In this article, we wanted to share the top 6 ways a guy can instantly become more attractive. Some of these might sound simple, but for some reason a lot of men don’t understand how effective these 6 things are for enhancing your sexiness to women.
Stand up straight
Women love a confident man and an easy way to exude that is to stand up straight. Think about it, if you see someone who is hunched over, would you think that person is super confident? No, we didn’t think so.
Throw on a pair of sunglasses
Sunglasses instantly add a stylish and mysterious touch to your overall appearance which women can’t help but be attracted to. Just make sure whatever frames you choose, they fit your face shape. Otherwise, they can really mess up your overall appearance.
Wear a watch
Accessories are a great touch and women will notice and appreciate your attention to detail. Stick to simple, subtle designs to start until you’ve really figured out your style. Also, you can easily go overboard and look silly if you have too many accessories, so avoid it at all costs.
Get your skincare in check
Your face is one of the first thing anyone sees, so having clear skin looks great on every man. We all have certain problems when it comes to our skin, but luckily there’s a ton of great skincare products out there that can help address those annoying issues and help get your skin look its best.
Dress in well-fitting clothing
Nothing looks worse than a guy wearing clothing too big or small for their body type. Ensuring your clothing fits your body type will make you look like a million bucks. If you’re unsure about the fit of your clothing, definitely check out our Clothing Fit Guide Series where we go into detail about how your clothes should fit.
Whiten your teeth
Since your face is one of the first things anyone will see, make sure it’s a pleasant experience. Always smile in the beginning and throughout a conversation because that’ll instantly put her at ease. The one thing that can put her (or anyone for that matter) off is having yellow or stained teeth so make sure to give them some TLC by getting them professionally whitened or using whitening strips at home.
Its that time of year again, when love is in the air, so we thought it was important to talk about some habits to cultivate that girls will absolutely find attractive.
Be Prompt & Punctual
Yes, women may not hold to this, so there’s definitely a double standard, but a man who is prompt and punctual shows how in-control of his life he is. That’s very sexy to all women. Being pushed around by your circumstances and not taking charge of their schedule diminishes a girl’s confidence in you.
Have good manners (i.e. holds door open for a woman, offering your jacket to her if it’s chilly). You’d be surprised how uncommon a well-mannered man is these days.
Smile around her
There’s nothing more pleasing to a woman than knowing that her presence makes you happy. It makes her feel wanted and confident that she’s made the right choice in spending time with you.
Have a sense of humor
You’ll never meet a girl who says she prefers a guy without a sense of humor. Don’t be too raunchy or racy (unless you know she likes that type of humor) and try not to make fun of others while showing her your funny side. A well-timed joke goes a long way! The best thing to do is look up some jokes online and memorize a few and deploy them as-needed or when the situation presents itself.
Plan an entire day or evening out with your girl, surprise her with flowers or sneak a handwritten note in her purse or send her sweet text during the workday. Just knowing that a man is thinking about her makes her heart sing.
Start a Conversation
Asking how her day was, or what she’s been up to and then asking follow-up questions shows you actually care (even if you really don’t care about how much of a b*#$# Tammy has been at work). Asking her questions makes her feel important and good knowing that she is valued.
Be A Good Listener
Goes with the previous point: Show you’re genuinely interested by being a good listener. Most women who want help, will ask for it, so don’t hear what she’s having issues with as an invite to jump in and start solving her issues. She mostly likely just wants to vent a little and will make her feel good knowing that she has a sympathetic ear she can depend on when she’s feeling upset.
Holding her hand, wrapping your arms around her from behind, kissing her neck, telling her how beautiful she looks are all things that make her feel amazing, more confident, and turned on.
Being confident in yourself and everything you do is a huge turn on for women. Guys may never fully understand this, but having confidence can make up for a lacking in the looks department.
Going out? Have a plan of action. Ordering at a restaurant? Ask her what she wants and then order for her first, when the time comes. There’s nothing sexier than a man who takes control.
In all that you do, including your career and hobbies, be ambitious and passionate. It doesn’t matter how nerdy or weird your hobbies are, if you have a knowledge and passion for something, that’s incredibly sexy to a woman.
It may seem deceptively simple, but who does our advice apply to? We always strive to give our audience useful, practical advice about style, life, dating, and more, all from an experienced and thoughtful perspective. Whether it’s wardrobe tips for the season or advice on how to improve social skills, we always do our best to appeal to as broad of an audience as possible.
