Men’s Shoes (7 Ways To Up Your Shoe Game)

Hopefully, you’ve already got the wardrobe, grooming and other accessories locked down, so now its time to give your shoes some much-needed attention. 

Use shoe trees

They keep your shoes odor and moisture free and also help maintain their shape when you’re not wearing them. They’re a great investment that you’ll use for the next few decades, promise. In a pinch, you can also use the original paper inserts.
Favorites: These, or These

Use a shoe horn

When putting on your shoes, if you’re stomping your foot in, or tearing some of the skin off your fingers while using them as a shoe horn, you’re ruining the backs of your shoes, you fingers, or both. Whether they’re sneakers, dress shoes or boots, there’s nothing worse than the backs of your shoes getting wrinkled and faded because you’re not using a shoe horn.
Favorites: Choice #1, Choice #2

Tie your shoes properly

It may sound trivial, but where you separate the men from the boys is by paying attention to the details like how you tie your shoes. So you should definitely learn how to tie your shoes so the laces lay flat, at least, but frankly, there’s an even better solution in the next point.

Hide the laces

Nothing ruins a great outfit more than long, floppy and/or ill-tied shoelaces. What you really should do is hide them and the best possible way to do this ever is by using these special laces we found a few weeks ago that makes laces that are meant to be hidden. You only have to tie them once and suddenly all your sneakers and dress shoes are now slip ons with amazing looking laces. Seriously, they’re game-changers.

Keep them clean

Give them a quick rub down about once a week with a moist rag, sponge or paper towel, or as they get dirty. Then once a month, do a little deeper cleaning with a proper shoe cleaning kit for about 5 minutes once a month. If you’ve got dress shoes, you can also polish them, but typically, a little cleaning every few days goes a long way.

Get Rid Of The Stink

What some people don’t know is that actual smell is bacteria, and it’s living inside your socks, shoes, and on your feet, so it’s imperative that you kill the pesky bacteria before it turns into a foot infection or worse… There’s a spray that is fantastic and kills bacteria in 10 seconds and has a nice citrus smell. When storing your shoes overnight, pop these in them, as needed.

Buy Multiples

If you have a pair of shoes that you love and fear their eventual demise, the best thing to do is buy multiple pairs of them and swap them out to give them some rest. Coupled with using shoetrees and keeping them clean, your shoes will last significantly longer if you give them breaks between wearing.

Get A Girl’s Attention (6 Ways To Make Her Notice You)

As we round the corner to Valentine’s Day, its important to know the 6 ways to make a girl notice you. Whether you’re out and about, at work or grabbing a coffee or drink with friends, these are the best (non-creepy or douchey) ways to get a girl’s attention. Please, whatever you do, don’t do the tried-and-failed construction worker cat calls! Happy and successful hunting, gents!

 

 

Own the space around you

One way to get a girl’s attention is to take up more space. Insecure men often shrink away, collapsing their shoulders, hoping they won’t stick out. Confident men on the other hand, have no trouble showing it through their comfortable, natural body language.
One great way to take up more space and project confidence is by standing up straight and keeping your hands out of your pockets.

Look approachable

Beyond looking confident, you also want to show women you are friendly and approachable. How do you do this? One trick is to simply stay alert and engaged in your environment by making eye contact and smiling at people who walk by.

Be Social

A great way to get girls to notice you is to start fun, friendly conversations with the people around you. If you’re not sure how to do this, one trick is to take note of what a person is wearing or eating and drinking and use that as the on-ramp to a conversation.

Dress well

Seems like a no-brainer given the site you’re reading, but dressing sharp and looking clean goes a long, long way to getting girls to notice you.

Be complimentary

If there’s someone you’re eyeing, ask her a question about her drink if it’s unique looking or compliment her outfit, eyes or smile. If she engages, remember to make eye contact, smile, and say her name throughout the conversation.

