Mistake 1: Selecting the wrong hairstyle
1) Won’t work for your hair type
So maybe you really love a certain hairstyle, and you want to replicate it on yourself. Unfortunately, trying to style your hair like someone who has a different hair type than yours will result in something that never looks quite right.
You really need to be honest with yourself when choosing a haircut based on the type of hair you have and take your barber/hairstylist’s advice.
2) Choosing a hairstyle that doesn’t fit your lifestyle
If you’re opposed to using a blow dryer, you are probably not going to want to choose a pompadour or quiff, as they usually require some time with the blow dryer in order to get the necessary volume.
If you don’t want to spend a lot of time styling your hair, then don’t choose a high maintenance haircut and get something more in-line with the time you’re willing to put in with your hair.
Mistake 2: Using the wrong product
Using the wrong product will often result in not getting the look or hold you want. For example, when men with fine or thinning hair use gel or pomades in their styling routine — big mistake. Gel clumps your hair together and reveals more of scalp, making the hair look even thinner. A lot of men will keep adding more and more product, even when it’s not designed for the style you want to accomplish. Another big mistake.
For thinning hair, use mousses, matte texture pastes and conditioners to provide fluff that is more natural.
If the look or hold isn’t up to your standards, the worst thing you can do is double the quantity of product used. Start with a small amount of product and add a little more, if necessary. If that doesn’t work, then you’ve got to find a better product that’s designed for your hair type and style.
Mistake 3: Going too long between haircuts
The longer you go without a haircut, the longer your hair becomes and the more difficult it is to style your hair properly, which usually results in having to use a lot more product.
A fresh cut can instantly give you a put-together look, and the more it becomes part of your regular grooming routine, the fewer styling products you’ll usually need.
Mistake 4: Not using product properly
Start with HALF the amount of product of what you think you need, then apply to your hair. You can always add more, but if you put too much, it all goes downhill from there and you’ll either have to wash your hair and start over or use a lot of dry shampoo to get it back to a semi-normal hairstyle.
To really activate a hair product and apply it effectively you need to:
1) Heat it up in your hands by rubbing them together so it warms up and then distributes easily into your hair.
2) Then, using the the full surface area of both your hands, work in the product starting from the root.
As a general rule of thumb, creams and paste should go into hair when it is damp. Pomades or softer waxes should go in when hair is dry.
Mistake 5: Not washing well
Not washing well and using quality products. Can you get away with using the drugstore 2-in-1 products? Maybe, but all the hairstylists I talked to said this is the one thing that guys overlook that has a big impact on being able to style your hair properly. It’s like putting low-grade gasoline into a rocket ship – it won’t work well.
Take at least 2 minutes to really scrub your hair and massage your scalp. Your scalp needs to be stimulated and massaged to get the blood flowing into the area and keep the best version of your hair growing long into your life, which also means your hair will be more manageable and easier to style.
And as for quality products, it’s really going to make a huge difference after you’re done showering and when it’s time to style your hair. If you don’t believe me, you’ll only know what I’m talking about when you try.
I’ve included some great shampoos and conditioners that are best for your hair type that my hairstylist friends highly recommended. If you’re using products not designed for your hair type then you really won’t see the benefit that I’m talking about.
$34 – Nioxin System 1 Cleanser & Scalp Therapy Duo Set
$20 – Paul Mitchell Tea Tree Special Shampoo
$20 – Paul Mitchell Tea Tree Special Conditioner
$20 – Redken Cerafill Retaliate Shampoo
$20 – Redken Cerafill Retaliate Conditioner
Curly or Coarse Hair
$40 – New Wash Hairstory
$21 – Kérastase Discipline Bain Fluidealiste Shampoo
$21 – Kérastase Fondant Fluidealiste Conditioner
$18 – Ouidad Curl Quencher Moisturizing Conditione
$16 – Ouidad Curl Quencher Moisturizing Shampoo
Normal Hair (Straight or Wavy)
Thus, my POTW are John Elliott’s grey sweatpants because they’re the only item you need to add to your closet in order to create this sharp outfit below. You should already have three out of the four items if you’ve been following my Men’s Wardrobe Essentials Series for any length of time.
Here’s why this outfit is great:
I love John Elliott’s clothes because he always does such a great job with creating high quality basics and these sweatpants are no exception. The construction and fabric choices are a cut above the rest, so if you’re able to swing it, I highly recommend these.
You already should own a navy, black, and/or white t-shirt. These colors are perfect for the gym because they won’t show your sweat prominently like a grey tee will. Also, they look great with this outfit outside of the gym as well.
Next, you should also already have a bomber jacket, whether it be navy or black, in your closet because as I’ve said before, bombers look great on every man, regardless of your age or body type. You can easily switch out the bomber for a zip-up hoodie if you want, but I wouldn’t change a single thing in this outfit.
