How To Shave Your Testicles

This video about how to shave/trim your testicles or balls to not gross women out and ensure you don’t look like a caveman or “bush baby” as my friend Indigo says in the video or like a pre-teen boy (shudder).

The Best Tool For The Job

$40 – Wahl Elite Pro High Performance Clippers #79602

I love and only recommend these trimmers by Wahl because:

  • This is what all my groomer friends, mentioned in the intro video, use.
  • Wahl has been around for a long time
  • Include a lifetime warranty (5 years on the blades, too)
  • Made in the USA
  • The kit comes with everything you could ever need
  • They’ll last decades with proper care

Best Men’s Deodorants & Antiperspirants

In this part of my Men’s Grooming Essentials series, I want to talk about the best men’s deodorants and antiperspirants.

Did you know that your armpits can become immune to the ingredients in your deodorant over time and make them less effective? If you want to avoid having stinky and/or sweaty armpits, you, ideally, want to change your deodorant brand every 6 months. So if you’ve been using the same deodorant for the last couple of years, then it’s definitely time to switch it up and use one of the best men’s deodorants out there.

Before we get into the best deodorants, I want to over a few things, starting with women’s opinions about men and sweat, body odor and their deodorant:

  • Sweat, unless it’s excessive, is not a deal breaker.
    Just like men, we also get sweaty and since it’s a perfectly natural thing for your pits to be a little wet if you’re nervous or it’s hot, it’s perfectly fine.
  • What IS a deal breaker, though, is body odor. There’s no excuse for it.
  • When a man has chunks of deodorant in his armpit hair. It’s like dandruff on your scalp and just gross.

Deodorant vs Antiperspirant

There are very strong opinions out there about deodorants vs antiperspirants.

De-odor-ants help prevent body odor, which occurs from the bacterial breakdown of sweat. They don’t stop you from sweating, though. So basically they only help prevent you from stinking.

Antiperspirants, on the other hand, prevent your armpits from producing sweat, which is why people who sweat a lot prefer this over a deodorant. Aluminum is the active ingredient which blocks your pores so sweat doesn’t pass through. The controversy surrounding antiperspirants is that there have been claims that aluminum is linked to breast cancer and Alzheimer’s Disease. On top of that, they also cause the yellow pit stains on your shirts.

So, unless you’re a heavy sweater, I’d recommend sticking with a deodorant over an antiperspirant.

Gel vs Stick vs Roll Ons/Sprays

It’s honestly all about your preference. Each have their pros and cons.

Gels are great because they go on invisibly, but the downside is that they can feel wet and sticky until they dry.

Sticks go on dry and some say hold off body odor longer, but the con is that they can leave little crumbles and flakes in your armpit hair and will leave white marks on your darker shirts if you apply them before dressing.

As for sprays and roll-ons, they dry in seconds, but may not provide the best coverage compared to sticks or gels.

When it comes to deodorants, there’s a couple of them that the Groomers I spoke with love and that also came out on top during our testing.

The Best Men’s Deodorants

$4 – Dove men+care Extra Clean Deodorant Stick

This is their clinical strength deodorant so it’ll provide 48 hours of odor protection and is budget-friendly.

$7 – Crystal Body Deodorant

It’s a mineral salt deodorant that will last you for years and is fragrance and paraben free. Dorian uses this currently and said it’s been great.

$5 – Tom’s of Maine Long Lasting Natural Deodorant

I like the unscented version, especially if you’re sensitive to fragrances, but they have other scents that you can choose from, as well.

$19 – Jack Black Cool CTRL Natural Deodorant

It’s a luxury deodorant, so the price tag is going to reflect that, but the quality of ingredients justifies the price. It’s aluminum and alcohol free and has natural antibacterial and anti-fungal ingredients to keep you odor free for 24 hours. Also, it has a really pleasant, light smell.

