How To Deal With Rejection

Rejection is a part of life, both personally and professionally. We all face it and it’s unavoidable. But, it’s also a great learning opportunity.  Whether it’s about your self-confidence or how you interact with people, what’s important is how you learn to get over it and what you take away from it.  Believe it or not, it takes some practice but learning how to deal with rejection comes down to 5 simple factors.

Accept It

Know that it’s a part of your romantic life and you will have to deal with it. The sooner you accept it and know that you will grow stronger from it the less power fear will have over you.

Learn From It

Make sure you take away something from the rejection. Whether it’s learning from a mistake you made or that a particular someone wasn’t right for you, rejection can be a powerful learning experience.

Give It Time

Getting over rejection takes time, so be patient. Focus on yourself – your health, fitness, mental strength and you’ll emerge stronger and better.  Don’t beat yourself up after a short period of time, time heals all, as the old saying goes.

It’s Not The End Of The World

Yes, it’s a terrible cliche but it’s absolutely true.  Lean on your support group of friends and family and try to take a step back and look at the big picture.  Every person you probably admire has been rejected and moved on to do great things and you can too!

Get Rejected More Often

Getting rejected more often is actually a good tool. It actually makes it easier to deal with and helps you understand and move on more quickly.  Also, getting rejected means you’re taking risks and living life to the fullest.

8 Words Men Use That Women Hate

How you speak and the words you use say a TON about who you are and how women will perceive you. Using the wrong words can really be detrimental to how you come across, especially to the opposite sex.  Are you using any of these 8 Words Men Use That Women Hate?

8 Words Men Use That Women Hate

  1. Bro/Dude – Sure, we all use these, but be aware of how often and in what situations. To many “bros” or “dudes” can just make you seem immature.

  2. Smash/Bang – Any childish or over-the-top reference to sex just makes you seem like an amateur.

  3. C-Word / Bitch / Slut – It should go without saying that anything sexist or misogynistic, even if you think you are “joking”, is never, ever a good look.

  4. Relax/Calm Down – There is a right way and a wrong way to use these words, they can come off as insensitive and condescending, a huge red flag in your communication skills.

  5. Gay – Never ok, even in a joking or casual way.

  6. Racial Slurs – The same goes for these, no woman ever, ever wants to hear or can appreciate any kind of slur.

  7. Any joke/comment about a woman’s period – Want to instantly put yourself in the dog house? Make one of these tasteless jokes or condescend to a woman about what she’s going through during PMS.

  8. Babe/Sweetie/Missy/Sweetheart – Sure, using these in the appropriate loving/kind way with a close friend or significant other is totally acceptable. But in the wrong situation, at work/in professional situations, for example, it comes off as disrespectful and condescending.

10 Things Guys Do On Social Media That Women Hate

We all live our lives on social media, but that doesn’t mean you have to have annoying habits.  So, we say, enough is enough!

In this video we’re running through some of the worst social media fails, are you doing any of these 10 Things Men Do On Social Media That Women Hate?

Things Guys Do On Social Media That Women Hate

  1. Taking too many selfies

  2. Fronting on social media

  3. Always talking about your struggles, or how hard you work

  4. Ranting about politics and negativity

  5. Not responding to messages in a timely manner

  6. Posting pictures with a bunch of different women

  7. Being totally open and confessional online

  8. Posting drunk pics or videos constantly

  9. Live-posting your entire life all the damn time

  10. Following too many “Instagram models”

7 Tips To Be A Better Conversationalist

Being a good conversationalist can help you in all aspects of life from socially to professionally, and since we’ve mentioned how important this skill is in other videos, we thought we’d break it down to the key points.

1. Listen

It actually starts with not talking at all. Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time or working a crowded room or bar, listening will help you be more engaged with others which will, in turn, make the conversation flow much more easily and make it a better experience for everyone else.

2. Be Genuine

Starting with a friendly, genuine interest in others is an important foundation to becoming a better conversationalist.

3. Be Complimentary

Giving someone a thoughtful and genuine compliment (but not too over the top) will instantly put them at ease and make them more comfortable in the situation.

4. Practice Makes Perfect

Just like with many other things in life, the more you practice your conversation skills, the more confident and comfortable you’ll be in your skills.

5. Know How To Start A Conversation

It can just be as simple as introducing yourself and asking simple questions. If you’re in a social setting, keep it simple.  You can even practice a few basic questions for any type of setting so you’ll always feel prepared and relaxed. For more conversation starters, check out this video.

6. Keep The Conversation Going

Back to asking questions and being genuine, simply being engaged and thoughtful will help any conversation progress organically.

7. Know How To End One Too

Ending a conversation politely is just as important.  You want to make sure the other people involved don’t feel ditched. So be friendly but direct, your delivery will determine how everyone else feels after you’ve left.

Give these tips a shot and make sure to practice and you’ll hone your conversation skills in no time!

