How To Deal With Rejection

Rejection is a part of life, both personally and professionally. We all face it and it’s unavoidable. But, it’s also a great learning opportunity.  Whether it’s about your self-confidence or how you interact with people, what’s important is how you learn to get over it and what you take away from it.  Believe it or not, it takes some practice but learning how to deal with rejection comes down to 5 simple factors.

Accept It

Know that it’s a part of your romantic life and you will have to deal with it. The sooner you accept it and know that you will grow stronger from it the less power fear will have over you.

Learn From It

Make sure you take away something from the rejection. Whether it’s learning from a mistake you made or that a particular someone wasn’t right for you, rejection can be a powerful learning experience.

Give It Time

Getting over rejection takes time, so be patient. Focus on yourself – your health, fitness, mental strength and you’ll emerge stronger and better.  Don’t beat yourself up after a short period of time, time heals all, as the old saying goes.

It’s Not The End Of The World

Yes, it’s a terrible cliche but it’s absolutely true.  Lean on your support group of friends and family and try to take a step back and look at the big picture.  Every person you probably admire has been rejected and moved on to do great things and you can too!

Get Rejected More Often

Getting rejected more often is actually a good tool. It actually makes it easier to deal with and helps you understand and move on more quickly.  Also, getting rejected means you’re taking risks and living life to the fullest.

5 Reasons Why You’re More Attractive To Women Than You Think

We all deal with insecurities and doubt, it’s a part of life. But we’re here to tell you that you’re probably not giving yourself enough credit. Being confident takes some work, but here are 5 reasons why you’re actually more attractive to women than you think.

  1. You Actually Are – Many of us have a tendency to naturally underrate ourselves. In fact, studies have shown we are actually scientifically 20% more attractive than we may think. So give yourself some more credit, it’s true.

  2. Attractiveness Isn’t Just Physical – Personality, sense of humor, kindness, being well-spoken, all of these non-physical factors have an immense effect on how attractive you are perceived to be. That’s why it’s all the more important that you cultivate these qualities as well as physical ones.

  3. You Care About Yourself – You’re watching this channel so you’re immediately ahead of the game because you care about your style and appearance and are willing to put some effort into them. Caring about these things not only makes you more attractive than you probably think, but it also puts you head and shoulders above a lot of other men.

  4. Your Perception is Warped – We live in a world dominated by perfection and social media and this has given us a warped sense of who we are. Absolutely nobody is perfect, but celebrity culture and internet culture has unfortunately made us think we need to be, but it’s simply not true. The fact is, most average people are attractive by any normal standard, yourself included.

  5. You Can Always Improve – Many of the traits that make up so-called “attractiveness” are things you can learn and get better at. It just takes putting your mind to it and making the effort. Confidence and self-improvement are sexy and they’re things every man can work on.

Why “Bad Boy” Style Is Usually Cheesy

here’s a ton of content out there about dressing like a “bad boy” or an “alpha” and usually, it’s not a great look. Many men equate “bad boy style” with confidence and these things are simply not that intertwined as you think. Improving your style should be a pillar to growing your confidence, you shouldn’t adopt an exaggerated persona or image and expect confidence from a costume.

Why “Bad Boy” Style Is Usually Cheesy

It’s Not Really That Stylish
Sure, I love a good leather jacket and dark denim, they should be staple pieces in your essential wardrobe, but most of this so-called “bad boy” style involves a lot of things that don’t look great – over accessorizing with jewelry, out-of-style items, too much embellishment and “look at me” attitude. It’s a little too try-hard.

It’s Not Versatile/Practical
Ultimately it’s too one dimensional for most men. Having good overall style means having a well-rounded wardrobe with a mix of different items for a variety of situations. You can’t wear a t-shirt, boots, and jeans everywhere.

It’s Inauthentic
Typical “bad boy” items don’t work for everyone and every body type. Trying to fit your look and personal style into a particular box because it might make you seem cool or confident will only come off as fake.  Finding your own individual style and sense of self are way more important (and attractive!) than pretending to be something you’re not.

5 Tips For A Better Nighttime Routine (Not Grooming!)

A good nighttime routine is much more than just grooming, it sets you up for a good night of sleep. You can’t understate how important getting a restful night’s sleep is to your productivity and overall health.  A good night’s sleep starts with a solid nighttime routine and here are our favorite tips to set you up for a relaxing night and a great night’s sleep.

1. Grooming routine

We’ve discussed before, but having a solid, regular nighttime grooming routine will help you feel better and train your brain to know it’s time to wind down.