The Best Men’s Antiperspirants

$5 – Mitchum Anti-Perspirant & Deodorant (Gel)

$6 – Dove Dove Men+Care Dry Spray Antiperspirant Deodorant

$16 – Jack Black Pit Boss® Antiperspirant & Deodorant

$16 – Kiehl’s Superbly Efficient Anti-Perspirant and Deodorant Cream

Best Men’s Hairstyles For Hair Type

Today, I want to show you the best men’s hair styles for your hair type based on actual the professional’s opinions that I mentioned in the Series Intro Video.

This article/video is a 3-parter, where I also cover the best hairstyles for your face shape as well as more in-depth videos/articles for each of the hair types. Think of this article as more of a general overview, so definitely don’t miss the specific hair type articles/videos, as well.

Straight or Wavy Hair

You can pretty much go with any hairstyle. I’ll always prefer a shorter, more put-together style, as do the professionals I spoke with. However, as long as your hair looks clean, healthy, and like it’s been cut semi-recently, any length can look good – provided it fits your face shape.

I do want to point out that it was pretty unanimous that the quiff (center picture above) is best because it’s very versatile and allows you to do a messy or more polished hairstyle. As for length, like I mentioned in my best hairstyles for your face shape article/video, on the shorter side looks great and gives you some flexibility in how you style it. The longer you go and it pretty much relegates you to not being able to style it much aside from having some layers cut into it and letting it do it’s thing.

If you go with a longer style and you’ve got straight hair, then just make sure to get some layers in there so it doesn’t lay flat like a dead rug – as someone with straight, asian hair, this is a problem I have too! Remember though, depending on your face shape, a longer hairstyle may not be best for you.

Curly or Coarse/Kinky Hair

For all you curly, coarse or kinky haired guys, you’ve really got two ways to go – either go for sharp and short, or long and kind of tamed. It really depends on your preference. I always lean toward a shorter, sharper hairstyle because my clients with these hair types always look significantly better with shorter hair styles and they’re also easier to style and maintain.

So for curly hair, a quiff that’s 2-3 inches long on top looks amazing (left picture). This gives you the option to use some light product and have the finger combed look, where your curls are more embraced or throw some heavier product in it and go for a sharper, combed look.

For coarse or kinky hair, there’s nothing better than a temple fade (center image) with a little longer hair on top. This is straight fiyah! I like a little bit of volume on top and short on the sides. You can also go with a closely shaved haircut for convenience.

If you do want to go with a longer hairstyle, then you need to consider your face shape. I talked more about this in the best hairstyles for your face shape article/video.

Thinning or Balding Hair

If you’re in the early stages of thinning with a receding hairline, then stick to longer on top with layers and shorter on the sides and do a sort of messy look. How long and short you go depends on your face shape, though.

Like I mentioned in my shampoo and conditioner article/video, use a thickening shampoo and get a layered haircut to help create more volume and hide more of your scalp.

Also, for styling, please, please don’t use gel products because it’ll clump your hair together (as shown in the video at the top) and reveal more of your scalp – this actually shines a spotlight on the issue. The best products for you are mentioned in my article specifically about the best products for your hair type.

Whatever you do, though, don’t do the combed forward style. It looks terrible and doesn’t do a great job of masking the problem – it actually draws attention to it. If that’s all you can do to cover up your pretty significant receding hairline, then it’s time to embrace it and go for the closely shaved look which I’ll get into in a second.

If you’re balding just in the back, go longer on top, shorter on the sides and comb your hair back over the bald spot to hide it better.

If you can easily see your scalp or your bald spot is pretty severe or you just don’t want to bother with the hairstyles I mentioned, then it’s time to embrace it and go for a buzzed look with a 1 or 2 attachment on the clippers all around.

A balding man who is confident enough to own this style and do the best with the hair that he’s got is actually sexy. Jason Statham is the shining example of how to embrace your balding hair. You’ll look much better, regardless of your face shape, I promise.

As for the full-on razored bald look, it heavily depends on your face shape, but I think a super short buzz cut looks better in general and is much easier to maintain without nicks or razor bumps on your head. The full bald look is best on men with square or oblong face shapes, otherwise, just go for the super short hair version.

I hope that helps!

Best Men’s Hairstyle For Your Face Shape and Hair Type

Today, I want to show you the best hair styles for your face shape based on actual professional’s opinions that I mentioned in the Series Intro Video.

