5 Most Common Hair Styling Mistakes Men Make and How to Fix Them

Over the years, while working with my clients, I’ve learned a lot of great tips from their hair stylists when it comes to getting the perfect hairstyle. So with their help, I put together this list of the 5 most common hair styling mistakes men make and how to fix them. I also thought it would be fun to have my friend, Jordan O’Brien from The Gentleman’s Cove Youtube Channel, give his awesome input about these hair styling mistakes since he’s kind of awesome with hair.

 

Mistake 1: Selecting the wrong hairstyle

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1) Won’t work for your hair type

So maybe you really love a certain hairstyle, and you want to replicate it on yourself. Unfortunately, trying to style your hair like someone who has a different hair type than yours will result in something that never looks quite right.

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You really need to be honest with yourself when choosing a haircut based on the type of hair you have and take your barber/hairstylist’s advice.

2) Choosing a hairstyle that doesn’t fit your lifestyle

If you’re opposed to using a blow dryer, you are probably not going to want to choose a pompadour or quiff, as they usually require some time with the blow dryer in order to get the necessary volume.

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If you don’t want to spend a lot of time styling your hair, then don’t choose a high maintenance haircut and get something more in-line with the time you’re willing to put in with your hair. 

Mistake 2: Using the wrong product

Using the wrong product will often result in not getting the look or hold you want.  For example, when men with fine or thinning hair use gel or pomades in their styling routine — big mistake. Gel clumps your hair together and reveals more of scalp, making the hair look even thinner. A lot of men will keep adding more and more product, even when it’s not designed for the style you want to accomplish. Another big mistake.

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For thinning hair, use mousses, matte texture pastes and conditioners to provide fluff that is more natural.

If the look or hold isn’t up to your standards, the worst thing you can do is double the quantity of product used. Start with a small amount of product and add a little more, if necessary. If that doesn’t work, then you’ve got to find a better product that’s designed for your hair type and style.

Mistake 3: Going too long between haircuts

The longer you go without a haircut, the longer your hair becomes and the more difficult it is to style your hair properly, which usually results in having to use a lot more product.

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A fresh cut can instantly give you a put-together look, and the more it becomes part of your regular grooming routine, the fewer styling products you’ll usually need.

Mistake 4: Not using product properly

Start with HALF the amount of product of what you think you need, then apply to your hair. You can always add more, but if you put too much, it all goes downhill from there and you’ll either have to wash your hair and start over or use a lot of dry shampoo to get it back to a semi-normal hairstyle.

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To really activate a hair product and apply it effectively you need to:

1) Heat it up in your hands by rubbing them together so it warms up and then distributes easily into your hair.
2) Then, using the the full surface area of both your hands, work in the product starting from the root.

As a general rule of thumb, creams and paste should go into hair when it is damp. Pomades or softer waxes should go in when hair is dry.

Mistake 5: Not washing well

Not washing well and using quality products. Can you get away with using the drugstore 2-in-1 products? Maybe, but all the hairstylists I talked to said this is the one thing that guys overlook that has a big impact on being able to style your hair properly. It’s like putting low-grade gasoline into a rocket ship – it won’t work well.

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Take at least 2 minutes to really scrub your hair and massage your scalp. Your scalp needs to be stimulated and massaged to get the blood flowing into the area and keep the best version of your hair growing long into your life, which also means your hair will be more manageable and easier to style.

And as for quality products, it’s really going to make a huge difference after you’re done showering and when it’s time to style your hair. If you don’t believe me, you’ll only know what I’m talking about when you try.

I’ve included some great shampoos and conditioners that are best for your hair type that my hairstylist friends highly recommended. If you’re using products not designed for your hair type then you really won’t see the benefit that I’m talking about.

