Top 6 Habits Of Attractive Men

Sure, not everyone is blessed with flawless cheekbones, a superhero body, or a million-dollar smile, but attractiveness is much more than just physical appearance.  If you look at some of the most attractive men on the planet there’s a whole lot more that goes into what makes them attractive, and many of these things are habits and behaviors that you too can adopt to make yourself more attractive.  It’s more simple than you think and I’m going to break it all down for you.

#1 – Have a consistent grooming routine

Maybe it seems obvious, but a clean, well-groomed man is always going to appear attractive and it also shows you care about yourself.  It doesn’t have to mean a complicated routine and fancy products either, just put some effort into how you look, smell, and groom and you’re in great shape.

#2 – Cultivate approachability

How you present yourself physically to the world with your body language can convey a ton of attractiveness. So, stand upright, uncross your arms, smile frequently, and make eye contact with those around you, you’ll instantly appear more friendly, approachable, and people will want to get to know you.

#3 – A consistent physical regimen

Some of us have been blessed and some of us haven’t, but either way, taking care of yourself physically goes a long way, and well past just what your body looks like physically.  Proper exercise and fitness contributes to overall physical and mental well-being, boosts confidence, and helps with stress, all important factors that will boost your attractiveness to everyone around you.

#4 – Mental health routines

Cultivating a strong mind is just as important as working on your physique.  Confidence comes from a variety of sources and it takes work to get to a good place with yourself.  Everyone is different, but solid mental health habits based around proper sleep, meditation, journaling and even regular therapist visits will help you build and maintain a strong sense of self and confidence.

#5 – Be complimentary

Everyone loves to be complimented, it instantly disarms people and makes them feel good when they’re around you, and make no mistake, people always remember how you make them feel. Take care to make sure you’re always genuine though, nobody likes fakeness.

#6 – Be well-mannered

It’s a simple thing, but there’s a reason your mom always wanted you to remember your manners. People really notice when you say “please” and “thank you”, when you’re being gracious, opening the door for others, and not talking with your mouth full. You’ll become memorable (and attractive) for the right reasons and a pleasure to be around.

So, as you can see, everyone, and I mean everyone, can be more attractive, no matter what you look like.  It just takes the right habits, some self-care, and a genuine desire to be the best you can be.

10 Ways You’re Rejecting Women Without Even Knowing It

Whether you know it or not, you there are some things you may (or may not) be doing that have a profound effect on how women respond to you. In fact, you may be rejecting or turning off women in a big way, even before you’ve had a chance to get to know or even talk to them. Which mistakes are you making? Check out these 10 ways you’re rejecting women without even knowing it!

 

10. Not looking or smelling clean

It may go without saying but it still bears repeating. Dirty fingernails, unkempt hair, bad breath, wrinkled, ill-fitting clothing and even too much cologne can all kill any chance you have with the opposite sex before you even say a word.

9. Poor table manners and etiquette

It’s pretty simple really, a lack of manners is a huge turn-off. Not waiting for others to be served before eating, talking with your mouth full, and a general lack of respect for others demonstrates how little you care about the world around you, and the people in it.

8. Lack of eye contact

Eye contact is a huge indicator of confidence and respect, plus it’s just awkward when your eyes are wandering. If you’re on the shy side it may take some practice to be comfortable with making eye contact but trust me, it’s worth doing what it takes to improve your skills.

7. Bad body language

Stand-offish body language or unwelcoming expressions can just make someone feel uncomfortable and unwanted so be mindful of things like crossing your arms, how you hold yourself, sitting or standing. Don’t be afraid to smile, it goes a long way in making people feel comfortable and attracted to you.

6. Poor conversation skills

Interrupting, being combative or overly aggressive just makes anyone your speaking with feel defensive and nervous, so make sure you’re relaxed and friendly, no matter how passionate you get about a subject. It’s also important to consider how you start and end a conversation too, it’s easy to shoot yourself in the foot if you’re not careful.

5. Inappropriate conversations

Tact is an important and subtle thing, so know your surroundings and the situation. Being overtly sexual, talking about exes, talking down to people, excessive boasting or talking about yourself too much are major negatives and no woman wants to hear it. For more advice, check out my piece on things you should never say to a woman.