2. Unplug from technology

Whether it’s getting off social media, reading, or listening to music, disconnecting from your phone and laptop are crucial for a good night’s sleep.

3. Create a good sleeping environment

Find what works for you and your comfort; invest in some good bedding and a few bedroom upgrades, it will go a long way in creating a relaxing, comfortable sleeping environment.

4. Brain Dump

Make it a habit of turning all your to-dos and worries into notes, it will help you let go of the day’s events and tomorrow’s challenges for a relaxed, stress-free mindset.

5. Find things that help you relax

Whatever it is, it’s different for all of us. From reading to listening to a podcast to other relaxing entertainment, experiment and find what’s best for you.

7 Tips To Be A Better Conversationalist

Being a good conversationalist can help you in all aspects of life from socially to professionally, and since we’ve mentioned how important this skill is in other videos, we thought we’d break it down to the key points.

1. Listen

It actually starts with not talking at all. Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time or working a crowded room or bar, listening will help you be more engaged with others which will, in turn, make the conversation flow much more easily and make it a better experience for everyone else.

2. Be Genuine

Starting with a friendly, genuine interest in others is an important foundation to becoming a better conversationalist.

3. Be Complimentary

Giving someone a thoughtful and genuine compliment (but not too over the top) will instantly put them at ease and make them more comfortable in the situation.

4. Practice Makes Perfect

Just like with many other things in life, the more you practice your conversation skills, the more confident and comfortable you’ll be in your skills.

5. Know How To Start A Conversation

It can just be as simple as introducing yourself and asking simple questions. If you’re in a social setting, keep it simple.  You can even practice a few basic questions for any type of setting so you’ll always feel prepared and relaxed. For more conversation starters, check out this video.

6. Keep The Conversation Going

Back to asking questions and being genuine, simply being engaged and thoughtful will help any conversation progress organically.

7. Know How To End One Too

Ending a conversation politely is just as important.  You want to make sure the other people involved don’t feel ditched. So be friendly but direct, your delivery will determine how everyone else feels after you’ve left.

Give these tips a shot and make sure to practice and you’ll hone your conversation skills in no time!

How To Be More Confident

Some people are born with it, some people aren’t, but confidence is definitely something that anyone can have.  It just takes some work and a positive attitude. Confidence can help you in all facets of life, from dating to professional settings, so that’s why we’re sharing a few tips on how to be more confident.

Identify self-limiting thoughts/actions

Whether you work through it on your own or with a professional, getting clarity on where you lack confidence is an important step in changing it. Whether it’s facing your fears or understanding where negative thoughts come from you’ve got to know where you stand to improve.

Know The Truth: You Are Great

We all have self-doubt, it’s part of life, but confidence starts from the inside out, and working on loving yourself and recognizing your own great qualities is a key point in becoming more confident.

Talk To Yourself

This might seem a bit weird at first but it really works. It can take many forms from mantras you say to yourself at the beginning of the day to just giving yourself a pep talk before a big date or job interview, putting yourself in the right frame of mind can really help you feel more confident.  

Practice

Confidence takes practice.  From consistently working your own processes to just interacting with people on a regular basis, practice makes perfect. The more you work on it, the better you’ll get.

Be Positive

Confidence also starts with a positive outlook. By cultivating a positive outlook on life, social interactions, work, etc. you’ll be able to focus on being genuinely happy with yourself and others

One final point, know the difference between confidence and arrogance. There’s a fine line between being confident and cocky.  Confident people are engaging and fun to be around, arrogant people come off as disingenuous and rude. Yes, it’s important to know your worth but you never want to think you’re better than anyone, projecting the right type of confidence will bring people to you whereas arrogance can just turn people off.

5 Conversation Topics Women Hate

Whether it’s in a dating scenario or socially at a party or event, small talk and conversation skills are things that take practice to master. Outside of feeling comfortable with yourself, knowing what not to talk about is super important if you’re going to hit it off well and just generally be someone fun and interesting to be around. So do yourself a favor, make sure you’re not bringing up any of these major no-no’s when chatting up the next women you meet.

Politics

Let’s not sugar coat it, we’re living in divisive times and no matter what side of the fence you’re on, bringing up politics on a first date or in a social setting is an absolutely huge “NO”. Just don’t do it.

Your Ex

No matter what type of dating scenario you’re in when you first meet someone, no woman wants to hear you go on an on about how great (or terrible) your ex was. Yes, there’s a time and a place to discuss past relationships but the first few dates or conversations is definitely not one of them.