Thinning Hair

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$34 – Nioxin System 1 Cleanser & Scalp Therapy Duo Set
$20 – Paul Mitchell Tea Tree Special Shampoo
$20 – Paul Mitchell Tea Tree Special Conditioner 
$20 – Redken Cerafill Retaliate Shampoo
$20 – Redken Cerafill Retaliate Conditioner 

Fine Hair

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$78 – Kevin Murphy Stimulate Me Rinse and Wash Duo Set 
$34 – Lush Veganese Conditioner
$14 – Bain de Terre Green Tea Thickening Conditioner 
$12 – Bain de Terre Green Tea Thickening Shampoo 

Curly or Coarse Hair

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$40 – New Wash Hairstory
$21 – Kérastase Discipline Bain Fluidealiste Shampoo
$21 – Kérastase Fondant Fluidealiste Conditioner  
$18 – Ouidad Curl Quencher Moisturizing Conditione
$16 – Ouidad Curl Quencher Moisturizing Shampoo 

Normal Hair (Straight or Wavy)

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$90 – Kevin Murphy Hydrate Me Wash and Rise Duo Set
$30 – Mister Pompadour Peppermint Shower Experience 
$24 – Moroccan Oil Hydrating Conditioner
$23 – Moroccan Oil Hydrating Shampoo

Top 4 Shoes For Spring Men

Top 4 Men’s Shoes for Spring

These are the top 4 men’s shoes for Spring that I really love. You’re probably not going to wear these with your Fall and Winter wardrobe, so it’s time to pull these shoes out of your closet and let them shine! Footwear is a great way to inject new life in your existing wardrobe, and these 4 shoes will make a stylish statement during Spring and Summer. 

Here are my top 4 favorite shoes for Spring:

4. Suede Double Monk Straps

I included these in my Top 10 Essential Items for Spring as well. Suede Monkstraps, whether you get a dark brown, grey, or navy pair, can just take an outfit to another level. It’s such a stylish touch to any outfit and can be worn with a suit, chinos, or jeans. Make sure to Scotch Guard them before you wear them for the first time – always gotta protect your suede items!

 

$685 – Crockett & Jones Lowndes Espresso Calf Suede
$398 – Brooks Brothers Suede Double Monk Strap
$275 – Crosby Square Conley Double Monk Strap (Espresso and Navy)
$80 – H&M Suede Monkstrap Shoes

3. Penny Loafers

I absolutely love penny loafers. They look so good when worn with no-show socks and a little bit of ankle exposed. Whether you cuff your jeans or chinos, or hem your pants so there’s no break or a little ankle showing. A leather loafer looks so chic and luxurious. I love Ferragamo’s loafers (I got a pair for my fiancé Dorian 2 or 3 years ago) and they’re totally worth the price because they definitely hold up and still look great after years and years of wear.

Penny Loafers

$760 – Ferragamo Penny Loafer Shoe
$185 – Johnston & Murphy Stratton Penny

2. Suede Driving Shoes

Think of them as the middle ground between sneakers and penny loafers. They’re just as comfortable as sneakers, yet dressier like a penny loafer. I also included these in my Men’s Summer Essentials ebook because they work during the warmer months in general.

My hands down, favorite suede driving shoe is from Tod’s. Everything about that shoe – construction, design, and color choice – is so damn sexy and incredible. It’s worth every penny, and there is no close second for me.

 

$475 – Tod’s Gommino Driving Shoe (in brown, navy, and grey)
$115 – Jack Erwin Parker Driving Loafer (in navy, chocolate, caramel)

1. Navy or Grey Sneakers (Canvas or Leather)

Outside of your white sneakers, I love a great navy or grey low top sneaker. They’re neutral colors so you can wear them with everything you have and they definitely won’t get dirty quickly.

If you want to splurge, Common Projects makes my favorite sneakers and a close second are by Lanvin.

 

$570 – Lanvin Shiny Cap Toe Sneaker (in navy or grey)
$509 – Common Projects Achilles Low Premium in Grey (or navy suede)
$75 – Converse JP Jack Sneaker (leather)
$65 – Converse Jack Purcell Ox Sneaker (canvas)

Top 12 Turn Ons for Women

Before I begin, I want you to take notice of the fact that this list will not mention anything about attractiveness, because, to a woman, it’s obviously something we like, but it’s not a deal-breaker requirement for most women and it’s not the only thing that can turn us on. So let’s get into the things that EVERY man does or can do that turns women on.

1. Decisiveness

2. Prompt & Punctual

3. Well-Mannered

Has good manners (i.e. holds door open for a woman, knows to not eat before a woman/others at the table, polite to others). You’d be surprised how uncommon a well-mannered man is.