Make Eye contact

We discussed earlier about making eye contact with people walking by to be more approachable. However, making direct eye contact with the girl you’re interested in is the surest way to get her attention. And also the surest way to tell if she’s interested. If she holds it longer than normal and/or keeps looking in your direction, that’s as big as a cross-the-room greenlight as you’re going to get.

Menswear Essentials (11 Items Every Guy Needs in 2020)

Ashley and Dorian are back to discuss the essential menswear items that will keep your style on point in the new year (and decade!) and beyond. Whether you’re reworking your entire closet or just filling the gaps in your wardrobe, make sure you at least have these foundational items so you can build up from there.

 

 

Dress shoes

Ideally, you want to have at least a black pair if you own a charcoal suit and a dark brown pair if you own a navy suit or blazer. They can also be paired with jeans or wool trousers for a more elevated, casual look.

Favorites: Allen Edmonds, Johnston & Murphy, Beckett & Simonon, Aldo, Prada and Ferragamo.

 

The Essential Suit

Need we say more?

 

White dress shirt

We’ve talked about dress shirts until we’re blue in the face. Just grab some already!

Oxford Button Down Dress Shirts

Grab some in white and blue.

Dark wash jeans

If you’ve been a reader of the site for more than a few months, chances are you’ve already grabbed these, but just have to re-iterate once again!

 

White T-Shirt

These are standards for a reason – they look amazing on every guys, provided you nail the fit. Pick up some in navy, grey, and black to round out your closet.
Favorites: Buck Mason, H&M

Crewneck Sweater

Whether it’s wool, cashmere, or cotton, a crewneck sweater in a solid color, like black or charcoal, will always make every outfit look better. Bonus points if you wear a tighter white t-shirt underneath that pops out of the collar and possibly the bottom, for a little extra polish.
Favorites: H&M

Casual brown & black belts

You’ll wear these more than any other belts so get some high-quality ones.

Favorites: Black, Brown

A Casual jacket

That can obviously be a few types of jackets. Namely a: sport coat, bomber, Harrington (zipper front), or trucker (button-front). If you carry a bit of weight in your stomach, then go with bomber or sport coat/blazer. The other jackets will accentuate your midsection too much.

 


Low top sneakers

White is best and looks sharpest, but if you don’t think you can pull off the color (yet), then feel free to grab a black or gray pair.

I prefer to start with leather because its more durable and easier to keep clean than suede, canavs or other fabrics. Once you’ve got a white leather pair, then definitely get other colors and materials as you build out from there.

Favorites: White, Gray, Black

 

Watch

In an ideal world, you’d have a sport watch (metal bracelet) as well as a more “dressy” watch with a leather strap.

The Best Men’s Fragrances Women Love | Best Men’s Cologne 2019

Men’s fragrances come in all varieties these days and wearing the wrong one can be a huge mistake. We’re going to break down the different types/classes of scents women love and let you know when the best times are to wear them. Ultimately, what scents you wear are a highly personal choice so make sure you invest some time in finding the right ones and trying different scents out. Too much cologne is a huge mistake when it comes to interacting in any social or professional situation and especially when dating.

The fragrance world is wide but we’re here to guide you with a few simple tips, here are the best men’s fragrances women love!

General Tips

Try The Scent On Yourself First

Scents change and react differently for each person, so it’s very important to try a bunch of them and see what you like and what feedback is like. 

Choose The Right Scent For The Season

Not only do you need to consider the scent but the seasonality of it. You want heavier, more masculine scents in the colder months, and lighter, cleaner fragrances in the warmer months. Think of it just like the seasonality of your wardrobe.

Go Light

Finally, and maybe most importantly, make sure you’re applying the right way and going very light. If you can smell it on yourself very strongly, you’re wearing too much.