Here are my top 4 favorite shoes for Spring:
4. Suede Double Monk Straps
I included these in my Top 10 Essential Items for Spring as well. Suede Monkstraps, whether you get a dark brown, grey, or navy pair, can just take an outfit to another level. It’s such a stylish touch to any outfit and can be worn with a suit, chinos, or jeans. Make sure to Scotch Guard them before you wear them for the first time – always gotta protect your suede items!
3. Penny Loafers
I absolutely love penny loafers. They look so good when worn with no-show socks and a little bit of ankle exposed. Whether you cuff your jeans or chinos, or hem your pants so there’s no break or a little ankle showing. A leather loafer looks so chic and luxurious. I love Ferragamo’s loafers (I got a pair for my fiancé Dorian 2 or 3 years ago) and they’re totally worth the price because they definitely hold up and still look great after years and years of wear.
2. Suede Driving Shoes
Think of them as the middle ground between sneakers and penny loafers. They’re just as comfortable as sneakers, yet dressier like a penny loafer. I also included these in my Men’s Summer Essentials ebook because they work during the warmer months in general.
My hands down, favorite suede driving shoe is from Tod’s. Everything about that shoe – construction, design, and color choice – is so damn sexy and incredible. It’s worth every penny, and there is no close second for me.
1. Navy or Grey Sneakers (Canvas or Leather)
Outside of your white sneakers, I love a great navy or grey low top sneaker. They’re neutral colors so you can wear them with everything you have and they definitely won’t get dirty quickly.
If you want to splurge, Common Projects makes my favorite sneakers and a close second are by Lanvin.
$570 – Lanvin Shiny Cap Toe Sneaker (in navy or grey)
$509 – Common Projects Achilles Low Premium in Grey (or navy suede)
$75 – Converse JP Jack Sneaker (leather)
$65 – Converse Jack Purcell Ox Sneaker (canvas)
I love henleys, because they look sexy and masculine, especially when the top 1 or 2 buttons are undone to draw the eyes to your chest and shoulders to show off your physique in a flattering way. Hence, the image below.
BUT, and this is a big mistake I see a lot of men making – they’re not for every everyone. More on that shortly.
Let’s get into what to look for in your henleys based on the time of year.
Generally, henleys will be made out of cotton, so there’s really not much choice outside of that, but you still need to consider fabric weights depending on the time of year. The main thing to know is that lighter weights should be worn in warmer months or in warmer climates and thicker, heavier fabrics in cooler months or climates. You can get them in everything from a lightweight summer weave, where it feels like a t-shirt, to thicker, quilted versions which will keep you warm during the cooler months.
You don’t have to worry too much when buying them because, based on the time of year, the brands will carry the appropriate weights. But I still want you to be aware of it just in case.
Like all your clothing, including henleys, they should have a trim fit throughout the body and arms – no matter your body type. You never want it too loose anywhere because that’s when you’ll look sloppy and not put together. You shouldn’t be able to pinch more than 1-2 inches of fabric on one side of your stomach and no more than an inch around the bicep.
The image below highlights the proper fit around the torso and sleeves.
I mentioned earlier that henleys aren’t for everyone, so let’s get into that right now since we’re talking about fit.
For Thin Gentleman
If you’re a thin guy, no matter your height, if you want to wear a henley, you absolutely need to nail the fit, especially if you’re going to wear a long sleeve version. If the fit is too loose, it’ll make you look thinner and more frail than you are – not good!
I only like long sleeve henleys on thinner men if they’re layered underneath a jacket, like the below right image. When worn on their own, it really spotlights and elongates your thinner torso, like image on the left. So if you’re a thinner guy and want to wear a henley on its own, then wear a short sleeve version since it’ll look similar to your t-shirts.
If you’re a rotund gentleman (aka you’re not in the greatest shape and have a belly), you cannot wear a henley shirt, period. Allow me to show you why and explain. See exhibit A:
Because of the button placket on the front, coupled with the lack of a collar, a henley will shine a massive spotlight on your bigger neck and torso. This is when a polo shirt is perfect and should be used instead, because a polo shirt’s collar will visually keep your torso balanced and in proportion, so your top half doesn’t look so big compared to your bottom half. The image below of James Corden shows a guy with the exact same body type as the image above, but in a polo shirt. Talk about a night and day difference…
Best Ways To Wear A Henley Shirt
For a long sleeve, you would normally wear these during the cooler months as a layering piece, so I styled Dorian in a long sleeve henley shirt underneath a bomber jacket, dark wash jeans, and sneakers.
Burberry Lightweight Lambskin Bomber Jacket
J. Crew Wallace & Barnes Wool Henley Sweater
Diesel Buster 0607A Jeans
Allen Edmonds Decatur Ave Black Dress Belt
Johnston & Murphy Conard Cap Toe Black Chukka
IWC Portugieser Automatic Watch
Ray Ban RB4258 Sunglasses
During the warmer months you can wear them with the sleeves pushed up. As I mentioned in one of my other videos, women LOVE to see sleeves rolled/pushed up around your forearms.
