Since you’re under quarantine while you’re social-distancing, you now have the perfect opportunity to make lasting (and often fun) changes to your life.
Get A Girl’s Attention (6 Ways To Make Her Notice You)
As we round the corner to Valentine’s Day, its important to know the 6 ways to make a girl notice you. Whether you’re out and about, at work or grabbing a coffee or drink with friends, these are the best (non-creepy or douchey) ways to get a girl’s attention. Please, whatever you do, don’t do the tried-and-failed construction worker cat calls! Happy and successful hunting, gents!
Own the space around you
One way to get a girl’s attention is to take up more space. Insecure men often shrink away, collapsing their shoulders, hoping they won’t stick out. Confident men on the other hand, have no trouble showing it through their comfortable, natural body language.
One great way to take up more space and project confidence is by standing up straight and keeping your hands out of your pockets.
Look approachable
Beyond looking confident, you also want to show women you are friendly and approachable. How do you do this? One trick is to simply stay alert and engaged in your environment by making eye contact and smiling at people who walk by.
Be Social
A great way to get girls to notice you is to start fun, friendly conversations with the people around you. If you’re not sure how to do this, one trick is to take note of what a person is wearing or eating and drinking and use that as the on-ramp to a conversation.
Dress well
Seems like a no-brainer given the site you’re reading, but dressing sharp and looking clean goes a long, long way to getting girls to notice you.
Be complimentary
If there’s someone you’re eyeing, ask her a question about her drink if it’s unique looking or compliment her outfit, eyes or smile. If she engages, remember to make eye contact, smile, and say her name throughout the conversation.
Make Eye contact
We discussed earlier about making eye contact with people walking by to be more approachable. However, making direct eye contact with the girl you’re interested in is the surest way to get her attention. And also the surest way to tell if she’s interested. If she holds it longer than normal and/or keeps looking in your direction, that’s as big as a cross-the-room greenlight as you’re going to get.
Do Women Care How Much You Spend On Clothes?
One of the most common comments we see and hear time and again is “Women only care about men who spend a lot on clothing.” Now we believe that style is made up of a lot more things than just the clothes you wear and we talk a lot about how to build a stylish essential wardrobe on any budget. But, it is a fair question to ask.
So do women care how much you spend on clothes? Tune in and find out what we think!
Style and money are unrelated
Fit, and to a lesser extent, materials, denotes how “rich” you can look. You can be wearing a $5k suit but if it fits poorly and isn’t properly tailored, you’re still going to look like crap. But if you’re wearing a $500 suit that’s tailored perfectly and fits your body type well, you’re going to look like a million bucks. Dressing well in clothes that fit you isn’t expensive. Dressing poorly in designer clothing is very expensive and a complete waste of time and money, not to mention, no women will care if your suit is expensive if you look like a mess in it. Since we’re talking about fit, we’ve got Fit Guides for everything, so don’t forget to check ’em out!
Designer Doesn’t Always Mean Good
Covering yourself in designer labels to show how much you spend on clothes actually just shows a lack of class and tact. Wearing a $500 Gucci T-shirt is silly for two reasons: one, they’re knocked off so easily that often people assume it’s fake anyway, and two, did you really just pay $500 for a $2 shirt with a Gucci logo screen printed on it? To women, it makes you look like more of a sucker and its incredibly off-putting. Looking good is about the details and subtlety – women pick up on these more than most men know.
Dress Within Your Means
We mention it a lot around here but it bears repeating, style is achievable at literally any budget. If you’re spending more than what your means allow on your clothing, that’s an instant alarm to a woman. It shows you’re either insecure or irresponsible financially. Either way, very unattractive. Be honest about your budget and stick with what works for it, it’s a much, much better look. Don’t believe us? We’ve got recommendations for budget-friendly denim, chinos, and more.
Dress For The Situation
If you’re wearing expensive clothing, but it’s inappropriate for the situation, women will be repelled. Wearing your brash, iced-out Hublot watch to a black-tie affair is just gauche. Flashy shows of money like this are inappropriate and they send up red flags like “insecure”, “ignorant”, “tacky”. Subtlety and class are infinitely more important to women, even when they don’t know it. EVERY woman, regardless of who they are, would jump James Bond’s bones because he’s subtle, confident, and elegant in his style. Remember that.