Fragrances Women Love

For this article and video, our friends at Fulton & Roark sent us a range of different scents to explore and we’re going to give you a rundown on what we liked best when you should wear them. Each Fulton & Roark fragrance uses a blend of naturally sourced essential oils and premium fragrance ingredients and each cologne offers its own experience. These highly concentrated solid colognes offer a long-lasting and steady fragrance designed to keep you fresh. More subtle than liquid sprays, the solids aren’t as overwhelming (a huge pet peeve of ours!). The solid metal containers also travel easily in a gym bag, pocket or carry-on, allowing you to smell your best wherever and whenever.

In addition to a range of awesome scents, Fulton & Roark offers a handy and affordable tester kit so you can try all of their fragrances first. The tester kit is $16 but you also get a $16 credit back that’s good towards your first cologne purchase. Plus the kit ships for free. As a bonus for you guys, you can get 10% off your order with code ASHLEY.

Get your Fulton & Roark tester kit right here (plus 10% off)!

Here’s our rundown on all of the scents they offer plus when we think they’d be best for.

 

Hatteras

For us. the notes of lavender and hay just don’t go together in this one. It creates a bit of an overwhelming scent that wasn’t our favorite.

 

Shackleford

We loved this one and Ashley can’t stop smelling this scent. We liked the leather notes combined with some hints of dried fruit that creates a warm feeling. It’s captivating.

Best For: Fall/Winter

 

Tybee

Ashley loved the light, bright notes on this one which make it the perfect choice for the spring and summer months. You can smell the cedar notes which gives it a fresh, clean feeling while still being masculine.

Best For: Spring/Summer

 

Clearwater

This fragrance is light, but the green, mossy notes end up smelling a bit like chemicals. But, the citrus notes cut through those elements so you end up with a very nice scent that’s reminiscent of freshly-squeezed orange juice.

Best For: Spring/Summer

 

Captiva

 This scent is a bit overpowering for us. It almost had a sunscreen/spf scent that didn’t work for Ashley. This is one that could be heavily dependent on the wearer so while we recommend trying it for yourself, this one was a pass for us.

 

Sterling

This fragrance was another one we really loved. It’s a bit sweet due to the vanilla but still smells masculine with the tobacco & leather notes. Women will love this scent as it will make them want to cozy up to the man wearing this scent, which is why it’s the perfect winter fragrance.

Best For: Fall/Winter 

 

Palmetto

The magnolia notes remind us of the Spring and Summer months. It’s light and just smells really clean, especially with the cedar note you get at the end. We really liked this one.

Best For: Spring/Summer

 

Perpetua

For Ashley, there’s something about woodsy notes like cedar and mahogany that just smell really great on a man. This scent has those notes along with some citrus and floral notes that make this the perfect year-round scent.

Best For: Year-Round

 

Gift Guide For The Women In Your Life | Best Gifts For Women

Now that you’ve settled on a few gifts for your friends or family members (and hopefully yourself too), it’s time to focus on the women in your life. Sure, we know this can be super stressful but don’t worry, we did all the hard work for you. We’ve got a great lineup of gifts for the women in your life, whether it’s your significant other, sister, mother, or just friends. Don’t forget to check out our Men’s Gift Guide too.

Here are our picks for the best gifts for the women in your life!

 

Silk Pillowcase – $85

Trust me, she will thank you. When you sleep on silk vs cotton, you no longer will get those sleep creases on your face which contribute to wrinkles, plus silk pillowcases are much kinder on her hair will offer more protection from split ends and breakage. As a bonus companion gift, we really like this Silk Eyemask ($50) because it’s super comfortable, kind on the skin and great for travel!

 

Ultra-Slim Lightweight Charger – $29

An awesome gift we’ve mentioned before, this small, handy charger is perfect for the person who’s constantly running on low battery (aka, everyone!).

 

Skylar Beauty Products

Ashley highly recommends all the beauty products from our friends at Skylar as gifts for the women in your life. They’re all hypoallergenic, non-toxic, and free of parabens and chemicals, making them great for any skin type and beauty routine. They have a range of sets perfect for gifting including the Best of Body gift box with body lotion and wash, as well as a hand cream. It features Ashley’s favorite ocean-inspired scent called Isle.

