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Eliminate Face Oil
This is such BS, and actually creates more problems than it fixes. Your skin is naturally oily. Now unless your dermatologist is telling you otherwise, the goal is not to “dry your face out”, in fact, you should be moisturizing that bad boy so you skin doesn’t go crazy and over-produce oils on your face, which in-turn causes more zits and imperfections.
Wash your face all time
Unless your dermatologist has advised otherwise, you should only be washing your face with soap once a day, at most. The other time, usually the morning, should just be a splash of water. Washing your face is supposed to get surface dirt and products off your face, that’s it.
Would you wash your hands if they weren’t dirty? Same applies to your face.
The only people telling you to wash with soap twice a day are companies trying to sell you more washing products, or doctors for a very specific reason.
Only Buy “Men’s” Products
Don’t delude yourself and think that womens products won’t be any less or better than men’s. The major difference between men’s and women’s products are scents and packaging – that’s it. Don’t fall for the marketing hype.
Microdermabrasion Tools are good for your skin
They can be HORRIBLE for your skin, actually. This has been proven time and time again, including harsh scrubbing face washes, etc. All the people you see recommending those tools or scrubbing face washes are getting paid to basically ruin your skin. Don’t believe it!
A friend of mine’s is the CEO of the company who invented the microdermabrasion tools you see on the market and he even says it’s horrible for your skin outside of very serious treatments that should be done very rarely.
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Popping pimples makes them go away faster
Popping a pimple is no different than getting a scratch or break in your skin. The second the top layer of your skin is broken, like popping a pimple, you’re exposing the under layers of your epidermis to bacteria, which causes inflammation and infection.
The pimple would actually go away much quicker if you used a topical salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide cream and left it alone.
While we’re on the topic of pimples…
Skip Moisturizers If You Have Acne
Unless your dermatologist is recommending it, skipping moisturizers and having dry skin won’t make your pimples go away, it’ll actually cause more redness and inflammation.
don’t wear a daily SPF if you have dark skin or work indoors
Just like I mentioned in my best men’s daily and sport sunscreens video, every man should be wearing a daily moisturizer with spf in it. Period.
Windows in cars and office buildings don’t block all the UVA and UVB rays that damage your skin, so you need protection regardless of your occupation.
Check the video for what unprotected vs protected skin looks like.
A tan will prevent sunburn & skin damage
Couldn’t be further from the truth. Skin exposed to sun for longer than a few minutes will start getting damaged – regardless of how dark you are. The only difference is you may not get burned as quickly if you have darker skin, but any prolonged exposure causes damage. A little sunshine for vitamin D is great, anything more than a little will damage your skin.
Acne is not influenced by your diet
While diet isn’t the only cause of acne and pimples, it definitely contributes. Everyone’s body reacts differently, but like mine, if I eat a lot of dairy or sugar, I’ll get more zits. I’ve actually tested this on multiple occasions to make sure I wasn’t imagining it.
That’s it! Check out my other Men’s Grooming Essentials videos/articles for more details.
It doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship, taking someone out on a date is enjoyable for both of you and gives you the chance to enjoy each other’s company and get to know each other on a deeper level. Experiencing new things together, or introducing one another to new experiences is how you both grow as individuals and as a couple, so don’t neglect it!
For the first few dates, especially, you want to keep things lively and literally moving, otherwise there’s a chance to have some awkward quiet moments, which you want to avoid. It also shows that you know how to plan for an occasion, which my girlfriends and I find very telling about someone.
You’ll notice that most of these dates are incredibly cheap, but they’re also some of the best dates my girlfriends and I have been on. So keep that in mind. Now, don’t get me wrong, a beautiful meal at a high-end restaurant is also nice but it’s really not a deal breaker, or maker – for that matter.
A walk through a museum
Dorian and I’s first date was at the Natural History Museum. They have a few times in the year where they open it up at night and have cocktails and music and you can walk around the museum chatting and sipping a drink – it was a lot of fun and is definitely a great choice. Any decently sized museum, even quirky ones, will be great because you always have something new to comment on and discuss if the conversation lulls.
Stroll around a town center
Most towns have a little center or street with little stores, restaurants and coffee shops where you can grab a tea or coffee and just walk around and see what’s going on. Here in LA, we have a few of malls where they have parks and fountains in them that are great for a date. It’s actually very enjoyable to sit on a bench and chat and people watch.
If your city has a bike rental service and you’re both proficient riders, then that is also very fun to do as well. Dorian, who’s an experienced road cyclist, made me do this in Paris and it was so much more fun than I thought it would be. So that’s another great option.
Playing an easy-to-do sport
Going to a golf driving range or mini golf course is a blast, even if neither of you play, since it’s fun to watch each other struggle to hit the balls or sink the putt.
Bowling, while a little cliche, is also good, as long as your partner doesn’t have long nails – that’s when it’s no fun.
Everyone can appreciate a beautiful garden on a nice day. Bring a chilled wine, if you’re allowed, or grab some tea or coffee and take a stroll through one. They normally have little placards by the plants, so you can read about the interesting ones together and discuss them.
Korean BBQ or something like a Benihana is great because it requires you both to be engaged with either cooking the food or watching someone do it, instead of just staring at each other the whole time.
