers for this, as well. One thing that should be avoided is making sure they’re not too shaped and clean like a woman’s eyebrows. Remember: Take care, but keep it straightforward and simple.

Neglecting Your Skin

Too often, men believe that they can forego taking care of their skin or addressing their specific skin-related issues because its not “manly”. Well, hopefully you already know this, but the first thing anyone sees of you will be your face, so please take care of it! Neglecting your skin will make you look tired and older. Doubly so if you’ve got acne, dry or sensitive skin or dark circles under your eyes.

So in order to look your best, no matter your age, you need a simple, no-frills skincare routine that’s specifically tailored to you.

Going too long between haircuts

If you have a shorter hairstyle (not shaved), you should get a haircut about once a month to keep it looking sharp. If its longer, you can about go every 2 months between trims. If you’re balding or have a buzz cut, you’ll want to take the clippers to it about once a week to keep you looking fresh.

Holding Onto The Last Wisps Of Hair

AKA Denying that you’re balding (or have a receding hairline). We get it. Losing your hair at any age sucks, but instead of holding onto the last little wisps of hair, its time to embrace it and channel your inner Jason Statham. Trust me, no one cares that you’ve shaved your head as much as you do.

Long Nose & Ear Hair

This one is simple: Please don’t let it get like this. Keep it in check. There’s a gazillion tools for this.

Unkempt Facial Hair

This is a real turnoff, especially when your facial hair starts to cover your lips or you have a bunch of stubble on your neck. So keep your facial hair trimmed and clean, at least. If you can’t do that, then may a bearded Norse god strike you down where you are right now!

Ungroomed Head Hair

This is something I immediately notice and makes my stomach turn, especially when it looks dirty and greasy. Wash and style your hair before stepping out in public. If you need to go longer between washes or you have especially greasy hair, use some dry shampoo to help soak up the excess oils.

Letting Dandruff Go Unchecked

It’s certainly nobody’s fault that you or any other guy gets dandruff, but it is your fault if you let it go unchecked. Don’t be that guy that everyone slowly backs away from. Try and reduce the amount of product you’re putting in your hair and make sure to add a proper anti-dandruff shampoo as part of your daily routine.
Best anti-dandruff shampoo

Bad Breath

This is easily fixable: brush and floss your teeth daily and get a cleaning once or twice a year. If it’s food-related, pop a mint or piece of minty gum before talking to people, whenever possible.

Body Odor – Good or Bad

I hope we don’t have to say it, but shower regularly, wear deodorant and please, for the love of everyone around you, go very easy on the cologne. There’s definitely such a thing as too much of a good thing. Also, if you are using a good deodorant and still having odor issues, you may need to look into your diet and the types of foods and spices you’re consuming. Diet definitely affects how you smell.

Neglecting your finger & toenails

This also includes jagged or bitten nails. Keep them trimmed with proper clippers once or twice a month, at least. Also give both areas good scrubs in the shower and make sure to dig out any toe-jam or dirt under your fingernails. If you have issues doing this yourself, go get a pedicure and manicure and let a professional take over.

Overgrown Neck Hair

When there’s a guy who looks sharp and put together and then turns his head to reveal a hairy neck, it totally ruins all the hard work he’s put in to looking his best. If your neck hair grows faster than your haircut schedule, just take your razor while you’re shaving your face and give a pass or two to the back of your neck. You won’t notice, but most people behind you will. If that’s too hard for you to handle, then you’re going to need to hit the barber more often, depending on how fast your neck hair grows.

Cracked or Dry Lips

The first thing anyone notices about you is your face. If you’ve got cracked or dry lips, it will be noticed within a second of talking to you. Just slap on some lip moisturizer if they feel a little dry and you’ll be good to go. Also, make sure you’re getting enough hydration by drinking a good amount of water everyday.

Men’s Shoes (7 Ways To Up Your Shoe Game)

Hopefully, you’ve already got the wardrobe, grooming and other accessories locked down, so now its time to give your shoes some much-needed attention. 

Use shoe trees

They keep your shoes odor and moisture free and also help maintain their shape when you’re not wearing them. They’re a great investment that you’ll use for the next few decades, promise. In a pinch, you can also use the original paper inserts.
Favorites: These, or These

Use a shoe horn

When putting on your shoes, if you’re stomping your foot in, or tearing some of the skin off your fingers while using them as a shoe horn, you’re ruining the backs of your shoes, you fingers, or both. Whether they’re sneakers, dress shoes or boots, there’s nothing worse than the backs of your shoes getting wrinkled and faded because you’re not using a shoe horn.
Favorites: Choice #1, Choice #2

Tie your shoes properly

It may sound trivial, but where you separate the men from the boys is by paying attention to the details like how you tie your shoes. So you should definitely learn how to tie your shoes so the laces lay flat, at least, but frankly, there’s an even better solution in the next point.