This article/video is a 3-parter, where I’ll also cover the best hairstyles for your hair type as well as more in-depth videos for your specific hair type. Do yourself a favor and check out those other articles/videos as they’ll be released shortly.

Before we get started, please note the use of the word “best” and not “every hairstyle for your face shape.” These, in my opinion, as well as the professionals I mentioned in the series intro, are the best hairstyles if a man wants to look sharp-as-hell. If you’re hoping for a discussion about every hairstyle possible, this article isn’t for you.

The general goal of your hairstyle should be to:

  • Look damn good – obviously.
  • Just like with your clothing in relation to your body, you want to balance the proportions of your face so it doesn’t take away from the rest of your appearance. Get this wrong and it can make you look weird or goofy.

As for age old question: “What face shape do I have?” for males, I’ve included two of the best resources for finding this out:

  1. How To Find Your Face Shape
  2. Face Shape Guide

Like I mentioned in my video about the best men’s sunglasses for your face shape, there’s really only 4 major face shapes for men:

Any other face shape is basically one of these with a teeny tiny difference that has no bearing on the hairstyle you should choose.

With all that said, let’s go over the best hairstyles for your face shape.

Oval/Oblong

If you have an Oval or Oblong face shape, the best hairstyles tend to be short or medium length because longer hairstyles with bangs or a more poofy or fro-ey hairstyle, depending on your hair type, will make your face look longer than it is – which you want to avoid (check the video at the top for an example of how bad it can look).

Stick to haircuts with shorter sides and a little longer on top. Don’t go super short on the sides and long on top, though, otherwise the drastic difference in length will make your face look longer and thinner than it is.

Depending on your hair type, side parts were made for this face shape, regardless of how sharp the part actually is – whether you use your hands or a comb.

If you’re thinning, definitely go for super short on the sides and slightly longer on top. However, if your hairline is pretty receded or your bald spot is pretty significant, cut the B.S. and buzz or shave your head. I go into finer detail in my article/video about the best hairstyles for your hair type.

For curly or kinky hair, keep it shorter on the sides and a little longer on top to control the frizziness so it doesn’t get out of control. How short you go depends on your preference. I love a good temple fade on a black man and stick to a shorter quiff if you’ve got curly hair so it’s more manageable. But, if you want to embrace the curls a little more, go longer, like a few inches on top. The problem is that it can get pretty frizzy and out of control, unless you’re washing properly and using the best products for your hair type. Be sure to check out my article/video about the best shampoos and conditioners for your hair type, as it makes a huge difference.

Heart or Triangular

Since a Heart or Triangular face shape has a narrower or pointed chin, you want to stick to layered styles to help offset the sharpness of your chin.

As for length, go for longer-on-top styles with shorter, but not super short, sides. If you went super short on the sides, it’d make you look like you’ve got big ears – which you want to avoid.

For you, hair swept across the forehead, or off the forehead and back, with or without a side part, or a quiff will look great. If you’ve got coarse, kinky hair, you can go with a little bit longer afro all the way around, somewhere around 2 to 3 inches in length, like the picture above.

With this face shape, you can also grow out some facial stubble or a full beard to help add visual width and weight to your bottom half of your face and keep the proportions more in line with the rest of your face. If you go with a stubble or beaded look, you can grow your hair out a little longer on top, too.

Round

You want more square styles to offset your round face. Keep the sides much shorter and go longer on top to add some height to your face which will play with your facial proportions a little better. Whatever you do, don’t have your hair down on your forehead because it’ll make your face look rounder (again, check the video at the top for an example of how bad it can look).

A good, fluffy quiff or pompadour or even a high and tight looks great on this face shape, as does an undercut if you want a little more of a rugged look. For kinky hair, a sharp temple fade is always on point – I’d choose that over a totally shaved look every time.

Square

A square face shape is similar to Oval in that virtually all hairstyles look great. The only thing to do is create the illusion of softer corners to help soften the angles of your face, but not remove them.

Haircuts that are super short all the way around all the way to longer hairstyles look great on this face shape. I have to say, short and mid-length hairstyles that are a little cleaner always look sharp and give you the ability to go messy or more put together easily, so they’re my preference, for sure.