My Favorite Henley Shirts
Here are some great short sleeve and long sleeve (lightweight and heavyweight) henley options that I love.
Short Sleeve Henleys
Long Sleeve Henleys
There’s several reasons why I love this jacket for Spring and Summer, or year-round if you live in a warmer climate: lightweight wool and cotton fabric, incredible construction, texture and color, and its so damn stylish. Normally, I’m not a fan of pockets on the front of a jacket for all body types, as they can add bulk and throw off your proportions if you’re a thinner guy, but, as you’ll see in the video above, these pockets blended in so seamlessly that it isn’t an issue at all.
Wear it with a t-shirt, jeans, and sneakers or dress it up with a collared shirt, wool trousers, and dress shoes – it will go with most casual and dressy casual outfits. Yep, this jacket is that good.
I went into the store and had my friend Michael, who’s average height but a broad build, and Dorian, who’s 6’3″ and slim, try the jacket on and they both looked great in it. See the video above to see what I’m talking about. Also, Dorian ended up picking up the blazer version of the Chore jacket for himself.
How To Wear It
$158 – J.Crew Lightweight Italian Cashmere Crewneck Sweater (in Heather Dove)
$122 – Life After Denim Lacrosse Crew
$40 – TopMan Grey Ripple Textured Raglan Slim Fit Sweater
So let’s go through what you should look for in a Spring and Summer suit and the best shoes to wear during this time of year.
I love brown, green, and burgundy during these seasons, but I’m also a big fan of lighter colors such as: light to medium blues, light greys, and camel.
For bolder colors, like green and burgundy, I prefer that they’re solid because a pattern can be too bold of a look and make you look like a goofball.
Experimenting with patterns is a perfect way to inject some fun and personality into your suits. I love windowpanes, plaids, checks, and stripes (ie. seersucker striped pattern).
It is perfectly fine to wear a darker color, like navy, but I always prefer to go with a navy windowpane or a nice navy plaid suit to help slightly break up the big swath of a dark color.
During this time of year, there’s a lot of fabric choices to choose from – linen, cotton, seersucker, or a lightweight wool fabric.
Most Spring & Summer wool suits will generally be around 8 – 10 ounces, which is your typical year-round fabric weight. I tend to prefer 8-8.5 ounces as that’s a nice lightweight wool that’ll keep you comfortable.
If you live in a more tropical environment that’s hot and humid, I recommend going with fabric that is around 6 ounces, since it will be much lighter and more breathable. Linen is typically a very lightweight, breathable fabric choice although you will have to deal with the immense wrinkles that will accrue throughout the day – there’s just no way around it with linen, unfortunately.
Another really great fabric that doesn’t wrinkle and that’s quiet breathable is seersucker, which I really love. Traditionally, seersucker fabric is blue and white but there are a lot of different color variations these days.
Aside from pattern, this is another area where you can add some flair to your Spring suiting.
There are 3 different hem lengths I recommend:
Exposed ankle – If you want a little bit of your ankle to be exposed than hem pants so they hit the top of your outer ankle bone. Make sure your pants are tapered pretty slim towards the ankle so that there’s not a bunch of fabric flopping around.
No break – When you want to wear loafers, have your pants hemmed so they’re barely skimming the top of your shoes. Again, pants should be tapered pretty slim towards the ankle.
Slight break – More versatile and appropriate for all occasions.
Pairing Your Spring/Summer Suit with Dress Shirts & Ties
For dress shirts, I love using pastel colors like light pink, light green, and sky blue and patterned dress shirts, like gingham and stripes.
For ties, I love polka dots, florals, and fun patterns during this time of year. I also really like using silk knit ties in solid colors since they complement the visually lighter suits. Just please, make sure your ties are proportional to your body type.
If you want to inject some color in your charcoal or navy suit (that you already own), pair it with a gingham or striped dress shirt, or even a lavender or light pink dress shirt. This will help give a more Spring-vibe to your outfit.
If you go with a patterned suit, then make sure to keep your dress shirt and pocket square a solid color because you don’t want to go overboard with mixing patterns. The tie can have a pattern, though.
If you’re wearing a solid Spring colored suit, then gingham and striped dress shirts in pastel colors look really good here. You’ll want a bolder solid colored tie so that it stands out from the shirt and compliments your suit.
If you’ve watched or read any of my other shoe videos and articles, I’ve specifically mentioned that you should save your suede items for Spring and Summer, and guess what? Now it’s time to bring them out.
My 2 favorite shoes to use are suede monkstraps and penny loafers.
The Best Spring/Summer Suits
Lightweight Wool Suit
I love the Brooks Brothers navy plaid suit – it was so easy to style it in a couple different ways on my friend Jordan O’Brien from The Gentlemen’s Cove.
$490 – Brooks Brothers plaid suit
$300 – Topman Dark Brown Suit
The Burberry and J.Crew gingham print suit are incredible and will make a stylish statement this Spring!
$1995 – Burberry Linen silk suit
I’ll be updating this section soon as more seersucker suits hit the stores.
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