4. Smiles a Lot

This indicates a man is friendly.

5. Good sense of humor

6. Maintain a nice conversation

7. Good Listener

8. Stable

A man who has his finances in order and keeps good relationships with family and/or friends.

9. Confident

Being confident in yourself and everything you do is a huge turn on for women. This can make up for lacking in the good looks department.

10. Constant Learner

11. Takes Care of Himself

i.e. grooming, healthy lifestyle habits, being well-dressed.

12. Ambitious & Passionate

In all that you do, including your career.

21 Things Men Should Never Wear

In this video, I talk about the 21 things men should never wear! These are the things that’ll curl your toenails, and offend even your grandmother. Just don.do.it.

 

1. Gaudy Rings & Pinky Rings

2. Too Much Cologne
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3. Socks with Sandals

4. Sandals In General

5. Shorts That Go Past Your Knees

6. Old dirty shoes
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7. Cartoon printed boxers

8. T-Shirts with Brand Logos

9. Baggy, Ill-Fitting Clothing

10. Tank Tops
Tank Tops

11. Skinny Jeans

12. Pointy & Square-Toed Shoes

13. Deep V-Neck T-Shirts
Vneck

14. Big, Square, or Monogrammed Belt Buckles

15. Leather Bracelets

16. Elongated Shirts

17. Soul Patch
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18. Crocs

19. Earrings and Facial Rings

20. Short-Sleeve Sweaters

21. Dress Shoes with Tennis Shoe Soles

5 Most Attractive Men’s Hairstyles Women Love

In this article and video, I wanted to discuss the 5 Most Attractive Men’s Hairstyles That Women Love. I’m always amazed to see content like this that’s done by men, talking about what women love, which doesn’t really make sense since these are dudes, not women, talking about the best hairstyles for men according to women. It seems a little counter-intuitive to me. The ultimate goal of your hairstyle should be having a woman want to run her fingers through it, regardless of the type or quantity of hair you have. So let’s get into the 5 favorites.

 

1. New Pompadour

It’s a modern take on the classic Pompadour (make this a link to a classic pompadour pic) but there’s still going to be that signature volume on top. I find this hairstyle very sexy, especially when the hair’s finger-combed back so that it looks a little “piecey” and not so perfect – every woman will want to run her hands through your hair.

Characteristics of the New Pompadour

  • When the cut is tight and tapered on the sides, but longer and textured on the top.
  • The top will be either swept back, like the James Dean picture below OR back and to the side, like the Justin Timberlake picture. You’ll maintain this direction and high volume on top with a blow dryer and some wax or pomade.

2. Freeman’s Cut (Undercut)

When I see this hairstyle on a man, I instantly think he must be a badass and could give two shits. This haircut isn’t for someone who wants to blend in, so it’s actually a really easy way to fake being cool, or add a dimension of personality that women will be attracted to.

Characteristics of the Freeman

  • When the hair is cut really short (using a 1 or 2 on your clippers) or shaved on the sides and back of your head, but left about 2-4 inches longer on top.
  • The top of your hair is going to be swept straight back. The styling is really quick and easy.

3. The Crew Cut

This haircut is also known as the “Ivy League Cut.” It always looks great and is super low maintenance, so it’s a favorite of a lot of men, and I don’t blame them.

Characteristics of a Crew Cut

  • Tight on the sides with a natural fade of the sideburns and back of the head. The top will be a little bit longer and even length across the whole top of the head.
  • In terms of styling, there’s really not much to do except brushing the top front area up.

4. The Quiff

  1. There’s lots of different variations of the quiff, from short to longer versions, and a cleaner, more controlled styling to a messier, tousled look. This is another haircut that makes me want to run my hands through your hair. I love when it’s styled a little messy because it looks really sexy, masculine and cool.

Characteristics of the Quiff

  • When the top of your hair is on the longer side and the sides and back can vary in length but it should always be kept shorter than the top so there’s a definitive contrast.
  • This kind of haircut will work perfectly on men who have naturally curly or wavy hair.
  • To achieve the volume on top you’ll want to blow dry the top of your hair and then add some styling product to push the hair back and to the side.