Hide the laces

Nothing ruins a great outfit more than long, floppy and/or ill-tied shoelaces. What you really should do is hide them and the best possible way to do this ever is by using these special laces we found a few weeks ago that makes laces that are meant to be hidden. You only have to tie them once and suddenly all your sneakers and dress shoes are now slip ons with amazing looking laces. Seriously, they’re game-changers.

Keep them clean

Give them a quick rub down about once a week with a moist rag, sponge or paper towel, or as they get dirty. Then once a month, do a little deeper cleaning with a proper shoe cleaning kit for about 5 minutes once a month. If you’ve got dress shoes, you can also polish them, but typically, a little cleaning every few days goes a long way.

Get Rid Of The Stink

What some people don’t know is that actual smell is bacteria, and it’s living inside your socks, shoes, and on your feet, so it’s imperative that you kill the pesky bacteria before it turns into a foot infection or worse… There’s a spray that is fantastic and kills bacteria in 10 seconds and has a nice citrus smell. When storing your shoes overnight, pop these in them, as needed.

Buy Multiples

If you have a pair of shoes that you love and fear their eventual demise, the best thing to do is buy multiple pairs of them and swap them out to give them some rest. Coupled with using shoetrees and keeping them clean, your shoes will last significantly longer if you give them breaks between wearing.

Get A Girl’s Attention (6 Ways To Make Her Notice You)

As we round the corner to Valentine’s Day, its important to know the 6 ways to make a girl notice you. Whether you’re out and about, at work or grabbing a coffee or drink with friends, these are the best (non-creepy or douchey) ways to get a girl’s attention. Please, whatever you do, don’t do the tried-and-failed construction worker cat calls! Happy and successful hunting, gents!

 

 

Own the space around you

One way to get a girl’s attention is to take up more space. Insecure men often shrink away, collapsing their shoulders, hoping they won’t stick out. Confident men on the other hand, have no trouble showing it through their comfortable, natural body language.
One great way to take up more space and project confidence is by standing up straight and keeping your hands out of your pockets.

Look approachable

Beyond looking confident, you also want to show women you are friendly and approachable. How do you do this? One trick is to simply stay alert and engaged in your environment by making eye contact and smiling at people who walk by.

Be Social

A great way to get girls to notice you is to start fun, friendly conversations with the people around you. If you’re not sure how to do this, one trick is to take note of what a person is wearing or eating and drinking and use that as the on-ramp to a conversation.

Dress well

Seems like a no-brainer given the site you’re reading, but dressing sharp and looking clean goes a long, long way to getting girls to notice you.

Be complimentary

If there’s someone you’re eyeing, ask her a question about her drink if it’s unique looking or compliment her outfit, eyes or smile. If she engages, remember to make eye contact, smile, and say her name throughout the conversation.

Make Eye contact

We discussed earlier about making eye contact with people walking by to be more approachable. However, making direct eye contact with the girl you’re interested in is the surest way to get her attention. And also the surest way to tell if she’s interested. If she holds it longer than normal and/or keeps looking in your direction, that’s as big as a cross-the-room greenlight as you’re going to get.

Menswear Essentials (11 Items Every Guy Needs in 2020)

Ashley and Dorian are back to discuss the essential menswear items that will keep your style on point in the new year (and decade!) and beyond. Whether you’re reworking your entire closet or just filling the gaps in your wardrobe, make sure you at least have these foundational items so you can build up from there.

 

 

Dress shoes

Ideally, you want to have at least a black pair if you own a charcoal suit and a dark brown pair if you own a navy suit or blazer. They can also be paired with jeans or wool trousers for a more elevated, casual look.

Favorites: Allen Edmonds, Johnston & Murphy, Beckett & Simonon, Aldo, Prada and Ferragamo.

 

The Essential Suit

Need we say more?

 

White dress shirt

We’ve talked about dress shirts until we’re blue in the face. Just grab some already!

Oxford Button Down Dress Shirts

Grab some in white and blue.

Dark wash jeans

If you’ve been a reader of the site for more than a few months, chances are you’ve already grabbed these, but just have to re-iterate once again!

 

White T-Shirt

These are standards for a reason – they look amazing on every guys, provided you nail the fit. Pick up some in navy, grey, and black to round out your closet.
Favorites: Buck Mason, H&M

Crewneck Sweater

Whether it’s wool, cashmere, or cotton, a crewneck sweater in a solid color, like black or charcoal, will always make every outfit look better. Bonus points if you wear a tighter white t-shirt underneath that pops out of the collar and possibly the bottom, for a little extra polish.
Favorites: H&M

Casual brown & black belts

You’ll wear these more than any other belts so get some high-quality ones.