We’re lucky in LA in that the weather is good year round and we have really amazing hiking spots nearby, so an evening or morning hike is always fun and healthy at the same time! You can also out for a quick breakfast or dinner afterwards, if things are going well, too.
This is kind of a no-brainer, but it’s still a good option from time to time. This really isn’t required for a first date, but definitely on dates where you’re interested in him or her and want to make it more known you’re serious about your intentions. This is also great for long-term relationships.
Call, text or email your date and tell them to be dressed in their best clothes and be ready at a certain time and then take them to a fine dining experience. Go outside your norm a little and read reviews about restaurants and find something that fits your budget but is classy.
Dorian is a big baseball and hockey fan and before meeting him, I was neither of those. So for one of our first dates, he took me to a see an LA King’s hockey game and it was so much fun! Plus, as he told me while I was working on this story, he used the opportunity of explaining the rules to get a little closer to me without it being obvious or creepy.
Baseball is still a work in progress, but I’m slowly coming around. 🙂
Lounge or wine bar
If you’re a good conversationalist, you can do this as a first date. But if not, then wait until you’re a little more comfortable in each other’s presence and go to a wine bar or cocktail lounge. Just make sure it’s not a regular bar that blasts music or is showing sports – unless you’re both super into sports. Ideally, you want to keep it as classy as possible. Lots of candles and a little jazz music will make this even better and more romantic.
Dorian and I have a little french wine bar we loved to go to while we were dating and still go to this day. It’s all candle lit and so romantic, we’d get a little plate of meats and cheeses and sip some wine and just talk about our days. I’m ready to go there now, actually!
Hope you enjoyed this article/video! Now go get ’em, tiger!
5. Being a tough guy
Somehow men have this notion that they’re not supposed to show any kind of emotion of vulnerability. That’s unrealistic and you’re not a human if you’re like that. Women want to see some emotion and sensitivity – that makes you normal and we actually feel closer to you when you can let your guard down around us.
4. Always Wined & Dined
Sure, every woman loves to be taken to a nice dinner, but not all the time. We would much rather have a fun, creative experience, where we can both have a great time together and enjoy each other’s company. From a homemade meal, to a little hole-in-the wall joint, to a taco truck – those are some of my more memorable meals/dates. I love all the amazing restaurants my fiance has taken me too, but the memories that have stuck with me, for instance, are the times he would take me to our favorite taco truck and then grab Oreo shakes afterwards at Frosty Freeze. Total cost – $10.
3. Status Symbols
Your job title, car, where you live – you don’t need to impress women by upselling yourself. We’ll find out pretty quickly that you wasted all your money on that nice car to impress us when I meet your 10 other roommates. Don’t be that guy. It’s kind of sad and pathetic and makes us think much less of you if you assume this is what matters to us. Do the best with what you have and don’t be ashamed of it. Honesty goes a lot further than some shiny car. Women also highly value a man who has a strong work ethic, drive and passion to get to wherever it is he wants to be in life, as well.
You don’t need to be tall to get our attention. Women don’t care about your height as much as you think. If it’s not an issue for you, it’s not an issue for a woman. Your personality, confidence, and overall put-together, groomed appearance are way more important than how tall you are.
It’s such a lame excuse that men who aren’t having success in the women department like to use. We all make our own money these days, so don’t think that women care that much about it, because we don’t. I can tell you that it’s actually a huge turnoff if if all a man cares about is money and it consumes him and his personality. If your entire motivation in life is to make an extra buck, and that’s it, then that gets old real quick.
Here’s a few videos/articles Antonio and I collaborated on, as well.
Your overall smell – body odor, cologne and breath. Your scent is an indication of how considerate you are of yourself and of others because being stinky, with body odor or assaulting people with your cologne is disgusting and rude.
6. Your Hands
How groomed and clean your hands are. Fingernails, smooth/rough/warts/hairy/etc are all things a woman immediately notices.
Whether we’re interacting or I’m observing you from afar – The way you interact with others and the way you carry yourself are all things we immediately notice. Are you well spoken? What’s your demeanor – funny, serious, shy, nice, well-mannered, rude, etc.? Women look past physical attributes, and I know men have a hard time understanding this sometimes because they’re more visual creatures, but women immediately go right past your physical looks to try and get the core of a man. A bad personality sours even the best looking of men.
How put together you are, regardless of what style you’ve adapted, is a good indicator of the type of man you are. If your clothes are proportional to your body, then doesn’t matter what your body type is, it shows you care about yourself enough to have respect for your own appearance. So make sure your clothes fit properly, at least!
Antonio had this way further down on his list then I’d ever put it. Your smile is important because it can instantly make a woman feel welcomed and comfortable. On top of that, how clean and well your teeth look is another good insight into how a man conducts his life.
This one is pretty obvious, but Antonio didn’t give this one enough credit, either. Your features, good or bad, and how you make the best of what you’ve been given is a big deal to women. Is your skin clean looking, facial hair kept in check, eyebrow, nose and ear hair groomed? These all tell us how well you treat yourself and understand that your appearance matters – to yourself and the ability to understand how to interact with the world.
I hope this was helpful!
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