The Verdict: Absolutely Not
Take it from a woman (and an incredibly accomplished one at that), the right women care about so many things that aren’t money and how much of it you spend (or pretend to spend) on your clothing. Style is about so much more than just what you wear and women know this. Style can be achieved no matter what your budget is, even if it’s zero, so don’t forget that!
7 Books That Could Change Your Life
Whether you’re a student or making your way in the professional world, never underestimate the power of a great read or two. Whether it’s about organization hacks and work habits or motivation and goal setting, we always encourage you to keep up with some solid reading.
We’re both big believers in the improvements that great books can make in your life so we thought we’d share some of our favorite, life-changing reads with our picks for 7 books that could change your life!
The Last Lecture
Randy Pausch was a professor at Carnegie-Mellon University who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in 2006. He died in 2008 but before he died he gave an incredibly moving lecture called “Achieving Your Childhood Dreams”. “The Last Lecture” is an addendum to the commencement speech he gave after he learned that he was dying, and it’s the perfect ready for those feeling overwhelmed by it all. It’s an especially great must-read for any students who want to take some time to pull back and think about the big picture in life.
Bullet Journal Method
We’ve raved about this one before, this NY Times bestseller and one of Dorian’s favorite organizational books, we’re both now converts of this goal setting and organizational process. No matter if you’re working in a business job or in school, the tools and tips in this book are incredibly useful for maximizing your time, organizational habits, and overall work/school performance.
Tao Te Ching (Stephen Mitchell translation)
A super quick, impactful read, this philosophy book is sort of like a very practical operating system for living your life. Written by an ancient philosopher, it just goes to show how universal good advice and practical wisdom can be. Just make sure you get the translation by Stephen Mitchell linked above, it’s universally regarded as the best one among many, many options.
4 Hour Work Week
Another one of our favorites that we have talked about before, this book is all about thinking about smart work versus hard work. This book is packed with solid tips and an excellent framework for creating success in work, school, and life in general.
Catch-22
An absolutely classic work of fiction, Catch-22 focuses on the absurdity of war, but just like in war, college life is absolutely absurd if you step back and look at it. It was recently made into a tv series as well.
The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business
We all know how good habits and positively affect our lives, both with school and work and this excellent book is a great deep dive that not only explains how habits are formed but also how to kick bad ones and hang on to the good. Essential reading if you’re embarking on a new school year or a new job.
How To Win Friends and Influence People
Al all-time classic, this book about personal and professional relationships is just as relevant today as it was when it was first published way back in 1936 (seriously!).
A Few More Of Our Favorites
Thinking, Fast and Slow
An international bestseller, this book by a renowned psychologist and winner of the Nobel Prize in Economics, is a fascinating dive into our minds and explains the two systems that drive the way we think. An essential for someone who’s working on developing better habits and efficiencies, both in school or work decision making.
Do You Do It, Or Does It Do You?
An incredibly insightful lecture by Alan Watts, this piece is a must-listen.
Wisdom of Insecurity
The perfect antidote for those struggling with anxiety, stress, and an uncertain future.
Rework
A great look at what it really takes to grow a business on your own as an entrepreneur from the founders of Basecamp.
Sherlock Holmes Collection
The classic detective series isn’t just entertaining, it can teach out a lot about how critical thinking, reasoning, and introspection can play a part in day-to-day life.
7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Another absolute classic-for-a-reason, 7 Habits is one of the best and most successful business and self-help books because of it’s no-nonsense approach to building great habits.
Does This Apply To Me?
It may seem deceptively simple, but who does our advice apply to? We always strive to give our audience useful, practical advice about style, life, dating, and more, all from an experienced and thoughtful perspective. Whether it’s wardrobe tips for the season or advice on how to improve social skills, we always do our best to appeal to as broad of an audience as possible.
In this episode of 2 Minute Tuesday we’re diving into a great question about who should take our advice and why, so tune in and find out what we think!
Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter
Our life and style advice applies to all, regardless of hair color, body type, or sexual preference. We do our best to give our educated advice on style and life that should work for most, if not all people. Sexual preference is a highly personal subject to you and you alone, we’re just here to help you dress and live better, no matter who you’re into. So, you can take that idea out of the equation and just focus on it without the lens of sexual preference.
