Top Date Ideas

In this video and article, I wanted to discuss some of the best dates I’ve ever been on that are also budget-friendly and are enjoyable for both you and your date – no matter if they’re a long-term partner or you’ve recently met.

It doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship, taking someone out on a date is enjoyable for both of you and gives you the chance to enjoy each other’s company and get to know each other on a deeper level. Experiencing new things together, or introducing one another to new experiences is how you both grow as individuals and as a couple, so don’t neglect it!

For the first few dates, especially, you want to keep things lively and literally moving, otherwise there’s a chance to have some awkward quiet moments, which you want to avoid. It also shows that you know how to plan for an occasion, which my girlfriends and I find very telling about someone.

You’ll notice that most of these dates are incredibly cheap, but they’re also some of the best dates my girlfriends and I have been on. So keep that in mind. Now, don’t get me wrong, a beautiful meal at a high-end restaurant is also nice but it’s really not a deal breaker, or maker – for that matter.

A walk through a museum

Dorian and I’s first date was at the Natural History Museum. They have a few times in the year where they open it up at night and have cocktails and music and you can walk around the museum chatting and sipping a drink – it was a lot of fun and is definitely a great choice. Any decently sized museum, even quirky ones, will be great because you always have something new to comment on and discuss if the conversation lulls.

Stroll around a town center

Most towns have a little center or street with little stores, restaurants and coffee shops where you can grab a tea or coffee and just walk around and see what’s going on. Here in LA, we have a few of malls where they have parks and fountains in them that are great for a date. It’s actually very enjoyable to sit on a bench and chat and people watch.

If your city has a bike rental service and you’re both proficient riders, then that is also very fun to do as well. Dorian, who’s an experienced road cyclist, made me do this in Paris and it was so much more fun than I thought it would be. So that’s another great option.

Playing an easy-to-do sport

Going to a golf driving range or mini golf course is a blast, even if neither of you play, since it’s fun to watch each other struggle to hit the balls or sink the putt.

Bowling, while a little cliche, is also good, as long as your partner doesn’t have long nails – that’s when it’s no fun.

Botanical Gardens

Everyone can appreciate a beautiful garden on a nice day. Bring a chilled wine, if you’re allowed, or grab some tea or coffee and take a stroll through one. They normally have little placards by the plants, so you can read about the interesting ones together and discuss them.

Interactive meal

Korean BBQ or something like a Benihana is great because it requires you both to be engaged with either cooking the food or watching someone do it,  instead of just staring at each other the whole time.

Hiking

We’re lucky in LA in that the weather is good year round and we have really amazing hiking spots nearby, so an evening or morning hike is always fun and healthy at the same time! You can also out for a quick breakfast or dinner afterwards, if things are going well, too.

Fine Dining

This is kind of a no-brainer, but it’s still a good option from time to time. This really isn’t required for a first date, but definitely on dates where you’re interested in him or her and want to make it more known you’re serious about your intentions. This is also great for long-term relationships.

Call, text or email your date and tell them to be dressed in their best clothes and be ready at a certain time and then take them to a fine dining experience. Go outside your norm a little and read reviews about restaurants and find something that fits your budget but is classy.

Sporting Event

Dorian is a big baseball and hockey fan and before meeting him, I was neither of those. So for one of our first dates, he took me to a see an LA King’s hockey game and it was so much fun! Plus, as he told me while I was working on this story, he used the opportunity of explaining the rules to get a little closer to me without it being obvious or creepy.

Baseball is still a work in progress, but I’m slowly coming around. 🙂

Lounge or wine bar

If you’re a good conversationalist, you can do this as a first date. But if not, then wait until you’re a little more comfortable in each other’s presence and go to a wine bar or cocktail lounge. Just make sure it’s not a regular bar that blasts music or is showing sports – unless you’re both super into sports. Ideally, you want to keep it as classy as possible. Lots of candles and a little jazz music will make this even better and more romantic.

Dorian and I have a little french wine bar we loved to go to while we were dating and still go to this day. It’s all candle lit and so romantic,  we’d get a little plate of meats and cheeses and sip some wine and just talk about our days. I’m ready to go there now, actually!

 

Hope you enjoyed this article/video! Now go get ’em, tiger!

First Things A Woman Notices About A Man

My buddy Antonio, from the awesome RealMenRealStyle.com, recently published a video about the first 10 things a woman notices about a man & what attracts women to men (see it here: https://youtu.be/b44YuuSp0ac). In the comments, he asked if there were some things that he missed. Well, he did. So here’s the first few things a woman notices about a man – from a woman’s perspective.

Here’s a few videos/articles Antonio and I collaborated on, as well.

8. Scent

Your overall smell – body odor, cologne and breath. Your scent is an indication of how considerate you are of yourself and of others because being stinky, with body odor or assaulting people with your cologne is disgusting and rude.

7. Hair

The type of haircut and style you have, if it’s maintained and how clean your hair looks or is.

6. Your Hands

How groomed and clean your hands are. Fingernails, smooth/rough/warts/hairy/etc are all things a woman immediately notices.

5. Shoes

What shoes you’re wearing based on the occasion and how clean they are. They indicate a lot more about a man than he often thinks.

