5 Things Men Think Women Care About But Don’t

Aaron over at AlphaM had a video about this topic that was pretty accurate (watch here: https://youtu.be/iq7mFtmKV), but there were a few things that he missed, so I thought it would be fun to give a women’s perspective on this topic, as well.

5. Being a tough guy

Somehow men have this notion that they’re not supposed to show any kind of emotion of vulnerability. That’s unrealistic and you’re not a human if you’re like that. Women want to see some emotion and sensitivity – that makes you normal and we actually feel closer to you when you can let your guard down around us.

4. Always Wined & Dined

Sure, every woman loves to be taken to a nice dinner, but not all the time. We would much rather have a fun, creative experience, where we can both have a great time together and enjoy each other’s company. From a homemade meal, to a little hole-in-the wall joint, to a taco truck – those are some of my more memorable meals/dates. I love all the amazing restaurants my fiance has taken me too, but the memories that have stuck with me, for instance, are the times he would take me to our favorite taco truck and then grab Oreo shakes afterwards at Frosty Freeze. Total cost – $10.

3. Status Symbols

Your job title, car, where you live – you don’t need to impress women by upselling yourself. We’ll find out pretty quickly that you wasted all your money on that nice car to impress us when I meet your 10 other roommates. Don’t be that guy. It’s kind of sad and pathetic and makes us think much less of you if you assume this is what matters to us. Do the best with what you have and don’t be ashamed of it. Honesty goes a lot further than some shiny car. Women also highly value a man who has a strong work ethic, drive and passion to get to wherever it is he wants to be in life, as well.

2. Height

You don’t need to be tall to get our attention. Women don’t care about your height as much as you think.  If it’s not an issue for you, it’s not an issue for a woman. Your personality, confidence, and overall put-together, groomed appearance are way more important than how tall you are.

1. Money

It’s such a lame excuse that men who aren’t having success in the women department like to use. We all make our own money these days, so don’t think that women care that much about it, because we don’t. I can tell you that it’s actually a huge turnoff if if all a man cares about is money and it consumes him and his personality. If your entire motivation in life is to make an extra buck, and that’s it, then that gets old real quick.

First Things A Woman Notices About A Man

My buddy Antonio, from the awesome RealMenRealStyle.com, recently published a video about the first 10 things a woman notices about a man & what attracts women to men (see it here: https://youtu.be/b44YuuSp0ac). In the comments, he asked if there were some things that he missed. Well, he did. So here’s the first few things a woman notices about a man – from a woman’s perspective.

Here’s a few videos/articles Antonio and I collaborated on, as well.

8. Scent

Your overall smell – body odor, cologne and breath. Your scent is an indication of how considerate you are of yourself and of others because being stinky, with body odor or assaulting people with your cologne is disgusting and rude.

7. Hair

The type of haircut and style you have, if it’s maintained and how clean your hair looks or is.

6. Your Hands

How groomed and clean your hands are. Fingernails, smooth/rough/warts/hairy/etc are all things a woman immediately notices.

5. Shoes

What shoes you’re wearing based on the occasion and how clean they are. They indicate a lot more about a man than he often thinks.

4. Personality

Whether we’re interacting or I’m observing you from afar – The way you interact with others and the way you carry yourself are all things we immediately notice. Are you well spoken? What’s your demeanor – funny, serious, shy, nice, well-mannered, rude, etc.? Women look past physical attributes, and I know men have a hard time understanding this sometimes because they’re more visual creatures, but women immediately go right past your physical looks to try and get the core of a man. A bad personality sours even the best looking of men.

3. Clothes

How put together you are, regardless of what style you’ve adapted, is a good indicator of the type of man you are. If your clothes are proportional to your body, then doesn’t matter what your body type is, it shows you care about yourself enough to have respect for your own appearance. So make sure your clothes fit properly, at least!

2. Smile

Antonio had this way further down on his list then I’d ever put it. Your smile is important because it can instantly make a woman feel welcomed and comfortable. On top of that, how clean and well your teeth look is another good insight into how a man conducts his life.