In this episode of 2 Minute Tuesday we’re diving into a great question about who should take our advice and why, so tune in and find out what we think!
Sexual Orientation Doesn’t Matter
Our life and style advice applies to all, regardless of hair color, body type, or sexual preference. We do our best to give our educated advice on style and life that should work for most, if not all people. Sexual preference is a highly personal subject to you and you alone, we’re just here to help you dress and live better, no matter who you’re into. So, you can take that idea out of the equation and just focus on it without the lens of sexual preference.
Essential Style Is Important, But Make It Personal
We always discuss the foundations of a timeless, Essential Wardrobe because it’s versatile and always in style. But that doesn’t mean you have to dress a particular way if it’s not you. Once you have the foundations of style built you can then add in your personal touches to make it your own. Like streetwear or “bad boy style”, your personal style shouldn’t feel like a costume or inauthentic, it should be a representation of your own personality, no matter who you are or what your sexual orientation is.
How you speak and the words you use say a TON about who you are and how women will perceive you. Using the wrong words can really be detrimental to how you come across, especially to the opposite sex. Are you using any of these 8 Words Men Use That Women Hate?
8 Words Men Use That Women Hate
Bro/Dude – Sure, we all use these, but be aware of how often and in what situations. To many “bros” or “dudes” can just make you seem immature.
Smash/Bang – Any childish or over-the-top reference to sex just makes you seem like an amateur.
C-Word / Bitch / Slut – It should go without saying that anything sexist or misogynistic, even if you think you are “joking”, is never, ever a good look.
Relax/Calm Down – There is a right way and a wrong way to use these words, they can come off as insensitive and condescending, a huge red flag in your communication skills.
Gay – Never ok, even in a joking or casual way.
Racial Slurs – The same goes for these, no woman ever, ever wants to hear or can appreciate any kind of slur.
Any joke/comment about a woman’s period – Want to instantly put yourself in the dog house? Make one of these tasteless jokes or condescend to a woman about what she’s going through during PMS.
Babe/Sweetie/Missy/Sweetheart – Sure, using these in the appropriate loving/kind way with a close friend or significant other is totally acceptable. But in the wrong situation, at work/in professional situations, for example, it comes off as disrespectful and condescending.
We’ve discussed understanding a women’s body language and how to talk to women before, and flirting is just as important. While flirting is an essential skill there’s a fine line between suave and charming and just plain creepy.Follow our tips about how to flirt with a woman and you’ll be as smooth as Ryan Gosling from Crazy, Stupid, Love in no time.
Sure, we women are full of mysteries, (just ask Dorian), but knowing a thing or two about body language can really help you figure out some of those mysteries. Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time or are enjoying her company on a date, there are some subtle things she may or may not be doing that can tell you a lot about whether or not she likes you. As humans, we react in unconscious ways based on how we feel, and knowing a little bit about these cues and how to react accordingly can really help you out along the way.
#1 – A lingering glance
What it means: “I like what I see.”
Before you’ve even met someone you may be able to figure out how much they’re interested in you. If you catch eyes with someone and they give you a lingering look or don’t immediately turn away, chances are they like what they see. Don’t wait, now’s your chance to go say hi!
#2 – Hair fixing/outfit brushing
What it means: “I know you’re checking me out.”
Unconscious outfit or hair touching and fixing is another great sign that someone you’ve been checking out is aware and ready to reciprocate. These slight movements or subtle means of indicating self-consciousness often happen as someone is indicating they want to look their best for someone else who is potentially interested. Another good sign that you’re off to a great start.
#3 – Arm or shoulder touching
What it means: “I’m testing boundaries (and I’d like you to reciprocate).”
If you’ve made the move and have initiated conversation with someone, subtle touching is a huge cue for interest and attraction. The other person obviously feels comfortable around you and naturally feels compelled to touch you.Subtle touches to your arm or shoulder in a playful way are a means to break down physical boundaries, so take that as a great sign! Don’t let the moment pass either, basic reciprocation is definitely something she’s encouraging you to do so she knows you feel the same level of interest.
#4 – Shying away from you
What it means: “Sorry buddy, I’m just not that into you.”