Other easy gifts options are their Scent Experience, a sample of all 6 of their amazing fragrances, along with a gift card for a full-size version of whichever scent she ends up loving, and the Scent Club Gift Subscriptions, which fit any budget and are great if the woman you’re buying it for likes to try different scents. They have 3, 6 and 12-month options.

Plus, just for our readers and viewers, you can get 20% off your purchase with code JOLLY20 at check out. Plus, you’ll get a free Arrow rollie when you spend $80 or more (auto-applied, no code needed). Get your shopping done soon, this free gift offer ends on 12/9!

 

Instant Film Camera – $99

Everyone loves an instant film camera and she’ll definitely be sure to use this as soon as she unwraps it. We love the rose gold or graphite color options. These are awesome for parties and events too!

 

Essential Oil Diffuser – $22

One of those must-have items she never knew she needed, these aromatherapy diffusers fill the home with amazing scents of all types.

 

L.L. Bean Fleece Robe – $79

A super-soft, super-cozy robe, need we say more? We both have these and they’re a morning staple in our house most days.

 

Portable Bluetooth Speaker – $35

Super handy at home or while traveling, we love this version because it’s really affordable, waterproof and durable. The perfect stocking stuffer for anyone.

 

Capri Blue Volcano Jar Candle – $30

Never underestimate the power of a great candle as a gift.  This one is a tried and true option and we guarantee she’ll love it.

 

Nars lipstick pencil duo – $20

Don’t be intimidated by buying makeup for her, this one is a no-fail option. Nars is a great brand and this subtle color duo will look great on any woman, no matter what her beauty routine is or what type of skin tone she has.

 

Gold Hoop Earrings – $150

Classic, timeless, and beautiful, a chic pair of gold earrings from one of Ashley’s favorite women’s brands are always a stylish gift, no matter what accessories she typically wears.

Winter Accessories Every Man Should Own | Best Men’s Winter Accessories

Winter can be a tough time for your personal style, plus the weather and elements require special attention for your wardrobe and, more importantly, your accessories. That said, the right winter accessories will bring both function and personality to your wardrobe. It doesn’t all have to be about keeping warm (though that’s definitely important), it’s a great opportunity to add some extra style to whatever you’re wearing. For more basic tips, make sure to check out all of our Winter Essentials and our article on Winter Style Do’s and Don’ts

Here are our picks for the Men’s Winter Accessories That Every Man Should Own!

 

Cashmere / Wool Knit Hat

A must when it’s freezing. Go for a thicker rib knit and try cashmere for a luxurious touch that’s soft, light, and warm. Don’t be afraid to try a pop of color here too!

Hat 1

Hat 2

Budget-Friendly

 

A Patterned Scarf

The perfect time to add some color or pattern into the mix. Just a hint of it peeking out from under a coat is a sharp, stylish look. Cashmere is a great option here too, it’s very light and warm.

Picks:

Scarf 1

Scarf 2

Budget-Friendly

 

Gloves

We’re not talking about thick ski-style gloves, but something lighter but still warm. Look for knit versions in wool or cashmere or lined leather options for a sharp touch (especially if you dress up often).

Gloves 1

Gloves 2

Budget-Friendly

 

Slim Dressy Watch

Add in a thin watch that toes the line between dressy and casual so you can dress it up or down. Layered and formal outfits need a watch that’s not big and bulky. Wearing a big, sporty watch with dressier looks can just throw off the proportions. Luckily our friends at Nove watches have the perfect styles.  Their watches are high-quality, Swiss-made, and come in a variety of slim styles that work well with a range of looks. Plus, we’ve got a special deal for you guys. Use offer code AW20 for 20% off your purchase.

Picks (from the video):

Watch 1

Watch 2

 

Merino Wool Socks

Merino wool has incredible technical properties (warm, lightweight and dries quickly) and there are great options out there that are lightweight, warm, and stylish. 