4. Personality

Whether we’re interacting or I’m observing you from afar – The way you interact with others and the way you carry yourself are all things we immediately notice. Are you well spoken? What’s your demeanor – funny, serious, shy, nice, well-mannered, rude, etc.? Women look past physical attributes, and I know men have a hard time understanding this sometimes because they’re more visual creatures, but women immediately go right past your physical looks to try and get the core of a man. A bad personality sours even the best looking of men.

3. Clothes

How put together you are, regardless of what style you’ve adapted, is a good indicator of the type of man you are. If your clothes are proportional to your body, then doesn’t matter what your body type is, it shows you care about yourself enough to have respect for your own appearance. So make sure your clothes fit properly, at least!

2. Smile

Antonio had this way further down on his list then I’d ever put it. Your smile is important because it can instantly make a woman feel welcomed and comfortable. On top of that, how clean and well your teeth look is another good insight into how a man conducts his life.

1. Face

This one is pretty obvious, but Antonio didn’t give this one enough credit, either. Your features, good or bad, and how you make the best of what you’ve been given is a big deal to women. Is your skin clean looking, facial hair kept in check, eyebrow, nose and ear hair groomed? These all tell us how well you treat yourself and understand that your appearance matters – to yourself and the ability to understand how to interact with the world.

 

I hope this was helpful!

5 Ways To End A Conversation That Work

Since we talked about 7 Conversation Starters That Actually Work last time there has been an overwhelming response by you guys out there for us to do an article about how to end a conversation. I have my fiancé Dorian joining me again as we go over the 5 ways to end a conversation.

The goal is to end the conversation gracefully and to not be patronizing to the person you are having a conversation with.

1. “It was nice to meet you”

or “It was great chatting with you.” This is called the roadblock. I use this one constantly whenever I’m in a conversation I want to get out of, or the person is not allowing me to talk in a conversation or are just rambling.

2. “I’m just going to go say hi to the host. It was nice to meet you.”

3.“Have you met…”

If someone I know comes by and I want to get out of the conversation, I’ll grab them, introduce them to the person, let them say their pleasantries and then excuse myself and just never come back.

4. “I’ve got to X, but it was really great chatting with you.”

You can say anything from – grab another drink, grab some food, or use the restroom.

5.“I’ve got to take this.”

No one can tell if your phone is on vibrate.

7 Awesome Conversation Starters That Don’t Suck

Being a great conversationalist can be challenging, but the hardest part and often overlooked is the way to get INTO a conversation in the first place. You’d never walk up to someone out of the blue and ask them “What’s happening”, you already know exactly what’s happening ‘cus you’re at the same f#$ckin place! It drives me nuts when I see articles and videos peddling horrible advice like this because I have struggled with this in the past.

I want to show you how to actually start a conversation and show you the best opening topics. The goal of any great conversation is to find common ground. So you just start fishing for it, basically.

7. “Do you know where the restroom/bar/food is?”

You just need a way into a conversation, so this is the easiest opening. From there, you can talk about how hard “X” was to find.

6. “So where are you from?”

This applies to someone if they don’t seem like they’re from around here, but if you’re not sure, then you can default to “Hey! Are you from around here?” Whatever they’re answer may be, you now can talk about where they’re from or the city you both live in.

5. “That looks good. What is that? Where did you get that?”

If they’re eating or drinking something – this a great way to start talking with someone.

4. “I really like X (something they’re wearing). Who makes it or where did you get it?”

Similar to #5. Everyone loves being complimented. It makes them instantly let their guard down and then you can follow up with one of the next few conversation starters.

3. “What was the best part of your day today?”

In any kind of setting, this is an opening that will get you remembered. It can catch someone off guard at first, but then they’ll think about what an interesting and pleasant question that was.

2. “What brought you here today/tonight/etc?”

If you’re at a bar or an event that’s not hosted by someone specifically, then this is a great question to find common ground.

1. “So how do you know the host?”

This is my go-to conversation opener. If you’re at an event or party, you can always use the host as an excuse to learn about the people there.

8 Things You Should Never Say To Women

My sister, Scarlett, and I talk about the 8 Things You Should Never Say To Women, unless, of course, you want to be in hot water, ignored or made fun of later with our girlfriends. And these apply to men no matter your relationship status, so if you’re married, single, in a relationship, pansexual, asexual, etc. just don’t say these things to any of the girls in your life. Thanks!

 

1. Why are you so serious?

Other similar winners: Why aren’t you smiling? or the other gem: C’mon, girl – smile for me. 

Because I’m not smiling means that I’m serious?

2. You look different.

If you’d like to know what’s different, ask us something specific like, “Did you get a haircut?”. We’ll probably say no and then tell you what it is, if anything. At least then it doesn’t sound so bad.

3. Is something wrong?

Or similar questions like: Is everything okay?; Did I do something wrong?

Something is about to be wrong if you ask me that again.

4. Why are you wearing that?

Just… don’t.

5. Why won’t you talk to me?

Or the equally stupid follow-up: Am I not good enough for you?

By asking this question, you effectively just made me not want to talk to you and definitely showed yourself to not be good enough for me.

6. Are you having fun?

AKA: You don’t look like you’re having a good time; Why are you so quiet?

This question just killed any fun I was having. Thanks!

7. You look stressed.

Alternates: You look tired; You look upset.

These stupid statements are stressing me out – that’s all!

8. Why’s a girl like you still single?

Or the ever-popular: Where’s your boyfriend, he doesn’t like showing you off?

Just buck up and ask if I’m single – I’ll tell you.