Again, for men with kinky hair, get that temple fade going!

Like I mentioned at the beginning of this article, this is 1 of 3 articles/videos that go together, so be sure to check out the other articles/videos about your hair type, because it also influences the hairstyle you should go for.

Best Men’s Shampoos & Conditioners For Your Hair Type

In this article, I want to go over the best Men’s Shampoos and Conditioners for your hair type.

Before we get into it, though, (this is important, I swear) – If you haven’t seen my companion article about how to wash & dry your hair properly, I highly suggest you check it out first, because all the groomers I mentioned in my Series Introduction Video said that men are totally crapping the bed in this department and it makes way more of a difference than you think. I promise you’ll learn something new in that article.

Dandruff

Before we dive into the best products for your hair type, I want to address the d-word… No, not that D-word! Dandruff!

Dandruff is almost always the result of 3 things:

  1. Using harsh shampoos, with sulfates and parabens that strip the hair and scalp of the natural oils and vitamins, leaving your scalp and hair dry and flaky.
  2. Not washing your hair and massaging your scalp properly.
  3. Not staying hydrated enough and having a proper diet.

I highly suggest you first try washing your hair properly with quality products as well as upping your water and healthy food intake and see if that doesn’t cure your dandruff issue once and for all.

Hair Loss Shampoo & Conditioner For Thinning or Balding Men

The main goal for choosing a hair loss shampoo and conditioner is you want them to:

  • Slow down or prevent hair loss; and
  • Thicken hair so it appears fuller

The best way to slow down and prevent hair loss is to have a healthy and clean scalp that’s free of DHT which is found in the sebum that’s produced from your scalp. DHT is the cause of male baldness and is like a leech that slowly kills your hair follicles. To combat this, you should use the best hairloss shampoo on the market by Nizoral every 3 days because it contains the only ingredient on the market that’s proven to prevent hair loss by killing DHT on your scalp. The downside, though, is that it also makes your hair appear limp and lifeless, so you definitely want to combine it with the Nioxin conditioner below to minimize this effect.

On the days you’re not using Nizoral shampoo, switch to Nioxin’s shampoo and conditioner system because it promotes a healthy scalp and gives your hair more density so it looks fuller.

For a hair growth shampoo, you can use Rogaine, but the second you stop using it, the new hair will fall out, so it’s not really recommended. I would add Propecia to your routine, instead, because the medication will definitely halt further hair loss from below the surface, so it’s more effective, but it has some side effects, so that’s up to you to determine if it’s worth it or not.

$14 – Nizoral Shampoo

$20-44 – Determine which Nioxin system is best for you:

System 1: Normal to thin-looking, fine hair
System 2: Noticeably thinning, fine hair
System 3: Normal to thin-looking, fine hair that’s chemically treated
System 4: Noticeably thinning, fine hair that’s chemically treated
System 5: Normal to thin-looking, medium to coarse hair
System 6: Noticeably thinning, medium to coarse hair

$40 – Rogaine

Best Shampoos & Conditioners for Fine Hair

If you have fine hair, then the goal is to make your hair appear thicker and fuller.

Oily and greasy hair is your enemy because it will make your hair look even finer than it is.

The best fine hair shampoo for men is the Plumping Wash and Rinse by Kevin Murphy because it helps strengthen your hair follicles while adding volume by plumping each hair strand for a thicker look. For a more budget-friendly option, V76 by Vaughn’s Energizing shampoo and conditioner are lightweight and won’t strip away the essential oils and vitamins that you need for healthy hair growth but will still get rid of any excess oil on your scalp. All the professionals I spoke with, though, said no question, Kevin Murphy is the absolute best.

$49 – Kevin Murphy Plumping Wash – Note: Although I found the product available online, Kevin Murphy only allows their products to be sold at salons, which you can locate on their website here.