Our Favorite Merino Wool Socks

Another Pick

 

Thermals

We discussed in our Winter Do’s and Don’ts, and the right pair won’t be bulky or too hot and can easily layer underneath both casual and dressy clothes. We really like our go-to pick below because they are very light, warm, and won’t break the bank.

Thermals Pic

 

Extra-moisturizing skincare products

Nobody likes the look of dull, dry skin and the cold, dry air can be brutal on your hands and face so take extra care to moisturize properly. The right products and a solid morning routine and evening grooming routine will really help keep your skin looking great during the winter.

Picks:

Moisturizer 1 – Get 30% Off With Code Ashley30

Moisturizer 2

Moisturizer 3

Moisturizer 4

 

Leather Lace-Up Boots With A Rubber Sole

Proper boots for the winter are crucial and if you’re dealing with a lot of rain and snow you want to make sure your boots are protected and have a rubber sole for traction and durability. Some of our picks below have a Dainite sole which is the gold standard in terms of protection and grip in wet, snowy conditions.

Picks:

Dress Boots 1

Dress Boots 2

Casual Boots 1

Casual Boots 2

 

Dorian’s Outfit Details

Jeans

Boots (similar)

Glasses

Peacoat

Sweater

Gloves (similar)

Scarf (similar)

Men’s Winter Style Do’s and Don’ts | Men’s Winter Style Tips

Winter can be a tough time for your personal style. Cold weather and the elements can lull you into just giving up, but don’t do it! These few simple tips can keep you looking sharp and feeling great, no matter how cold it gets! For more tips, make sure to check out our Fall/Winter Essentials Series!

Here are our Winter Style Do’s and Don’ts!

Winter Style Do’s

Do Add Some Colorful Jewel-toned Accessories

The right hats, scarves, and gloves are crucial for warmth and style. They’re also a great opportunity to add some color and pattern to brighten up your look. Colors like emerald green, a mustardy yellow, dark purples, reds, and blues are all easy to incorporate into your winter wardrobe and pack a stylish punch of color.

Picks:

Scarf 1

Scarf 2

Scarf 3

Hat 1

Hat 2

Hat 3

Gloves 1

Gloves 2

Gloves 3

 

Do Invest In Quality Outerwear

We talk a lot about where and when to invest, and outside of dress shoes & boots, outerwear is the other major area we really recommend investing in. You get what you pay for and with the right investment, a high-quality coat, peacoat, or jacket will last for years to come, keep you warm, and have you looking stylish.

Picks:

Overcoat

Overcoat 2

Parka

Puffer Parka

Parka 2

Peacoat

Peacoat 2

 

Do Get The Right thermals

There are many great brands offering very thin/lightweight thermals that’ll layer comfortably underneath your clothes and keep you warm. The key is to get a trim fit, that way they’ll lay flat and layer easily under everything from jeans to suits. Our pick below is light, warm and you can wear these as a base layer underneath your clothes or on their own as a long sleeve shirt.

Thermals Pick

 

Winter Style Don’ts

Don’t Neglect Your Skin

You may not think so, but cold-weather skincare is just as important as warm weather skincare. The cold, dry weather can be incredibly harsh on your skin and strip away it’s protection, so it’s super important to cleanse and moisturize properly and stay hydrated. There’s nothing more distracting and unattractive than dry, dull skin.

Luckily, our friends at Geologie have you covered. Geologie puts together a simple routine formulated for daily use. The products are personalized to your skin’s needs and work great for every skin type. We tested out their set that comes with 4 different products:  Everyday Face Wash, Vital Morning Face Cream w/ SPF, Repairing Night Cream & Nourishing Eye Cream. It even includes 2 bottles of face wash, one for your sink and one for your shower or to take with you to the gym. Plus, just for our readers and viewers, you can get 30% off your purchase with code Ashley30! Shop here and enter the code at checkout.