On the opposite side of the spectrum, you want to be conscious of ways she may react that could indicate that she’s not really feeling it. Turning away or looking away as you initiate contact and interest could mean she’s not interested and doesn’t feel that level of comfort around you in order to reciprocate. It doesn’t mean she’s feeling negative, just that she isn’t romantically interested. If that happens, don’t worry, simply politely move on like the gentleman you are, there are plenty of other women out there.
#5 – Smiling with no teeth showing
What it means: “I’m bored and humoring you.”
Obviously big smiles mean good things, but sometimes it’s more about a person still feeling unsure but wanting to remain polite. If you’re getting smiles but they don’t seem to be of the obvious variety it probably means you’re on the right track but you’ve still got some work to do in terms of making her feel comfortable and interested. Change up the topic and see if she still keeps giving you this type of smile. If this goes on long enough, it’s not a good sign.
#6 – Arms folded and touching biceps
What it means: “I don’t want to talk you at all.”
Again, arms crossed is a pretty obvious sign things aren’t going well but if she’s got her hands touching her biceps she’s definitely feeling a lot of discomfort, displeasure, or is upset. Take this as a sign that it may be time to end the conversation or address what’s going on directly but sensitively. Who knows, maybe it was an inadvertent mistake on your part or there’s something going on that’s unrelated to you entirely.Be compassionate and upfront, you never really know what’s going on until you ask. Alternatively, if it’s obvious she’s not in a good place it may not be worth your time, and as we said before, there are plenty of other wonderful people out there.
Whether you know it or not, you there are some things you may (or may not) be doing that have a profound effect on how women respond to you. In fact, you may be rejecting or turning off women in a big way, even before you’ve had a chance to get to know or even talk to them. Which mistakes are you making? Check out these 10 ways you’re rejecting women without even knowing it!
10. Not looking or smelling clean
It may go without saying but it still bears repeating. Dirty fingernails, unkempt hair, bad breath, wrinkled, ill-fitting clothing and even too much cologne can all kill any chance you have with the opposite sex before you even say a word.
9. Poor table manners and etiquette
It’s pretty simple really, a lack of manners is a huge turn-off. Not waiting for others to be served before eating, talking with your mouth full, and a general lack of respect for others demonstrates how little you care about the world around you, and the people in it.
8. Lack of eye contact
Eye contact is a huge indicator of confidence and respect, plus it’s just awkward when your eyes are wandering. If you’re on the shy side it may take some practice to be comfortable with making eye contact but trust me, it’s worth doing what it takes to improve your skills.
7. Bad body language
Stand-offish body language or unwelcoming expressions can just make someone feel uncomfortable and unwanted so be mindful of things like crossing your arms, how you hold yourself, sitting or standing. Don’t be afraid to smile, it goes a long way in making people feel comfortable and attracted to you.
6. Poor conversation skills
Interrupting, being combative or overly aggressive just makes anyone your speaking with feel defensive and nervous, so make sure you’re relaxed and friendly, no matter how passionate you get about a subject. It’s also important to consider how you start and end a conversation too, it’s easy to shoot yourself in the foot if you’re not careful.
5. Inappropriate conversations
Tact is an important and subtle thing, so know your surroundings and the situation. Being overtly sexual, talking about exes, talking down to people, excessive boasting or talking about yourself too much are major negatives and no woman wants to hear it. For more advice, check out my piece on things you should never say to a woman.
4. Uncomfortably cheap
Look, being strict about a budget and financially responsible is a great thing but pushing it too far, especially around others can make you look bad and force others into situations they don’t want to be in.
3. Lack of punctuality
Sure, we all have our moments of lateness but there’s no quicker way to make someone feel disrespected than to be excessively late or not care about timeframes. Plus, all it takes is a simple, genuine apology if you are late to let someone know you aren’t totally self-centered.
2. Sending the wrong message
If you’re interested in the woman, ask her about herself. Then if things go well, be a man and ask her if she’d like to have a drink or dinner with you. Playing games, trying to be too cool, or not being straightforward, these things aren’t attractive in any way and just let her know you’re not someone worth spending time with.
Any woman with half a brain sees this amateur move a mile away and immediately writes a guy off for an easy rejection. As we mentioned previously, being genuine and straightforward lets her know you’re a confident gentleman, not a game-player.