1. Face

This one is pretty obvious, but Antonio didn’t give this one enough credit, either. Your features, good or bad, and how you make the best of what you’ve been given is a big deal to women. Is your skin clean looking, facial hair kept in check, eyebrow, nose and ear hair groomed? These all tell us how well you treat yourself and understand that your appearance matters – to yourself and the ability to understand how to interact with the world.

 

I hope this was helpful!

6 Tips To Be Better Looking

There’s a lot of misconceptions and confusion out there about what women find attractive in a man and how they define a “good looking” gentlemen.

Right off the bat, I want you to understand that none of these tips have anything to do with money or being physically attractive. So for all of you poor saps out there who like to use that as an excuse, it’s complete bullsh*t and really isn’t that high on the list for any quality woman.

6. Smile more and often

People are attracted to friendliness – it instantly makes you more approachable and likable.

Smile More 1 Ashley Weston

5. Stand up Straight

It opens your body up and makes you look confident, inviting, and your shoulders and chest look wider which women love because it signifies strength. Poor posture projects a message of lack of self esteem, which isn’t attractive to most women.

Good Posture Ashley Weston

4. Workout or be physically active

Keeping yourself healthy physically also keeps you in better mental shape. People will notice your demeanor and you keeping in decent shape. So get out and be active for at lest 30 minutes a day.

Work Out Ashley Weston

3. Have a proper grooming routine

Want to be more attractive? Smell and look clean. You just beat out 30% of other men right off the top. Check out my article about the top grooming mistakes men make.

Grooming Routine Ashley Weston

2. Choosing the right haircut & facial hair

I can’t tell you what a difference this can make on a man. The most important thing to consider in a haircut is your hair type and facial shape. Also, consider your facial hair. Some men look more masculine and mature with a beard or some scruff.

Hairstyle and Facial Hair Ashley Weston

1. Get your clothes fitted

Never underestimate the impact properly fitting clothing can have on your appearance. Your suits should be tailored, jeans hemmed, and you’re buying appropriate fitting shirts. Don’t give me that BS about trying to hide your gut or skinny frame with loose fitting clothing because trying to hide it makes it look worse.

Fitted Clothing Ashley Weston

Top 12 Turn Ons for Women

Before I begin, I want you to take notice of the fact that this list will not mention anything about attractiveness, because, to a woman, it’s obviously something we like, but it’s not a deal-breaker requirement for most women and it’s not the only thing that can turn us on. So let’s get into the things that EVERY man does or can do that turns women on.

1. Decisiveness

2. Prompt & Punctual

3. Well-Mannered

Has good manners (i.e. holds door open for a woman, knows to not eat before a woman/others at the table, polite to others). You’d be surprised how uncommon a well-mannered man is.

4. Smiles a Lot

This indicates a man is friendly.

5. Good sense of humor

6. Maintain a nice conversation

7. Good Listener

8. Stable

A man who has his finances in order and keeps good relationships with family and/or friends.

9. Confident

Being confident in yourself and everything you do is a huge turn on for women. This can make up for lacking in the good looks department.

10. Constant Learner

11. Takes Care of Himself

i.e. grooming, healthy lifestyle habits, being well-dressed.

12. Ambitious & Passionate

In all that you do, including your career.

6 Signs A Woman Gives When She Likes You

I see so many lists of men telling other men the signs a woman gives when she likes you. Some of it is true, and some of it is completely wrong. A BIG one on these lists is when men say that if a woman gives you a compliment, then that means she like you. That is NOT the case at all and it’s so freaking annoying! A woman compliments your shirt because she just actually likes your shirt! That’s it.

So I polled all my female friends and came up with an actual list of 6 signs a woman will give when she’s truly into you.

 

 

1. Plays with her hair

This is a flirtation tactic women love to use. Most times it’s out of nervousness, which is a great sign. Women don’t get nervous around people they’re not interested in.

