7 Tips To Be A Better Conversationalist

Being a good conversationalist can help you in all aspects of life from socially to professionally, and since we’ve mentioned how important this skill is in other videos, we thought we’d break it down to the key points.

1. Listen

It actually starts with not talking at all. Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time or working a crowded room or bar, listening will help you be more engaged with others which will, in turn, make the conversation flow much more easily and make it a better experience for everyone else.

2. Be Genuine

Starting with a friendly, genuine interest in others is an important foundation to becoming a better conversationalist.

3. Be Complimentary

Giving someone a thoughtful and genuine compliment (but not too over the top) will instantly put them at ease and make them more comfortable in the situation.

4. Practice Makes Perfect

Just like with many other things in life, the more you practice your conversation skills, the more confident and comfortable you’ll be in your skills.

5. Know How To Start A Conversation

It can just be as simple as introducing yourself and asking simple questions. If you’re in a social setting, keep it simple.  You can even practice a few basic questions for any type of setting so you’ll always feel prepared and relaxed. For more conversation starters, check out this video.

6. Keep The Conversation Going

Back to asking questions and being genuine, simply being engaged and thoughtful will help any conversation progress organically.

7. Know How To End One Too

Ending a conversation politely is just as important.  You want to make sure the other people involved don’t feel ditched. So be friendly but direct, your delivery will determine how everyone else feels after you’ve left.

Give these tips a shot and make sure to practice and you’ll hone your conversation skills in no time!

5 Conversation Topics Women Hate

Whether it’s in a dating scenario or socially at a party or event, small talk and conversation skills are things that take practice to master. Outside of feeling comfortable with yourself, knowing what not to talk about is super important if you’re going to hit it off well and just generally be someone fun and interesting to be around. So do yourself a favor, make sure you’re not bringing up any of these major no-no’s when chatting up the next women you meet.

Politics

Let’s not sugar coat it, we’re living in divisive times and no matter what side of the fence you’re on, bringing up politics on a first date or in a social setting is an absolutely huge “NO”. Just don’t do it.

Your Ex

No matter what type of dating scenario you’re in when you first meet someone, no woman wants to hear you go on an on about how great (or terrible) your ex was. Yes, there’s a time and a place to discuss past relationships but the first few dates or conversations is definitely not one of them.

Religion

Just like politics, we’re living in complex times and religion can be a very personal thing. You want your social and dating conversations to be light, fun, and interesting, not heavy and serious. Hold off on the religion talk until well into a relationship.

Work

Yes, of course, talking about what you do for a living is perfectly normal and natural. BUT, a minute or two is enough! We don’t want to hear you go on and on about your job, how you “crush it”, “close deals” or whatever else, it’s boring, move on.

Yourself

Yup, I said it. So yes, talking about yourself in the right way is critical, but it’s how you do it that matters. Do we want to learn more about what makes you unique and cool? Yes, absolutely. But do we want to hear you go on and on about your car, how much money you make, or how big your house is? Hell no. Confidence is great but being self-involved and arrogant is a huge turn-off.

How To Talk To Women

Maybe it’s easy for some, but for a lot of men approaching and talking to women can be a big challenge. Since we get asked about this topic a ton, we thought we’d discuss our favorite tips on how to talk to women confidently and successfully.  Whether you’re meeting a woman for the first time or you’re headed out on a date, understanding and practicing these tips are sure to give you a big boost with the ladies!