The good news is, many of these are easy to fix, so take honest stock of yourself and interact with women. It doesn’t hurt to ask someone you trust for some feedback too. Like many other situations in life, good things come from caring about some of the most simple things.
In this video and article, I wanted to discuss some of the best dates I’ve ever been on that are also budget-friendly and are enjoyable for both you and your date – no matter if they’re a long-term partner or you’ve recently met.
It doesn’t matter if you’re single or in a relationship, taking someone out on a date is enjoyable for both of you and gives you the chance to enjoy each other’s company and get to know each other on a deeper level. Experiencing new things together, or introducing one another to new experiences is how you both grow as individuals and as a couple, so don’t neglect it!
For the first few dates, especially, you want to keep things lively and literally moving, otherwise there’s a chance to have some awkward quiet moments, which you want to avoid. It also shows that you know how to plan for an occasion, which my girlfriends and I find very telling about someone.
You’ll notice that most of these dates are incredibly cheap, but they’re also some of the best dates my girlfriends and I have been on. So keep that in mind. Now, don’t get me wrong, a beautiful meal at a high-end restaurant is also nice but it’s really not a deal breaker, or maker – for that matter.
A walk through a museum
Dorian and I’s first date was at the Natural History Museum. They have a few times in the year where they open it up at night and have cocktails and music and you can walk around the museum chatting and sipping a drink – it was a lot of fun and is definitely a great choice. Any decently sized museum, even quirky ones, will be great because you always have something new to comment on and discuss if the conversation lulls.
Stroll around a town center
Most towns have a little center or street with little stores, restaurants and coffee shops where you can grab a tea or coffee and just walk around and see what’s going on. Here in LA, we have a few of malls where they have parks and fountains in them that are great for a date. It’s actually very enjoyable to sit on a bench and chat and people watch.
If your city has a bike rental service and you’re both proficient riders, then that is also very fun to do as well. Dorian, who’s an experienced road cyclist, made me do this in Paris and it was so much more fun than I thought it would be. So that’s another great option.
Playing an easy-to-do sport
Going to a golf driving range or mini golf course is a blast, even if neither of you play, since it’s fun to watch each other struggle to hit the balls or sink the putt.
Bowling, while a little cliche, is also good, as long as your partner doesn’t have long nails – that’s when it’s no fun.
Everyone can appreciate a beautiful garden on a nice day. Bring a chilled wine, if you’re allowed, or grab some tea or coffee and take a stroll through one. They normally have little placards by the plants, so you can read about the interesting ones together and discuss them.
Korean BBQ or something like a Benihana is great because it requires you both to be engaged with either cooking the food or watching someone do it, instead of just staring at each other the whole time.
We’re lucky in LA in that the weather is good year round and we have really amazing hiking spots nearby, so an evening or morning hike is always fun and healthy at the same time! You can also out for a quick breakfast or dinner afterwards, if things are going well, too.
This is kind of a no-brainer, but it’s still a good option from time to time. This really isn’t required for a first date, but definitely on dates where you’re interested in him or her and want to make it more known you’re serious about your intentions. This is also great for long-term relationships.
Call, text or email your date and tell them to be dressed in their best clothes and be ready at a certain time and then take them to a fine dining experience. Go outside your norm a little and read reviews about restaurants and find something that fits your budget but is classy.
Dorian is a big baseball and hockey fan and before meeting him, I was neither of those. So for one of our first dates, he took me to a see an LA King’s hockey game and it was so much fun! Plus, as he told me while I was working on this story, he used the opportunity of explaining the rules to get a little closer to me without it being obvious or creepy.
Baseball is still a work in progress, but I’m slowly coming around. 🙂
Lounge or wine bar
If you’re a good conversationalist, you can do this as a first date. But if not, then wait until you’re a little more comfortable in each other’s presence and go to a wine bar or cocktail lounge. Just make sure it’s not a regular bar that blasts music or is showing sports – unless you’re both super into sports. Ideally, you want to keep it as classy as possible. Lots of candles and a little jazz music will make this even better and more romantic.
Dorian and I have a little french wine bar we loved to go to while we were dating and still go to this day. It’s all candle lit and so romantic, we’d get a little plate of meats and cheeses and sip some wine and just talk about our days. I’m ready to go there now, actually!
Hope you enjoyed this article/video! Now go get ’em, tiger!