2. Finds an excuse to touch you

The touch is everything! This instantly means she likes you.

3. Laughs a lot

Whether it’s at a joke or just throughout the conversation.

4. Smiles throughout conversation

This shows that she’s engaged and having a great time.

5. Answers texts promptly

Again, this shows she’s engaged and digging you.

6. Makes time for you

Regardless of whether she’s busy or not, if she still finds time to fit you in and make plans – she definitely likes you.

6 Strange Ways To Be More Attractive to Women

I see a lot of videos and articles of men telling other men what women find attractive and some of it’s true on their best day, but a lot of these lists are completely wrong on their average day. So I talked with all my female friends and we came up with a list of 6 strange ways men can be more attractive.

 

Stop saying ‘Maybe’

Whenever you’re making appointments, don’t say, “Do you maybe want to grab drinks or dinner?” Instead, take charge and be more direct – “Let’s grab drinks!”

Witty and Sarcastic Humor

Even if the humor is a little mean-spirited, but not directed towards us, we’ll find you more attractive due to your sharp wit.

Roll up your sleeves

If you’re wearing a long-sleeved shirt, I’m talking about literally rolling up your sleeves in front of us. Our eyes will instantly go to your forearm which we find very sexy.

Good w/ kids & elderly

Women are always going to find this attractive because it’s show us what kind of partner and family man you’ll be in the future.

Not always available

It’s good to be available, but just don’t be so available. We respect a man who has a busy schedule and isn’t always free to hang out at the drop of the hat.

Not ashamed of hobbies

Women find it very endearing when a man gets really excited about a quirky hobby or similar things that you wouldn’t have guessed by looking at him. Just don’t go over the line with something creepy like, My Little Pony.

8 Things You Should Never Say To Women

My sister, Scarlett, and I talk about the 8 Things You Should Never Say To Women, unless, of course, you want to be in hot water, ignored or made fun of later with our girlfriends. And these apply to men no matter your relationship status, so if you’re married, single, in a relationship, pansexual, asexual, etc. just don’t say these things to any of the girls in your life. Thanks!

 

1. Why are you so serious?

Other similar winners: Why aren’t you smiling? or the other gem: C’mon, girl – smile for me. 

Because I’m not smiling means that I’m serious?

2. You look different.

If you’d like to know what’s different, ask us something specific like, “Did you get a haircut?”. We’ll probably say no and then tell you what it is, if anything. At least then it doesn’t sound so bad.

3. Is something wrong?

Or similar questions like: Is everything okay?; Did I do something wrong?

Something is about to be wrong if you ask me that again.

4. Why are you wearing that?

Just… don’t.

5. Why won’t you talk to me?

Or the equally stupid follow-up: Am I not good enough for you?

By asking this question, you effectively just made me not want to talk to you and definitely showed yourself to not be good enough for me.

6. Are you having fun?

AKA: You don’t look like you’re having a good time; Why are you so quiet?

This question just killed any fun I was having. Thanks!

7. You look stressed.

Alternates: You look tired; You look upset.

These stupid statements are stressing me out – that’s all!

8. Why’s a girl like you still single?

Or the ever-popular: Where’s your boyfriend, he doesn’t like showing you off?

Just buck up and ask if I’m single – I’ll tell you.

12 Things Men Wear That Women Love

I see so many videos and articles of men telling other men the things men wear that women find sexy, except, last time I checked, they weren’t a woman. So I polled all my female friends and came up with an actual list of 12 things that men wear that women actually love – by women.

 

  1. Well-Fitting Suit

  2. T-Shirt

  3. Dark Wash Jeans

    Dark Wash Jeans Ashley Weston

  4. Sportcoat

  5. Casual Jacket

  6. White Dress Shirt

  7. Crewneck Sweater

  8. V-Neck Sweater

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  9. Lace-up Dress Shoes

  10. Casual Lace-up Boots

  11. Dress Watch

  12. Tie Bar