The First 9 Things Women See | How To Attract a Woman in 2020

Last time we did this topic it was almost 3 years ago and it was just Ashley. So today we’re going to discuss the first things women notice about a guy – from both a woman and man’s perspective. Some of these may be obvious, but we guarantee that a lot of these aren’t.

Your Silhouette or Shape

Especially from a distance or behind, it’s hard to tell much about a person except by the shape of their body. So how you’re standing and carrying yourself will immediately be noticed. Stand up straight and cultivate good posture to appear confident.

Your Clothing

It’s hard to tell much about a person just from first glance, but if you’re wearing ill-fitting, old/stained or wrinkled clothing, a woman will notice this immediately. Make sure you’re clothing fits your body properly and looks relatively clean and you’ve got the big bases covered.

Your Face

As humans, we immediately look at faces to identify whether you’re a friend or foe. Make sure it’s a pleasant experience and take care of any skin issues if you have. Also, always remember she’s also looking at your eyes to see where your attention is. If you’re trying to attract her, make sure your eyes meet for a second, then give her the next item on our list.

A Smile

Giving her a smile makes her feel good, makes you look better and more pleasant, and also acknowledges that you like her too. No woman or anybody, for that matter, likes a sour puss. Smiles bring out the best in you and others around you.

Your Hair

Next up is something that frames your face – your hair. Since she’s look at your face as a whole, the hair is going to play a big part of her impression of you. Regardless of your hair type or whether you’re balding or not, ensure your hair game is on point and compliments your face shape.

Your Shoes

This will never change and has been confirmed each and every time we ask females – they look right at your shoes because whether you know it or not, your shoes tell the story of you – how well you take care of yourself and your situation in life. Make sure your shoes are relatively clean, well-cared for and the laces tied properly.

Your Mannerisms

Be slow and deliberate in your movements. Have a pleasant, easy-going body language. Show her that you’re in control of yourself. It makes people nervous if you’re constantly fidgeting or nervously looking around or it makes you look like a slob if you’re splayed out like a couch potato (younger guys have this problem the most).

Your Hands

Just like your shoes, your hands give women an indicator of your station in life. Are they clean and well-cared for? A man with long, dirty fingernails are one of the biggest turn offs for women.

The Way You Speak

The way you communicate will be the final confirmation that she’s right about you based on everything else she’s seen so far. So speak well, calmly, and with class, courtesy and attention and you’ll win her over.

3 Outfits Men Wear That ALL Women Love In 2020

We’re going to show you the 3 outfits that will consistently impress women (and anyone else, frankly). Also, these outfits will look good on every man, regardless of his age, body type and budget, so do yourself a favor and add these outfits into your rotation.

Casual

For this look, we went with a simple white t-shirt, navy bomber, dark wash jeans and white sneakers. Bombers work on every single body type – they add bulk if you’re skinnier and break up your body for a slimming effect if you’re huskier – so that’s why we recommend them across the board. The beauty of this outfit is that if it’s warmer out, you can easily remove the jacket and cuff the jeans for a cooler, more sporty, casual look. Don’t forget a watch or slim metal cuff on your wrist!

Elevated Casual

This look is great when you don’t want to wear jeans and want a little more elevated casual look. We’ve got a navy polo shirt, which is an upgraded casual shirt yet still looks great on all men, and then throw on a pair of flat-front tan chino pants and some loafers and finish it off with a Harrington jacket. Just like the previous outfit, if it’s warm, ditch the jacket and cuff the pants for a more warm-weather version. The only thing to consider in this outfit is the type of polo shirt you should be wearing. If you’re a bigger guy, go with a pique cotton, if you’re average or slim, go with anything but pique (preferably cotton). If you need help finding a good polo shirt, send us a text about your body type and we’ll be glad to recommend some options for you.

Smart Casual

If you want to keep the jeans but class it up a bit, chuck on a blue or white oxford button down shirt and add in the dark wash jeans and then throw on some suede or leather brown chukka boots and finish it off, depending on how elevated you want to go with either a sport coat, work jacket or jean jacket. To keep it less formal, tuck in the front of the shirt and leave the rest undone. You don’t need the jacket if its warm out, but definitely don’t cuff your jeans with chukka boots in this one.