Favorites: Black, Brown

A Casual jacket

That can obviously be a few types of jackets. Namely a: sport coat, bomber, Harrington (zipper front), or trucker (button-front). If you carry a bit of weight in your stomach, then go with bomber or sport coat/blazer. The other jackets will accentuate your midsection too much.

 


Low top sneakers

White is best and looks sharpest, but if you don’t think you can pull off the color (yet), then feel free to grab a black or gray pair.

I prefer to start with leather because its more durable and easier to keep clean than suede, canavs or other fabrics. Once you’ve got a white leather pair, then definitely get other colors and materials as you build out from there.

Favorites: White, Gray, Black

 

Watch

In an ideal world, you’d have a sport watch (metal bracelet) as well as a more “dressy” watch with a leather strap.

The Best Men’s Fragrances Women Love | Best Men’s Cologne 2019

Men’s fragrances come in all varieties these days and wearing the wrong one can be a huge mistake. We’re going to break down the different types/classes of scents women love and let you know when the best times are to wear them. Ultimately, what scents you wear are a highly personal choice so make sure you invest some time in finding the right ones and trying different scents out. Too much cologne is a huge mistake when it comes to interacting in any social or professional situation and especially when dating.

The fragrance world is wide but we’re here to guide you with a few simple tips, here are the best men’s fragrances women love!

General Tips

Try The Scent On Yourself First

Scents change and react differently for each person, so it’s very important to try a bunch of them and see what you like and what feedback is like. 

Choose The Right Scent For The Season

Not only do you need to consider the scent but the seasonality of it. You want heavier, more masculine scents in the colder months, and lighter, cleaner fragrances in the warmer months. Think of it just like the seasonality of your wardrobe.

Go Light

Finally, and maybe most importantly, make sure you’re applying the right way and going very light. If you can smell it on yourself very strongly, you’re wearing too much.

Fragrances Women Love

For this article and video, our friends at Fulton & Roark sent us a range of different scents to explore and we’re going to give you a rundown on what we liked best when you should wear them. Each Fulton & Roark fragrance uses a blend of naturally sourced essential oils and premium fragrance ingredients and each cologne offers its own experience. These highly concentrated solid colognes offer a long-lasting and steady fragrance designed to keep you fresh. More subtle than liquid sprays, the solids aren’t as overwhelming (a huge pet peeve of ours!). The solid metal containers also travel easily in a gym bag, pocket or carry-on, allowing you to smell your best wherever and whenever.

In addition to a range of awesome scents, Fulton & Roark offers a handy and affordable tester kit so you can try all of their fragrances first. The tester kit is $16 but you also get a $16 credit back that’s good towards your first cologne purchase. Plus the kit ships for free. As a bonus for you guys, you can get 10% off your order with code ASHLEY.

Get your Fulton & Roark tester kit right here (plus 10% off)!

Here’s our rundown on all of the scents they offer plus when we think they’d be best for.

 

Hatteras

For us. the notes of lavender and hay just don’t go together in this one. It creates a bit of an overwhelming scent that wasn’t our favorite.

 

Shackleford

We loved this one and Ashley can’t stop smelling this scent. We liked the leather notes combined with some hints of dried fruit that creates a warm feeling. It’s captivating.

Best For: Fall/Winter

 

Tybee

Ashley loved the light, bright notes on this one which make it the perfect choice for the spring and summer months. You can smell the cedar notes which gives it a fresh, clean feeling while still being masculine.

Best For: Spring/Summer

 

Clearwater

This fragrance is light, but the green, mossy notes end up smelling a bit like chemicals. But, the citrus notes cut through those elements so you end up with a very nice scent that’s reminiscent of freshly-squeezed orange juice.

Best For: Spring/Summer

 

Captiva

 This scent is a bit overpowering for us. It almost had a sunscreen/spf scent that didn’t work for Ashley. This is one that could be heavily dependent on the wearer so while we recommend trying it for yourself, this one was a pass for us.

 

Sterling

This fragrance was another one we really loved. It’s a bit sweet due to the vanilla but still smells masculine with the tobacco & leather notes. Women will love this scent as it will make them want to cozy up to the man wearing this scent, which is why it’s the perfect winter fragrance.

Best For: Fall/Winter 

 

Palmetto

The magnolia notes remind us of the Spring and Summer months. It’s light and just smells really clean, especially with the cedar note you get at the end. We really liked this one.

Best For: Spring/Summer

 

Perpetua

For Ashley, there’s something about woodsy notes like cedar and mahogany that just smell really great on a man. This scent has those notes along with some citrus and floral notes that make this the perfect year-round scent.

Best For: Year-Round