How To Deal With Rejection

Rejection is a part of life, both personally and professionally. We all face it and it’s unavoidable. But, it’s also a great learning opportunity.  Whether it’s about your self-confidence or how you interact with people, what’s important is how you learn to get over it and what you take away from it.  Believe it or not, it takes some practice but learning how to deal with rejection comes down to 5 simple factors.

Accept It

Know that it’s a part of your romantic life and you will have to deal with it. The sooner you accept it and know that you will grow stronger from it the less power fear will have over you.

Learn From It

Make sure you take away something from the rejection. Whether it’s learning from a mistake you made or that a particular someone wasn’t right for you, rejection can be a powerful learning experience.

Give It Time

Getting over rejection takes time, so be patient. Focus on yourself – your health, fitness, mental strength and you’ll emerge stronger and better.  Don’t beat yourself up after a short period of time, time heals all, as the old saying goes.

It’s Not The End Of The World

Yes, it’s a terrible cliche but it’s absolutely true.  Lean on your support group of friends and family and try to take a step back and look at the big picture.  Every person you probably admire has been rejected and moved on to do great things and you can too!

Get Rejected More Often

Getting rejected more often is actually a good tool. It actually makes it easier to deal with and helps you understand and move on more quickly.  Also, getting rejected means you’re taking risks and living life to the fullest.

How To Be More Confident

Some people are born with it, some people aren’t, but confidence is definitely something that anyone can have.  It just takes some work and a positive attitude. Confidence can help you in all facets of life, from dating to professional settings, so that’s why we’re sharing a few tips on how to be more confident.

Identify self-limiting thoughts/actions

Whether you work through it on your own or with a professional, getting clarity on where you lack confidence is an important step in changing it. Whether it’s facing your fears or understanding where negative thoughts come from you’ve got to know where you stand to improve.

Know The Truth: You Are Great

We all have self-doubt, it’s part of life, but confidence starts from the inside out, and working on loving yourself and recognizing your own great qualities is a key point in becoming more confident.

Talk To Yourself

This might seem a bit weird at first but it really works. It can take many forms from mantras you say to yourself at the beginning of the day to just giving yourself a pep talk before a big date or job interview, putting yourself in the right frame of mind can really help you feel more confident.  

Practice

Confidence takes practice.  From consistently working your own processes to just interacting with people on a regular basis, practice makes perfect. The more you work on it, the better you’ll get.

Be Positive

Confidence also starts with a positive outlook. By cultivating a positive outlook on life, social interactions, work, etc. you’ll be able to focus on being genuinely happy with yourself and others

One final point, know the difference between confidence and arrogance. There’s a fine line between being confident and cocky.  Confident people are engaging and fun to be around, arrogant people come off as disingenuous and rude. Yes, it’s important to know your worth but you never want to think you’re better than anyone, projecting the right type of confidence will bring people to you whereas arrogance can just turn people off.

5 Conversation Topics Women Hate

Whether it’s in a dating scenario or socially at a party or event, small talk and conversation skills are things that take practice to master. Outside of feeling comfortable with yourself, knowing what not to talk about is super important if you’re going to hit it off well and just generally be someone fun and interesting to be around. So do yourself a favor, make sure you’re not bringing up any of these major no-no’s when chatting up the next women you meet.

Politics

Let’s not sugar coat it, we’re living in divisive times and no matter what side of the fence you’re on, bringing up politics on a first date or in a social setting is an absolutely huge “NO”. Just don’t do it.

Your Ex

No matter what type of dating scenario you’re in when you first meet someone, no woman wants to hear you go on an on about how great (or terrible) your ex was. Yes, there’s a time and a place to discuss past relationships but the first few dates or conversations is definitely not one of them.

Religion

Just like politics, we’re living in complex times and religion can be a very personal thing. You want your social and dating conversations to be light, fun, and interesting, not heavy and serious. Hold off on the religion talk until well into a relationship.

Work

Yes, of course, talking about what you do for a living is perfectly normal and natural. BUT, a minute or two is enough! We don’t want to hear you go on and on about your job, how you “crush it”, “close deals” or whatever else, it’s boring, move on.

Yourself

Yup, I said it. So yes, talking about yourself in the right way is critical, but it’s how you do it that matters. Do we want to learn more about what makes you unique and cool? Yes, absolutely. But do we want to hear you go on and on about your car, how much money you make, or how big your house is? Hell no. Confidence is great but being self-involved and arrogant is a huge turn-off.

How To Talk To Women

Maybe it’s easy for some, but for a lot of men approaching and talking to women can be a big challenge. Since we get asked about this topic a ton, we thought we’d discuss our favorite tips on how to talk to women confidently and successfully.  Whether you’re meeting a woman for the first time or you’re headed out on a date, understanding and practicing these tips are sure to give you a big boost with the ladies!

 

How To Understand A Woman’s Body Language

Sure, we women are full of mysteries, (just ask Dorian), but knowing a thing or two about body language can really help you figure out some of those mysteries.  Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time or are enjoying her company on a date, there are some subtle things she may or may not be doing that can tell you a lot about whether or not she likes you.  As humans, we react in unconscious ways based on how we feel, and knowing a little bit about these cues and how to react accordingly can really help you out along the way.