6 Ways to Look Sexier (As a Man) – Even If You’re Not

In this article, we wanted to share the top 6 ways a guy can instantly become more attractive. Some of these might sound simple, but for some reason a lot of men don’t understand how effective these 6 things are for enhancing your sexiness to women.

Stand up straight

Women love a confident man and an easy way to exude that is to stand up straight. Think about it, if you see someone who is hunched over, would you think that person is super confident? No, we didn’t think so.

Throw on a pair of sunglasses

Sunglasses instantly add a stylish and mysterious touch to your overall appearance which women can’t help but be attracted to. Just make sure whatever frames you choose, they fit your face shape. Otherwise, they can really mess up your overall appearance.

Wear a watch

Accessories are a great touch and women will notice and appreciate your attention to detail. Stick to simple, subtle designs to start until you’ve really figured out your style. Also, you can easily go overboard and look silly if you have too many accessories, so avoid it at all costs.

Get your skincare in check

Your face is one of the first thing anyone sees, so having clear skin looks great on every man. We all have certain problems when it comes to our skin, but luckily there’s a ton of great skincare products out there that can help address those annoying issues and help get your skin look its best.

Dress in well-fitting clothing

Nothing looks worse than a guy wearing clothing too big or small for their body type. Ensuring your clothing fits your body type will make you look like a million bucks. If you’re unsure about the fit of your clothing, definitely check out our Clothing Fit Guide Series where we go into detail about how your clothes should fit.

Whiten your teeth

Since your face is one of the first things anyone will see, make sure it’s a pleasant experience. Always smile in the beginning and throughout a conversation because that’ll instantly put her at ease. The one thing that can put her (or anyone for that matter) off is having yellow or stained teeth so make sure to give them some TLC by getting them professionally whitened or using whitening strips at home.

12 Habits Girls Love (Habits Girls Find Attractive)

Its that time of year again, when love is in the air, so we thought it was important to talk about some habits to cultivate that girls will absolutely find attractive.
 


 

Be Prompt & Punctual

Yes, women may not hold to this, so there’s definitely a double standard, but a man who is prompt and punctual shows how in-control of his life he is. That’s very sexy to all women. Being pushed around by your circumstances and not taking charge of their schedule diminishes a girl’s confidence in you.

Be Well-mannered

Have good manners (i.e. holds door open for a woman, offering your jacket to her if it’s chilly). You’d be surprised how uncommon a well-mannered man is these days.

Smile around her

There’s nothing more pleasing to a woman than knowing that her presence makes you happy. It makes her feel wanted and confident that she’s made the right choice in spending time with you.

Have a sense of humor

You’ll never meet a girl who says she prefers a guy without a sense of humor. Don’t be too raunchy or racy (unless you know she likes that type of humor) and try not to make fun of others while showing her your funny side. A well-timed joke goes a long way! The best thing to do is look up some jokes online and memorize a few and deploy them as-needed or when the situation presents itself.

Be Romantic

Plan an entire day or evening out with your girl, surprise her with flowers or sneak a handwritten note in her purse or send her sweet text during the workday. Just knowing that a man is thinking about her makes her heart sing.

Start a Conversation

Asking how her day was, or what she’s been up to and then asking follow-up questions shows you actually care (even if you really don’t care about how much of a b*#$# Tammy has been at work). Asking her questions makes her feel important and good knowing that she is valued.

Be A Good Listener

Goes with the previous point:  Show you’re genuinely interested by being a good listener. Most women who want help, will ask for it, so don’t hear what she’s having issues with as an invite to jump in and start solving her issues. She mostly likely just wants to vent a little and will make her feel good knowing that she has a sympathetic ear she can depend on when she’s feeling upset.

Be Affectionate

Holding her hand, wrapping your arms around her from behind, kissing her neck, telling her how beautiful she looks are all things that make her feel amazing, more confident, and turned on.

Exude Confidence

Being confident in yourself and everything you do is a huge turn on for women. Guys may never fully understand this, but having confidence can make up for a lacking in the looks department.