4. Uncomfortably cheap

Look, being strict about a budget and financially responsible is a great thing but pushing it too far, especially around others can make you look bad and force others into situations they don’t want to be in.

3. Lack of punctuality

Sure, we all have our moments of lateness but there’s no quicker way to make someone feel disrespected than to be excessively late or not care about timeframes. Plus, all it takes is a simple, genuine apology if you are late to let someone know you aren’t totally self-centered.

2. Sending the wrong message

If you’re interested in the woman, ask her about herself. Then if things go well, be a man and ask her if she’d like to have a drink or dinner with you. Playing games, trying to be too cool, or not being straightforward, these things aren’t attractive in any way and just let her know you’re not someone worth spending time with.

1. Negging

Any woman with half a brain sees this amateur move a mile away and immediately writes a guy off for an easy rejection. As we mentioned previously, being genuine and straightforward lets her know you’re a confident gentleman, not a game-player.

The good news is, many of these are easy to fix, so take honest stock of yourself and interact with women. It doesn’t hurt to ask someone you trust for some feedback too.  Like many other situations in life, good things come from caring about some of the most simple things.

Top Date Ideas

In this video and article, I wanted to discuss some of the best dates I’ve ever been on that are also budget-friendly and are enjoyable for both you and your date – no matter if they’re a long-term partner or you’ve recently met.

It doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship, taking someone out on a date is enjoyable for both of you and gives you the chance to enjoy each other’s company and get to know each other on a deeper level. Experiencing new things together, or introducing one another to new experiences is how you both grow as individuals and as a couple, so don’t neglect it!

For the first few dates, especially, you want to keep things lively and literally moving, otherwise there’s a chance to have some awkward quiet moments, which you want to avoid. It also shows that you know how to plan for an occasion, which my girlfriends and I find very telling about someone.

You’ll notice that most of these dates are incredibly cheap, but they’re also some of the best dates my girlfriends and I have been on. So keep that in mind. Now, don’t get me wrong, a beautiful meal at a high-end restaurant is also nice but it’s really not a deal breaker, or maker – for that matter.

A walk through a museum

Dorian and I’s first date was at the Natural History Museum. They have a few times in the year where they open it up at night and have cocktails and music and you can walk around the museum chatting and sipping a drink – it was a lot of fun and is definitely a great choice. Any decently sized museum, even quirky ones, will be great because you always have something new to comment on and discuss if the conversation lulls.

Stroll around a town center

Most towns have a little center or street with little stores, restaurants and coffee shops where you can grab a tea or coffee and just walk around and see what’s going on. Here in LA, we have a few of malls where they have parks and fountains in them that are great for a date. It’s actually very enjoyable to sit on a bench and chat and people watch.

If your city has a bike rental service and you’re both proficient riders, then that is also very fun to do as well. Dorian, who’s an experienced road cyclist, made me do this in Paris and it was so much more fun than I thought it would be. So that’s another great option.

Playing an easy-to-do sport

Going to a golf driving range or mini golf course is a blast, even if neither of you play, since it’s fun to watch each other struggle to hit the balls or sink the putt.

Bowling, while a little cliche, is also good, as long as your partner doesn’t have long nails – that’s when it’s no fun.

Botanical Gardens

Everyone can appreciate a beautiful garden on a nice day. Bring a chilled wine, if you’re allowed, or grab some tea or coffee and take a stroll through one. They normally have little placards by the plants, so you can read about the interesting ones together and discuss them.

Interactive meal

Korean BBQ or something like a Benihana is great because it requires you both to be engaged with either cooking the food or watching someone do it,  instead of just staring at each other the whole time.

Hiking

We’re lucky in LA in that the weather is good year round and we have really amazing hiking spots nearby, so an evening or morning hike is always fun and healthy at the same time! You can also out for a quick breakfast or dinner afterwards, if things are going well, too.

Fine Dining

This is kind of a no-brainer, but it’s still a good option from time to time. This really isn’t required for a first date, but definitely on dates where you’re interested in him or her and want to make it more known you’re serious about your intentions. This is also great for long-term relationships.

Call, text or email your date and tell them to be dressed in their best clothes and be ready at a certain time and then take them to a fine dining experience. Go outside your norm a little and read reviews about restaurants and find something that fits your budget but is classy.