5. Classic Businessman

Also known as the Don Draper haircut from Mad Men, it’s a classic taper haircut with a side part hairstyle. I love this timeless and formal hairstyle which looks great in all settings.

Characteristics of the Businessman

  • The top is left up to 2 inches long and the sides and back are tapered with scissors or hair clippers.
  • To get the hairstyle, take your hair product of choice and run it through your hair while it’s still damp. Take your comb and create your side part. Then create a small wave on the front of your hair by combing your bangs up and back towards either side. Comb back the sides of your hair.
  • If you want a little messier than use your fingers as a comb when pushing the top of your hair to the back towards the either side.
  • If you want a wet finish, use a pomade with a bit of shine to it.

6 Strange Ways To Be More Attractive to Women

I see a lot of videos and articles of men telling other men what women find attractive and some of it’s true on their best day, but a lot of these lists are completely wrong on their average day. So I talked with all my female friends and we came up with a list of 6 strange ways men can be more attractive.

 

Stop saying ‘Maybe’

Whenever you’re making appointments, don’t say, “Do you maybe want to grab drinks or dinner?” Instead, take charge and be more direct – “Let’s grab drinks!”

Witty and Sarcastic Humor

Even if the humor is a little mean-spirited, but not directed towards us, we’ll find you more attractive due to your sharp wit.

Roll up your sleeves

If you’re wearing a long-sleeved shirt, I’m talking about literally rolling up your sleeves in front of us. Our eyes will instantly go to your forearm which we find very sexy.

Good w/ kids & elderly

Women are always going to find this attractive because it’s show us what kind of partner and family man you’ll be in the future.

Not always available

It’s good to be available, but just don’t be so available. We respect a man who has a busy schedule and isn’t always free to hang out at the drop of the hat.

Not ashamed of hobbies

Women find it very endearing when a man gets really excited about a quirky hobby or similar things that you wouldn’t have guessed by looking at him. Just don’t go over the line with something creepy like, My Little Pony.

8 Things You Should Never Say To Women

My sister, Scarlett, and I talk about the 8 Things You Should Never Say To Women, unless, of course, you want to be in hot water, ignored or made fun of later with our girlfriends. And these apply to men no matter your relationship status, so if you’re married, single, in a relationship, pansexual, asexual, etc. just don’t say these things to any of the girls in your life. Thanks!

 

1. Why are you so serious?

Other similar winners: Why aren’t you smiling? or the other gem: C’mon, girl – smile for me. 

Because I’m not smiling means that I’m serious?

2. You look different.

If you’d like to know what’s different, ask us something specific like, “Did you get a haircut?”. We’ll probably say no and then tell you what it is, if anything. At least then it doesn’t sound so bad.

3. Is something wrong?

Or similar questions like: Is everything okay?; Did I do something wrong?

Something is about to be wrong if you ask me that again.

4. Why are you wearing that?

Just… don’t.

5. Why won’t you talk to me?

Or the equally stupid follow-up: Am I not good enough for you?

By asking this question, you effectively just made me not want to talk to you and definitely showed yourself to not be good enough for me.

6. Are you having fun?

AKA: You don’t look like you’re having a good time; Why are you so quiet?

This question just killed any fun I was having. Thanks!

7. You look stressed.

Alternates: You look tired; You look upset.

These stupid statements are stressing me out – that’s all!

8. Why’s a girl like you still single?

Or the ever-popular: Where’s your boyfriend, he doesn’t like showing you off?

Just buck up and ask if I’m single – I’ll tell you.

12 Things Men Wear That Women Love

I see so many videos and articles of men telling other men the things men wear that women find sexy, except, last time I checked, they weren’t a woman. So I polled all my female friends and came up with an actual list of 12 things that men wear that women actually love – by women.

 

  1. Well-Fitting Suit

  2. T-Shirt

  3. Dark Wash Jeans

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  4. Sportcoat

  5. Casual Jacket

  6. White Dress Shirt

  7. Crewneck Sweater

  8. V-Neck Sweater

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  9. Lace-up Dress Shoes

  10. Casual Lace-up Boots

  11. Dress Watch

  12. Tie Bar