Take Control

Going out? Have a plan of action. Ordering at a restaurant? Ask her what she wants and then order for her first, when the time comes. There’s nothing sexier than a man who takes control.

Take Care Of Yourself

Show her you respect yourself by having good grooming habits, ensuring you’re dressed well, and keeping your home clean, especially your bedroom and bathroom, will indicate to her that you’re a keeper.

Have Ambition & Passion

In all that you do, including your career and hobbies, be ambitious and passionate. It doesn’t matter how nerdy or weird your hobbies are, if you have a knowledge and passion for something, that’s incredibly sexy to a woman.

Get A Girl’s Attention (6 Ways To Make Her Notice You)

As we round the corner to Valentine’s Day, its important to know the 6 ways to make a girl notice you. Whether you’re out and about, at work or grabbing a coffee or drink with friends, these are the best (non-creepy or douchey) ways to get a girl’s attention. Please, whatever you do, don’t do the tried-and-failed construction worker cat calls! Happy and successful hunting, gents!

 

 

Own the space around you

One way to get a girl’s attention is to take up more space. Insecure men often shrink away, collapsing their shoulders, hoping they won’t stick out. Confident men on the other hand, have no trouble showing it through their comfortable, natural body language.
One great way to take up more space and project confidence is by standing up straight and keeping your hands out of your pockets.

Look approachable

Beyond looking confident, you also want to show women you are friendly and approachable. How do you do this? One trick is to simply stay alert and engaged in your environment by making eye contact and smiling at people who walk by.

Be Social

A great way to get girls to notice you is to start fun, friendly conversations with the people around you. If you’re not sure how to do this, one trick is to take note of what a person is wearing or eating and drinking and use that as the on-ramp to a conversation.

Dress well

Seems like a no-brainer given the site you’re reading, but dressing sharp and looking clean goes a long, long way to getting girls to notice you.

Be complimentary

If there’s someone you’re eyeing, ask her a question about her drink if it’s unique looking or compliment her outfit, eyes or smile. If she engages, remember to make eye contact, smile, and say her name throughout the conversation.

Make Eye contact

We discussed earlier about making eye contact with people walking by to be more approachable. However, making direct eye contact with the girl you’re interested in is the surest way to get her attention. And also the surest way to tell if she’s interested. If she holds it longer than normal and/or keeps looking in your direction, that’s as big as a cross-the-room greenlight as you’re going to get.

Do Women Care How Much You Spend On Clothes?

One of the most common comments we see and hear time and again is “Women only care about men who spend a lot on clothing.” Now we believe that style is made up of a lot more things than just the clothes you wear and we talk a lot about how to build a stylish essential wardrobe on any budget. But, it is a fair question to ask.

So do women care how much you spend on clothes? Tune in and find out what we think!

Style and money are unrelated

Fit, and to a lesser extent, materials, denotes how “rich” you can look. You can be wearing a $5k suit but if it fits poorly and isn’t properly tailored, you’re still going to look like crap. But if you’re wearing a $500 suit that’s tailored perfectly and fits your body type well, you’re going to look like a million bucks. Dressing well in clothes that fit you isn’t expensive. Dressing poorly in designer clothing is very expensive and a complete waste of time and money, not to mention, no women will care if your suit is expensive if you look like a mess in it. Since we’re talking about fit, we’ve got Fit Guides for everything, so don’t forget to check ’em out!

Designer Doesn’t Always Mean Good

Covering yourself in designer labels to show how much you spend on clothes actually just shows a lack of class and tact. Wearing a $500 Gucci T-shirt is silly for two reasons: one, they’re knocked off so easily that often people assume it’s fake anyway, and two, did you really just pay $500 for a $2 shirt with a Gucci logo screen printed on it? To women, it makes you look like more of a sucker and its incredibly off-putting. Looking good is about the details and subtlety – women pick up on these more than most men know. 

Dress Within Your Means

We mention it a lot around here but it bears repeating, style is achievable at literally any budget. If you’re spending more than what your means allow on your clothing, that’s an instant alarm to a woman. It shows you’re either insecure or irresponsible financially. Either way, very unattractive. Be honest about your budget and stick with what works for it, it’s a much, much better look. Don’t believe us? We’ve got recommendations for budget-friendly denim, chinos, and more.