 

Don’t Forget To Layer

We talked about it for Fall, and it’s just as applicable in Winter.  Proper layering can help you regulate your temperature and look stylish no matter how cold it is, making sure you’re comfortable going from the cold outside to warm inside (subway, office, etc.).

 

Don’t Forget To Winterize your boots

Boots are essential footwear for Winter (our go-to picks for this year are right here) and the right pair can look amazing and last a long time. But, you’ve got to prepare them with the right leather treatments to keep them from getting ruined in the inclement weather.

Boot Treatment Kit

10 Ways You’re Killing Your Style | Men’s Style Mistakes

Once you’ve got the basics of style down, it’s important to focus on those little things that can make or break your personal style and everyday look. Something as simple as a little mistake can totally throw off your look or ruin otherwise good style choices. Oftentimes its something as simple as how you present a particular choice. No matter what it is, focusing on the proper details and nailing those can save you from potential disaster.  Some of these mistakes might be obvious but some you may not even know you are doing!

So, here are 10 ways you may be killing your style!

 

Being Overly Self-Conscious

Trying too hard can be as bad as not trying at all. Wearing trendy items that aren’t you or not wearing things that make you feel comfortable and confident are quick ways to ruin your overall style. People notice how you feel and if you’re feeling good about what you’re wearing and looking good, it will stand out.

 

Wearing Clothing That Doesn’t Work for your body type

Working with your body type is a huge part of getting well-fitting clothing. Choosing items that will flatter and fit well is crucial. Some easy items to avoid are henley shirts if you’re not fit or muscular, Chelsea boots if you’re a bigger guy, and classic straight-legged jeans if you’re a thinner guy. Check out all of our Fit Guides for tips about different body types and how things should fit.

 

Over-accessorizing

Yikes, this can go wrong so easily, over-accessorizing can be a huge problem. Johnny Depp, you are not. Go easy on rings, bracelets, and other flashy items and go for more subtle, refined accessories to show some personality or flair. Stick with 1 or 2 items max, like a pocket square and a watch.

 

Wearing too much cologne

A little goes a long way, and there’s nothing worse than smelling someone from 5 feet away. Nobody (especially women) wants that. If you can smell yourself, it’s too much.

 

Not paying attention to the details

Again, the little things matter, so take care to focus on them. Things like not lint rolling your clothing (especially dark shirts, suits, and jackets), wearing wrinkled clothing (just get our recommended steamer), and not tucking in your shoelaces really matter with your overall look.

Speaking of tucking in shoelaces (something Ashley is always super focused on as a stylist), our friends at Straight Laces have an ingenious shoelace set up that creates a clean, tucked look and basically turns all your shoes into slip on’s.  It’s such a smart, useful product and we’re using them on all our shoes personally and with Ashley’s clients. Seriously, they’re that good. Just for our readers and viewers, we’ve got a deal for 40% off 3 or more laces! Shop here and use code AshWeston40.

 

Not dressing your age

We’ve discussed how to dress well in your 40’s before and a big part of it is embracing your age and wearing items that are classy and age-appropriate.

 

Wearing dirty, old shoes

Hopefully, this goes without saying, but a bad pair of shoes can absolutely ruin your entire look. Keep them in good condition and shined up.

 

Not Grooming Regularly

Overgrown hair, beards, and fingernails are no bueno. Make sure you’re taking proper care of your grooming and putting your best foot forward.  Especially important in professional environments. We’ve got a ton of tips in all of our grooming guides.

 

Not taking care of your skin

Just like your grooming, proper skin care is an important part of your overall routine. It doesn’t have to be fancy or complicated but you should find a morning routine and an evening routine that works for you. Focus on moisturizing, good shaving techniques, and using the right products.

 

Wearing faded, ripped or pilled items

When items are faded (especially shirts, pants and sweaters), it’s time to send them off to the donation bin and get some replacements. If your sweaters are pilled, you just need to get a sweater shaver (we like this one best) to remove the little balls and get it back in good shape.