 

#1 – A lingering glance

What it means: “I like what I see.”

Before you’ve even met someone you may be able to figure out how much they’re interested in you.  If you catch eyes with someone and they give you a lingering look or don’t immediately turn away, chances are they like what they see.  Don’t wait, now’s your chance to go say hi!

#2 – Hair fixing/outfit brushing

What it means: “I know you’re checking me out.”

Unconscious outfit or hair touching and fixing is another great sign that someone you’ve been checking out is aware and ready to reciprocate. These slight movements or subtle means of indicating self-consciousness often happen as someone is indicating they want to look their best for someone else who is potentially interested. Another good sign that you’re off to a great start.

#3 – Arm or shoulder touching

What it means: “I’m testing boundaries (and I’d like you to reciprocate).”

If you’ve made the move and have initiated conversation with someone, subtle touching is a huge cue for interest and attraction.  The other person obviously feels comfortable around you and naturally feels compelled to touch you.  Subtle touches to your arm or shoulder in a playful way are a means to break down physical boundaries, so take that as a great sign! Don’t let the moment pass either, basic reciprocation is definitely something she’s encouraging you to do so she knows you feel the same level of interest.

#4 – Shying away from you

What it means: “Sorry buddy, I’m just not that into you.”

On the opposite side of the spectrum, you want to be conscious of ways she may react that could indicate that she’s not really feeling it. Turning away or looking away as you initiate contact and interest could mean she’s not interested and doesn’t feel that level of comfort around you in order to reciprocate. It doesn’t mean she’s feeling negative, just that she isn’t romantically interested. If that happens, don’t worry, simply politely move on like the gentleman you are, there are plenty of other women out there.

#5 – Smiling with no teeth showing

What it means: “I’m bored and humoring you.”

Obviously big smiles mean good things, but sometimes it’s more about a person still feeling unsure but wanting to remain polite.  If you’re getting smiles but they don’t seem to be of the obvious variety it probably means you’re on the right track but you’ve still got some work to do in terms of making her feel comfortable and interested. Change up the topic and see if she still keeps giving you this type of smile. If this goes on long enough, it’s not a good sign.

#6 – Arms folded and touching biceps

What it means: “I don’t want to talk you at all.”

Again, arms crossed is a pretty obvious sign things aren’t going well but if she’s got her hands touching her biceps she’s definitely feeling a lot of discomfort, displeasure, or is upset. Take this as a sign that it may be time to end the conversation or address what’s going on directly but sensitively.  Who knows, maybe it was an inadvertent mistake on your part or there’s something going on that’s unrelated to you entirely.  Be compassionate and upfront, you never really know what’s going on until you ask. Alternatively, if it’s obvious she’s not in a good place it may not be worth your time, and as we said before, there are plenty of other wonderful people out there.

Top 6 Habits Of Attractive Men

Sure, not everyone is blessed with flawless cheekbones, a superhero body, or a million-dollar smile, but attractiveness is much more than just physical appearance.  If you look at some of the most attractive men on the planet there’s a whole lot more that goes into what makes them attractive, and many of these things are habits and behaviors that you too can adopt to make yourself more attractive.  It’s more simple than you think and I’m going to break it all down for you.

#1 – Have a consistent grooming routine

Maybe it seems obvious, but a clean, well-groomed man is always going to appear attractive and it also shows you care about yourself.  It doesn’t have to mean a complicated routine and fancy products either, just put some effort into how you look, smell, and groom and you’re in great shape.

#2 – Cultivate approachability

How you present yourself physically to the world with your body language can convey a ton of attractiveness. So, stand upright, uncross your arms, smile frequently, and make eye contact with those around you, you’ll instantly appear more friendly, approachable, and people will want to get to know you.

#3 – A consistent physical regimen

Some of us have been blessed and some of us haven’t, but either way, taking care of yourself physically goes a long way, and well past just what your body looks like physically.  Proper exercise and fitness contributes to overall physical and mental well-being, boosts confidence, and helps with stress, all important factors that will boost your attractiveness to everyone around you.

#4 – Mental health routines

Cultivating a strong mind is just as important as working on your physique.  Confidence comes from a variety of sources and it takes work to get to a good place with yourself.  Everyone is different, but solid mental health habits based around proper sleep, meditation, journaling and even regular therapist visits will help you build and maintain a strong sense of self and confidence.

#5 – Be complimentary

Everyone loves to be complimented, it instantly disarms people and makes them feel good when they’re around you, and make no mistake, people always remember how you make them feel. Take care to make sure you’re always genuine though, nobody likes fakeness.

#6 – Be well-mannered

It’s a simple thing, but there’s a reason your mom always wanted you to remember your manners. People really notice when you say “please” and “thank you”, when you’re being gracious, opening the door for others, and not talking with your mouth full. You’ll become memorable (and attractive) for the right reasons and a pleasure to be around.

So, as you can see, everyone, and I mean everyone, can be more attractive, no matter what you look like.  It just takes the right habits, some self-care, and a genuine desire to be the best you can be.