Dress For The Situation

If you’re wearing expensive clothing, but it’s inappropriate for the situation, women will be repelled. Wearing your brash, iced-out Hublot watch to a black-tie affair is just gauche. Flashy shows of money like this are inappropriate and they send up red flags like “insecure”, “ignorant”, “tacky”. Subtlety and class are infinitely more important to women, even when they don’t know it. EVERY woman, regardless of who they are, would jump James Bond’s bones because he’s subtle, confident, and elegant in his style. Remember that. 

The Verdict: Absolutely Not

Take it from a woman (and an incredibly accomplished one at that), the right women care about so many things that aren’t money and how much of it you spend (or pretend to spend) on your clothing. Style is about so much more than just what you wear and women know this. Style can be achieved no matter what your budget is, even if it’s zero, so don’t forget that!

 

Why A Man’s Watch Matters To Women

We often talk about how important accessories are to your overall look and wardrobe. When done well, they add that extra 10% that pulls everything together and really lets your personality shine. We don’t recommend a ton of accessories but watches are one of the most important ones. It’s true that the watch you wear says a lot about you, whether you like it or not. That’s especially true when it comes to the opposite sex. Since you’re probably going to ask, no, it doesn’t matter AT ALL how expensive your watch is, let’s just get that straight. But that doesn’t mean watches aren’t something women care about.

Here are the reason why a man’s watch matters to women!

 

SHOWS SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR LIFESTYLE

Whether you’re wearing a Timex, Apple Watch, or a Rolex, the watch you wear will give a woman a few clues as to what your lifestyle is like, and that’s important when we are getting to know you. Maybe you’re a sporty guy and you’re into a G-Shock. Or, you’re more of a tech guy and an Apple watch is your vibe. Either way, it lets women know a bit about who you are.

 

SHOWS YOU PAY ATTENTION TO THE DETAILS

Like with all of your wardrobe, the details matter and women notice the details.  From the fit of your clothes to your haircut, each small component combines to form an important part of the whole.  Watches are no different. The right watch and style choices on your wrist show you care about the right details.

 

SHOWS HOW CULTURED YOU ARE OR AREN’T

Maybe you think watches are redundant since you have a phone, sure, we get that. But, going that extra step is going to add another layer to your style and show that you’re about more than just the absolute bare minimum, and that’s definitely really sexy. But, it’s important to consider what you’re wearing and when just like your shoe choice. You wouldn’t wear Jordans to a wedding so you should consider what watch choices you’re making too.

 

INDICATES WHERE YOU MIGHT BE IN LIFE

No matter where you are on your journey, personal or style-wise, your watch choice is a big indicator of where you are and where you are going. Like we said before, women (well, the right women anyway) aren’t concerned with how fancy or expensive your watch is, but knowing where you’re at and where you’re going is important.

How To Deal With Rejection

Rejection is a part of life, both personally and professionally. We all face it and it’s unavoidable. But, it’s also a great learning opportunity.  Whether it’s about your self-confidence or how you interact with people, what’s important is how you learn to get over it and what you take away from it.  Believe it or not, it takes some practice but learning how to deal with rejection comes down to 5 simple factors.

Accept It

Know that it’s a part of your romantic life and you will have to deal with it. The sooner you accept it and know that you will grow stronger from it the less power fear will have over you.

Learn From It

Make sure you take away something from the rejection. Whether it’s learning from a mistake you made or that a particular someone wasn’t right for you, rejection can be a powerful learning experience.

Give It Time

Getting over rejection takes time, so be patient. Focus on yourself – your health, fitness, mental strength and you’ll emerge stronger and better.  Don’t beat yourself up after a short period of time, time heals all, as the old saying goes.

It’s Not The End Of The World

Yes, it’s a terrible cliche but it’s absolutely true.  Lean on your support group of friends and family and try to take a step back and look at the big picture.  Every person you probably admire has been rejected and moved on to do great things and you can too!

Get Rejected More Often

Getting rejected more often is actually a good tool. It actually makes it easier to deal with and helps you understand and move on more quickly.  Also, getting rejected means you’re taking risks and living life to the fullest.