Essential Style Is Important, But Make It Personal
We always discuss the foundations of a timeless, Essential Wardrobe because it’s versatile and always in style. But that doesn’t mean you have to dress a particular way if it’s not you. Once you have the foundations of style built you can then add in your personal touches to make it your own. Like streetwear or “bad boy style”, your personal style shouldn’t feel like a costume or inauthentic, it should be a representation of your own personality, no matter who you are or what your sexual orientation is.
How To Deal With Rejection
Rejection is a part of life, both personally and professionally. We all face it and it’s unavoidable. But, it’s also a great learning opportunity. Whether it’s about your self-confidence or how you interact with people, what’s important is how you learn to get over it and what you take away from it. Believe it or not, it takes some practice but learning how to deal with rejection comes down to 5 simple factors.
Accept It
Know that it’s a part of your romantic life and you will have to deal with it. The sooner you accept it and know that you will grow stronger from it the less power fear will have over you.
Learn From It
Make sure you take away something from the rejection. Whether it’s learning from a mistake you made or that a particular someone wasn’t right for you, rejection can be a powerful learning experience.
Give It Time
Getting over rejection takes time, so be patient. Focus on yourself – your health, fitness, mental strength and you’ll emerge stronger and better. Don’t beat yourself up after a short period of time, time heals all, as the old saying goes.
It’s Not The End Of The World
Yes, it’s a terrible cliche but it’s absolutely true. Lean on your support group of friends and family and try to take a step back and look at the big picture. Every person you probably admire has been rejected and moved on to do great things and you can too!
Get Rejected More Often
Getting rejected more often is actually a good tool. It actually makes it easier to deal with and helps you understand and move on more quickly. Also, getting rejected means you’re taking risks and living life to the fullest.
5 Reasons Why You’re More Attractive To Women Than You Think
We all deal with insecurities and doubt, it’s a part of life. But we’re here to tell you that you’re probably not giving yourself enough credit. Being confident takes some work, but here are 5 reasons why you’re actually more attractive to women than you think.
You Actually Are – Many of us have a tendency to naturally underrate ourselves. In fact, studies have shown we are actually scientifically 20% more attractive than we may think. So give yourself some more credit, it’s true.
Attractiveness Isn’t Just Physical – Personality, sense of humor, kindness, being well-spoken, all of these non-physical factors have an immense effect on how attractive you are perceived to be. That’s why it’s all the more important that you cultivate these qualities as well as physical ones.
You Care About Yourself – You’re watching this channel so you’re immediately ahead of the game because you care about your style and appearance and are willing to put some effort into them. Caring about these things not only makes you more attractive than you probably think, but it also puts you head and shoulders above a lot of other men.
Your Perception is Warped – We live in a world dominated by perfection and social media and this has given us a warped sense of who we are. Absolutely nobody is perfect, but celebrity culture and internet culture has unfortunately made us think we need to be, but it’s simply not true. The fact is, most average people are attractive by any normal standard, yourself included.
You Can Always Improve – Many of the traits that make up so-called “attractiveness” are things you can learn and get better at. It just takes putting your mind to it and making the effort. Confidence and self-improvement are sexy and they’re things every man can work on.
Why “Bad Boy” Style Is Usually Cheesy
here’s a ton of content out there about dressing like a “bad boy” or an “alpha” and usually, it’s not a great look. Many men equate “bad boy style” with confidence and these things are simply not that intertwined as you think. Improving your style should be a pillar to growing your confidence, you shouldn’t adopt an exaggerated persona or image and expect confidence from a costume.
Why “Bad Boy” Style Is Usually Cheesy
It’s Not Really That Stylish
Sure, I love a good leather jacket and dark denim, they should be staple pieces in your essential wardrobe, but most of this so-called “bad boy” style involves a lot of things that don’t look great – over accessorizing with jewelry, out-of-style items, too much embellishment and “look at me” attitude. It’s a little too try-hard.
It’s Not Versatile/Practical
Ultimately it’s too one dimensional for most men. Having good overall style means having a well-rounded wardrobe with a mix of different items for a variety of situations. You can’t wear a t-shirt, boots, and jeans everywhere.
It’s Inauthentic
Typical “bad boy” items don’t work for everyone and every body type. Trying to fit your look and personal style into a particular box because it might make you seem cool or confident will only come off as fake. Finding your own individual style and sense of self are way more important (and attractive!) than pretending to be something you’re not.