$54 – Kevin Murphy Plumping Rinse

$19 – V76 by Vaughn Energizing Shampoo

$19 – V76 by Vaughn Energizing Conditioner

Coarse / Curly / Kinky Hair

Unlike your thin hair brethren, you can never have enough moisture. You want to choose products with extra moisture, especially when it comes to your conditioner – this will help cut down on the frizz and make your hair more manageable.

Once you apply conditioner you can skip the rinse and have it function as a leave-in conditioner or if you think that’s too weird, you can also get a separate leave-in conditioner to apply after you dry your hair for maximum moisture and smoothness. Apply the product while your hair is still damp.

Kevin Murphy’s Smooth Again Wash and Rinse is definitely the best of the bunch below and came unanimously recommended by the professionals I spoke with.

$80 – Kevin Murphy Smooth Again Wash and Rinse Combo Set

$19 – V76 by Vaughn Hydrating Shampoo

$19 – V76 by Vaughn Hydrating Conditioner

Leave-In Conditioners

$30 – Pure Organic Virgin Coconut Oil

It might sound crazy, but coconut oil works incredibly well as a leave-in conditioner (and skin moisturizer). Take a small amount, warm it up for a few seconds in the microwave and finger comb it into your damp hair after a shower.

$20 – Shea Moisture Jamaican Black Conditioner Leave-In

$6 – Hawaiian Silky 14 in 1 Miracle Worker

Wavy / Straight Hair

For wavy or straight hair, you don’t need anything too crazy. I love the Jack Black All Over Wash because not only is it light and nourishing, but you are able to use it as a face and body wash, as well. Trust me, it sounds weird, and my fiance, Dorian, and some of my other test subjects were very skeptical when trying it, too, but they all said it was great and that it lived up the hype.

If you don’t want the all-in-one solution, then give Kevin Murphy’s shampoo and conditioner a try – their entire line, for all hair types, was highly recommended by all the professionals I spoke with. My test subjects all loved it, as well.

$21 – Jack Black All Over Wash

$49 – Kevin Murphy Stimulate Me Wash

$38 – Kevin Murphy Stimulate Me Rinse (Conditioner)

$19 – V76 by Vaughn Energizing Shampoo

$19 – V76 by Vaughn Energizing Conditioner

 

That’s it! Hope you found this article about the best men’s shampoos and conditioners helpful!

AskAW 26: Men’s Grooming Questions

New Live AskAW episodes every Sunday at 4pm PST! Have questions you’d like me to answer?

In order to be more organized and community-driven, please post your question in the comments of my latest #AskAW video and upvote the questions you’d like to see answered in the next video.
Link to the latest video here.

6 Tips To Be Better Looking

There’s a lot of misconceptions and confusion out there about what women find attractive in a man and how they define a “good looking” gentlemen.

Right off the bat, I want you to understand that none of these tips have anything to do with money or being physically attractive. So for all of you poor saps out there who like to use that as an excuse, it’s complete bullsh*t and really isn’t that high on the list for any quality woman.

6. Smile more and often

People are attracted to friendliness – it instantly makes you more approachable and likable.

Smile More 1 Ashley Weston

5. Stand up Straight

It opens your body up and makes you look confident, inviting, and your shoulders and chest look wider which women love because it signifies strength. Poor posture projects a message of lack of self esteem, which isn’t attractive to most women.

Good Posture Ashley Weston

4. Workout or be physically active

Keeping yourself healthy physically also keeps you in better mental shape. People will notice your demeanor and you keeping in decent shape. So get out and be active for at lest 30 minutes a day.

Work Out Ashley Weston

3. Have a proper grooming routine

Want to be more attractive? Smell and look clean. You just beat out 30% of other men right off the top. Check out my article about the top grooming mistakes men make.

Grooming Routine Ashley Weston

2. Choosing the right haircut & facial hair

I can’t tell you what a difference this can make on a man. The most important thing to consider in a haircut is your hair type and facial shape. Also, consider your facial hair. Some men look more masculine and mature with a beard or some scruff.

Hairstyle and Facial Hair Ashley Weston

1. Get your clothes fitted

Never underestimate the impact properly fitting clothing can have on your appearance. Your suits should be tailored, jeans hemmed, and you’re buying appropriate fitting shirts. Don’t give me that BS about trying to hide your gut or skinny frame with loose fitting clothing because trying to hide it makes it look worse.