Sporting Event

Dorian is a big baseball and hockey fan and before meeting him, I was neither of those. So for one of our first dates, he took me to a see an LA King’s hockey game and it was so much fun! Plus, as he told me while I was working on this story, he used the opportunity of explaining the rules to get a little closer to me without it being obvious or creepy.

Baseball is still a work in progress, but I’m slowly coming around. 🙂

Lounge or wine bar

If you’re a good conversationalist, you can do this as a first date. But if not, then wait until you’re a little more comfortable in each other’s presence and go to a wine bar or cocktail lounge. Just make sure it’s not a regular bar that blasts music or is showing sports – unless you’re both super into sports. Ideally, you want to keep it as classy as possible. Lots of candles and a little jazz music will make this even better and more romantic.

Dorian and I have a little french wine bar we loved to go to while we were dating and still go to this day. It’s all candle lit and so romantic,  we’d get a little plate of meats and cheeses and sip some wine and just talk about our days. I’m ready to go there now, actually!

 

Hope you enjoyed this article/video! Now go get ’em, tiger!

5 Things Men Think Women Care About But Don’t

Aaron over at AlphaM had a video about this topic that was pretty accurate (watch here: https://youtu.be/iq7mFtmKV), but there were a few things that he missed, so I thought it would be fun to give a women’s perspective on this topic, as well.

5. Being a tough guy

Somehow men have this notion that they’re not supposed to show any kind of emotion of vulnerability. That’s unrealistic and you’re not a human if you’re like that. Women want to see some emotion and sensitivity – that makes you normal and we actually feel closer to you when you can let your guard down around us.

4. Always Wined & Dined

Sure, every woman loves to be taken to a nice dinner, but not all the time. We would much rather have a fun, creative experience, where we can both have a great time together and enjoy each other’s company. From a homemade meal, to a little hole-in-the wall joint, to a taco truck – those are some of my more memorable meals/dates. I love all the amazing restaurants my fiance has taken me too, but the memories that have stuck with me, for instance, are the times he would take me to our favorite taco truck and then grab Oreo shakes afterwards at Frosty Freeze. Total cost – $10.

3. Status Symbols

Your job title, car, where you live – you don’t need to impress women by upselling yourself. We’ll find out pretty quickly that you wasted all your money on that nice car to impress us when I meet your 10 other roommates. Don’t be that guy. It’s kind of sad and pathetic and makes us think much less of you if you assume this is what matters to us. Do the best with what you have and don’t be ashamed of it. Honesty goes a lot further than some shiny car. Women also highly value a man who has a strong work ethic, drive and passion to get to wherever it is he wants to be in life, as well.

2. Height

You don’t need to be tall to get our attention. Women don’t care about your height as much as you think.  If it’s not an issue for you, it’s not an issue for a woman. Your personality, confidence, and overall put-together, groomed appearance are way more important than how tall you are.

1. Money

It’s such a lame excuse that men who aren’t having success in the women department like to use. We all make our own money these days, so don’t think that women care that much about it, because we don’t. I can tell you that it’s actually a huge turnoff if if all a man cares about is money and it consumes him and his personality. If your entire motivation in life is to make an extra buck, and that’s it, then that gets old real quick.

First Things A Woman Notices About A Man

My buddy Antonio, from the awesome RealMenRealStyle.com, recently published a video about the first 10 things a woman notices about a man & what attracts women to men (see it here: https://youtu.be/b44YuuSp0ac). In the comments, he asked if there were some things that he missed. Well, he did. So here’s the first few things a woman notices about a man – from a woman’s perspective.

Here’s a few videos/articles Antonio and I collaborated on, as well.

8. Scent

Your overall smell – body odor, cologne and breath. Your scent is an indication of how considerate you are of yourself and of others because being stinky, with body odor or assaulting people with your cologne is disgusting and rude.

7. Hair

The type of haircut and style you have, if it’s maintained and how clean your hair looks or is.

6. Your Hands

How groomed and clean your hands are. Fingernails, smooth/rough/warts/hairy/etc are all things a woman immediately notices.

5. Shoes

What shoes you’re wearing based on the occasion and how clean they are. They indicate a lot more about a man than he often thinks.