Religion

Just like politics, we’re living in complex times and religion can be a very personal thing. You want your social and dating conversations to be light, fun, and interesting, not heavy and serious. Hold off on the religion talk until well into a relationship.

Work

Yes, of course, talking about what you do for a living is perfectly normal and natural. BUT, a minute or two is enough! We don’t want to hear you go on and on about your job, how you “crush it”, “close deals” or whatever else, it’s boring, move on.

Yourself

Yup, I said it. So yes, talking about yourself in the right way is critical, but it’s how you do it that matters. Do we want to learn more about what makes you unique and cool? Yes, absolutely. But do we want to hear you go on and on about your car, how much money you make, or how big your house is? Hell no. Confidence is great but being self-involved and arrogant is a huge turn-off.

10 Life Hacks Every Student Should Know

It’s back to school time again, so we thought we should share a bit of advice and wisdom for all you students out there.  School is a time for fun, sure, but it’s also time to start thinking about and working on your future. So with that in mind, here’s some of our favorite advice that every student should know.

Relax

The pressure you’ll feel is self or community imposed. All the decisions you think are completely life-changing are easily fixable if you keep your head about you and don’t fall for the trap that the major or direction you choose now is what you have to do for the rest of your life. Take your time, you don’t have to figure it all out at once.

Start good habits now

Good habits will absolutely carry through long past graduation day. So start taking your mental and physical health seriously. Work on things like eating better, getting enough sleep, reading more, and putting a productivity workflow into place (check out GTD, Pomodoro Technique, Bullet Journaling). Learn how to find your motivation and use it.

Learn how to be a good conversationalist

This skill is something that will be useful for the rest of your life. Be genuinely interested to learn about other people. Whether you’re making new friends or using your conversation skills for networking, being confident and comfortable making conversation is really important.

Internships

If you’re in college, even as a freshman – start looking into company internships NOW. They will show you what it’s really like to work for a certain type of company or industry. Use these as a try-out for potential careers. You can also talk to your guidance counselors and career centers and ask if they have any specific programs for this.

Learn money management

While it’s not taught in most schools, learning how to budget is huge. Look up personal finance (try Reddit) and how even putting $20 or $100 a month now will give you financial freedom much earlier in life – even if you’re working in a low-wage job. Don’t take on unnecessary debt. It’s easy to get sucked into putting things on a credit card, so don’t do it unless you have the means to pay it off everything month. Also, build credit as early and quickly as possible by getting a credit card and only adding 1 autopay item to it that you automatically pay off each month. If you’re worried about yourself, send it somewhere – parent, friend, etc. – if you’d be tempted to use it for unnecessary spending.

Evaluate your career/life goals

Think hard, do you actually need to be in school right now? Trades pay incredibly well and most don’t require college degrees. Your late teens and early twenties will see lots of changes. Not sure if school is for you? Take a gap year and go explore career opportunities! Education is important but school will always be there for you when the time is right.

Take responsibility for your decisions

You don’t get to blame your parents for your problems anymore. As you come of adult age, it’s time to be responsible for your thoughts and actions. You can’t blame anyone else for what happens to you from here on out. It’s up to you now to make your life as good or bad as you want it. If things aren’t going well in your life, start with numero uno and figure out what’s happening before jumping to blame outside factors. You dictate the way your life goes and you have the opportunity to make it what you want. The world doesn’t care about you enough to cause you to fail.

Evaluate all your friendships

The friendships you make during your school years will often impact your life in negative and positive ways you won’t foresee now. Toxic people can hinder you from being the best version of yourself and we talked about taking responsibility for everything earlier. Now it’s time to let that also dictate who you surround yourself with. As the saying goes, you’re the sum of the 5 people you hang with the most. So surround yourself with only good people.

Learn tact

Saying inappropriate things to people is something that’ll be harder to shake as you get older. Follow the 2-minute rule. Listen for approximately two minutes before interjecting into a conversation. You convey tact, have context of the subject matter, and understand the contributor’s style. Tact is a huge part of those conversationalist skills we mentioned earlier.

Get to know your professors

In your later years, good relationships with professors can lead to recommendations, research, and job opportunities. Don’t think your adjunct professors can’t help you, too. A lot of them actually work in the industry you’re interested in and teach as a side gig. Most faculty members are delighted when students visit them to ask about the readings, the course topic, or just to get to know them. Professors are required to hold office hours for students: your tuition is paying for that kind of contact. So use it!

You’ve entered an exciting and formative time in your life, so make the most of it! As we said, setting yourself up for success in the future starts now.