Fitted Clothing Ashley Weston

14 Biggest Men’s Grooming Mistakes & How To Fix Them

Before I dig into my Men’s Grooming Essentials series, I wanted to address the biggest men’s grooming mistakes and how to fix them so we can set a base level of mistakes that you may need to fix before we go into a deep-dive on grooming stuff.

14. Unkempt Body Hair

This include legs, arms, chest, and the nether regions. I suggest using your clilppers on a 1 or 2 setting and clipping your body hair every 2-3 months, depending on how hairy you are.

Unkempt Body Hair Ashley Weston

13. Ungroomed Eyebrows

Eyebrows should be plucked if you have a unibrow and trimmed if there is a lot of hair like Mr. Rooney on the right below. Most barbers will trim your eyebrows if you ask, or there’s specialty items for this, as well. One thing that should be avoided is making sure they’re not too shaped and clean like a woman’s eyebrows.

Ungroomed Eyebrows Ashley Weston

12. Not taking care of your facial skin

Everyone should have a daily routine of washing, moisturizing, and protecting your skin with sunscreen when you’ll be outside in the sun.

Not Taking Care of your Facial Skin Ashley Weston

11. Too Long Between Haircuts

If you have a shorter hairstyle, you should get a haircut every 2-3 weeks, and if it is a bit longer you can go every 3-4 weeks. If you’re balding or have a buzzed cut, you always want to have a haircut every few days, up to once a week.

Going too long in Btwn Haircuts Ashley Weston

10. Nose Hair / Ear Hair

I’ll let the picture below do the explaining for me.

Nose Hair Ear Hair Ashley Weston

9. Unkempt Facial Hair

This is a real turnoff, especially when your hair is way too long and starting to cover your lips or you have a bunch of you stubble on your neck. If you want stubble, make sure to shave your neck and keep it clean.

8. Dirty, Greasy, Ungroomed Hair

This is something I immediately notice on a guy, and makes my stomach churn, especially when it looks dirty and greasy. So make sure you wash and style your hair before stepping out in public.

Dirty Greasy Ungroomed Hair Ashley Weston

7. Bloody Gums or Food in Teeth

Go to the dentist for a regular teeth cleaning and carry floss or toothpicks and excuse yourself to the restroom to check your teeth after meals.

Bloody Gums or Food in your Teeth Ashley Weston

6. Bad Breath

This is easily fixable: brush your teeth regularly and well and either pop a mint  or small piece of gum before talking to people, whenever possible.

Bad Breath Ashley Weston

5. Being Stinky

I hope I don’t have to say it, but shower regularly, wear deodorant and please, for the love of everyone around you, go very easy on the cologne. There’s definitely such a thing as too much of a good thing.

4. Dirty, Long Finger and Toe Nails

This also includes jagged or bitten nails. Keep them regularly trimmed with clippers. For most men, that means once every two-ish weeks. It’s easiest to do this after a shower when your nails are softest.

Dirty Long Finger and Toe Nails Ashley Weston

3. Not Moisturizing Enough

There’s nothing more disgusting than cracked, ashy, or rough hands, elbows, kees and feet. When you get out of the shower, simply take some lotion, rub it on your hands, elbows, knees and feet (including heels) and you still will thank you for it – as well a lot of people around you.

Not Moisturizing Enough Ashley Weston

2. Neck Hair

This one makes me shudder just by thinking about it. When I see a guy who looks sharp and put together and then he turns his head and I see the back of his neck is hairy – bleh! It ruins it all for me. If your neck hair grows faster than your haircut schedule, just take your razor while you’re shaving your face and give a pass or two to the back of your neck. You won’t notice, but most people behind you will.

Neck Hair Ashley Weston

1. Cracked or Dry Lips

The first thing I notice when we are talking is your cracked or dry lips and I’m doing everything I possibly can to get away from your as quickly as possible. Just slap on some chapstick or other lip moisturizer if they feel a little dry and you’ll be good to go.

Cracked or Dry Lips Ashley Weston