5 Conversation Topics Women Hate

Whether it’s in a dating scenario or socially at a party or event, small talk and conversation skills are things that take practice to master. Outside of feeling comfortable with yourself, knowing what not to talk about is super important if you’re going to hit it off well and just generally be someone fun and interesting to be around. So do yourself a favor, make sure you’re not bringing up any of these major no-no’s when chatting up the next women you meet.

Politics

Let’s not sugar coat it, we’re living in divisive times and no matter what side of the fence you’re on, bringing up politics on a first date or in a social setting is an absolutely huge “NO”. Just don’t do it.

Your Ex

No matter what type of dating scenario you’re in when you first meet someone, no woman wants to hear you go on an on about how great (or terrible) your ex was. Yes, there’s a time and a place to discuss past relationships but the first few dates or conversations is definitely not one of them.

Religion

Just like politics, we’re living in complex times and religion can be a very personal thing. You want your social and dating conversations to be light, fun, and interesting, not heavy and serious. Hold off on the religion talk until well into a relationship.

Work

Yes, of course, talking about what you do for a living is perfectly normal and natural. BUT, a minute or two is enough! We don’t want to hear you go on and on about your job, how you “crush it”, “close deals” or whatever else, it’s boring, move on.

Yourself

Yup, I said it. So yes, talking about yourself in the right way is critical, but it’s how you do it that matters. Do we want to learn more about what makes you unique and cool? Yes, absolutely. But do we want to hear you go on and on about your car, how much money you make, or how big your house is? Hell no. Confidence is great but being self-involved and arrogant is a huge turn-off.

How To Talk To Women

Maybe it’s easy for some, but for a lot of men approaching and talking to women can be a big challenge. Since we get asked about this topic a ton, we thought we’d discuss our favorite tips on how to talk to women confidently and successfully.  Whether you’re meeting a woman for the first time or you’re headed out on a date, understanding and practicing these tips are sure to give you a big boost with the ladies!

 

How To Understand A Woman’s Body Language

Sure, we women are full of mysteries, (just ask Dorian), but knowing a thing or two about body language can really help you figure out some of those mysteries.  Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time or are enjoying her company on a date, there are some subtle things she may or may not be doing that can tell you a lot about whether or not she likes you.  As humans, we react in unconscious ways based on how we feel, and knowing a little bit about these cues and how to react accordingly can really help you out along the way.

 

#1 – A lingering glance

What it means: “I like what I see.”

Before you’ve even met someone you may be able to figure out how much they’re interested in you.  If you catch eyes with someone and they give you a lingering look or don’t immediately turn away, chances are they like what they see.  Don’t wait, now’s your chance to go say hi!

#2 – Hair fixing/outfit brushing

What it means: “I know you’re checking me out.”

Unconscious outfit or hair touching and fixing is another great sign that someone you’ve been checking out is aware and ready to reciprocate. These slight movements or subtle means of indicating self-consciousness often happen as someone is indicating they want to look their best for someone else who is potentially interested. Another good sign that you’re off to a great start.

#3 – Arm or shoulder touching

What it means: “I’m testing boundaries (and I’d like you to reciprocate).”

If you’ve made the move and have initiated conversation with someone, subtle touching is a huge cue for interest and attraction.  The other person obviously feels comfortable around you and naturally feels compelled to touch you.  Subtle touches to your arm or shoulder in a playful way are a means to break down physical boundaries, so take that as a great sign! Don’t let the moment pass either, basic reciprocation is definitely something she’s encouraging you to do so she knows you feel the same level of interest.

#4 – Shying away from you

What it means: “Sorry buddy, I’m just not that into you.”

On the opposite side of the spectrum, you want to be conscious of ways she may react that could indicate that she’s not really feeling it. Turning away or looking away as you initiate contact and interest could mean she’s not interested and doesn’t feel that level of comfort around you in order to reciprocate. It doesn’t mean she’s feeling negative, just that she isn’t romantically interested. If that happens, don’t worry, simply politely move on like the gentleman you are, there are plenty of other women out there.

#5 – Smiling with no teeth showing

What it means: “I’m bored and humoring you.”

Obviously big smiles mean good things, but sometimes it’s more about a person still feeling unsure but wanting to remain polite.  If you’re getting smiles but they don’t seem to be of the obvious variety it probably means you’re on the right track but you’ve still got some work to do in terms of making her feel comfortable and interested. Change up the topic and see if she still keeps giving you this type of smile. If this goes on long enough, it’s not a good sign.

#6 – Arms folded and touching biceps

What it means: “I don’t want to talk you at all.”

Again, arms crossed is a pretty obvious sign things aren’t going well but if she’s got her hands touching her biceps she’s definitely feeling a lot of discomfort, displeasure, or is upset. Take this as a sign that it may be time to end the conversation or address what’s going on directly but sensitively.  Who knows, maybe it was an inadvertent mistake on your part or there’s something going on that’s unrelated to you entirely.  Be compassionate and upfront, you never really know what’s going on until you ask. Alternatively, if it’s obvious she’s not in a good place it may not be worth your time, and as we said before, there are plenty of other wonderful people out there.