4. Personality

Whether we’re interacting or I’m observing you from afar – The way you interact with others and the way you carry yourself are all things we immediately notice. Are you well spoken? What’s your demeanor – funny, serious, shy, nice, well-mannered, rude, etc.? Women look past physical attributes, and I know men have a hard time understanding this sometimes because they’re more visual creatures, but women immediately go right past your physical looks to try and get the core of a man. A bad personality sours even the best looking of men.

3. Clothes

How put together you are, regardless of what style you’ve adapted, is a good indicator of the type of man you are. If your clothes are proportional to your body, then doesn’t matter what your body type is, it shows you care about yourself enough to have respect for your own appearance. So make sure your clothes fit properly, at least!

2. Smile

Antonio had this way further down on his list then I’d ever put it. Your smile is important because it can instantly make a woman feel welcomed and comfortable. On top of that, how clean and well your teeth look is another good insight into how a man conducts his life.

1. Face

This one is pretty obvious, but Antonio didn’t give this one enough credit, either. Your features, good or bad, and how you make the best of what you’ve been given is a big deal to women. Is your skin clean looking, facial hair kept in check, eyebrow, nose and ear hair groomed? These all tell us how well you treat yourself and understand that your appearance matters – to yourself and the ability to understand how to interact with the world.

 

I hope this was helpful!

6 Tips To Be Better Looking

There’s a lot of misconceptions and confusion out there about what women find attractive in a man and how they define a “good looking” gentlemen.

Right off the bat, I want you to understand that none of these tips have anything to do with money or being physically attractive. So for all of you poor saps out there who like to use that as an excuse, it’s complete bullsh*t and really isn’t that high on the list for any quality woman.

6. Smile more and often

People are attracted to friendliness – it instantly makes you more approachable and likable.

Smile More 1 Ashley Weston

5. Stand up Straight

It opens your body up and makes you look confident, inviting, and your shoulders and chest look wider which women love because it signifies strength. Poor posture projects a message of lack of self esteem, which isn’t attractive to most women.

Good Posture Ashley Weston

4. Workout or be physically active

Keeping yourself healthy physically also keeps you in better mental shape. People will notice your demeanor and you keeping in decent shape. So get out and be active for at lest 30 minutes a day.

Work Out Ashley Weston

3. Have a proper grooming routine

Want to be more attractive? Smell and look clean. You just beat out 30% of other men right off the top. Check out my article about the top grooming mistakes men make.

Grooming Routine Ashley Weston

2. Choosing the right haircut & facial hair

I can’t tell you what a difference this can make on a man. The most important thing to consider in a haircut is your hair type and facial shape. Also, consider your facial hair. Some men look more masculine and mature with a beard or some scruff.

Hairstyle and Facial Hair Ashley Weston

1. Get your clothes fitted

Never underestimate the impact properly fitting clothing can have on your appearance. Your suits should be tailored, jeans hemmed, and you’re buying appropriate fitting shirts. Don’t give me that BS about trying to hide your gut or skinny frame with loose fitting clothing because trying to hide it makes it look worse.

Fitted Clothing Ashley Weston

Top 12 Turn Ons for Women

Before I begin, I want you to take notice of the fact that this list will not mention anything about attractiveness, because, to a woman, it’s obviously something we like, but it’s not a deal-breaker requirement for most women and it’s not the only thing that can turn us on. So let’s get into the things that EVERY man does or can do that turns women on.

1. Decisiveness

2. Prompt & Punctual

3. Well-Mannered

Has good manners (i.e. holds door open for a woman, knows to not eat before a woman/others at the table, polite to others). You’d be surprised how uncommon a well-mannered man is.

4. Smiles a Lot

This indicates a man is friendly.

5. Good sense of humor

6. Maintain a nice conversation

7. Good Listener

8. Stable

A man who has his finances in order and keeps good relationships with family and/or friends.

9. Confident

Being confident in yourself and everything you do is a huge turn on for women. This can make up for lacking in the good looks department.

10. Constant Learner

11. Takes Care of Himself

i.e. grooming, healthy lifestyle habits, being well-dressed.

12. Ambitious & Passionate

In all that you do, including your career.