As you know by now, outside of being my husband, Dorian is my business partner, and now a fixture on our site and channel. We get a lot of questions about Dorian’s involvement in all of our content, so, while we swear he’s not “taking over the channel”, in this episode of 2 Minute Tuesday, we wanted to answer this question and give you some more insight!
He’s Around All The Time
Dorian’s a fixture in our business life and helps with a lot of aspects, so it seemed natural to include him as our business grew and evolved. Obviously we’re partners in life, so having him around is all the more wonderful as we get busier and busier in our professional lives.
He’s Knowledgeable On All Things
Because we collaborate so often and have been working together for awhile, Dorian has a ton of knowledge and smart opinions on all things style and accessories that I really value. He also is very passionate and knowledgeable about all things EDC, tech, and lifestyle, so we thought it would be a shame not to share with our readers and viewers of all the insight he brings to the table. Plus, as a regular guy just like you, he brings thoughtful opinions to the table, even when he disagrees, and we feel it’s important to bring this point of view to you as well.
It Helps Us Be More Efficient
It’s more of a technical production thing, but having him participate and assist in the filming of videos really is a huge help and time saver. With our wallet update video, for example, having him involved made the process much more efficient and productive.
We all deal with insecurities and doubt, it’s a part of life. But we’re here to tell you that you’re probably not giving yourself enough credit. Being confident takes some work, but here are 5 reasons why you’re actually more attractive to women than you think.
You Actually Are – Many of us have a tendency to naturally underrate ourselves. In fact, studies have shown we are actually scientifically 20% more attractive than we may think. So give yourself some more credit, it’s true.
Attractiveness Isn’t Just Physical – Personality, sense of humor, kindness, being well-spoken, all of these non-physical factors have an immense effect on how attractive you are perceived to be. That’s why it’s all the more important that you cultivate these qualities as well as physical ones.
You Care About Yourself – You’re watching this channel so you’re immediately ahead of the game because you care about your style and appearance and are willing to put some effort into them. Caring about these things not only makes you more attractive than you probably think, but it also puts you head and shoulders above a lot of other men.
Your Perception is Warped – We live in a world dominated by perfection and social media and this has given us a warped sense of who we are. Absolutely nobody is perfect, but celebrity culture and internet culture has unfortunately made us think we need to be, but it’s simply not true. The fact is, most average people are attractive by any normal standard, yourself included.
You Can Always Improve – Many of the traits that make up so-called “attractiveness” are things you can learn and get better at. It just takes putting your mind to it and making the effort. Confidence and self-improvement are sexy and they’re things every man can work on.
How you speak and the words you use say a TON about who you are and how women will perceive you. Using the wrong words can really be detrimental to how you come across, especially to the opposite sex. Are you using any of these 8 Words Men Use That Women Hate?
8 Words Men Use That Women Hate
Bro/Dude – Sure, we all use these, but be aware of how often and in what situations. To many “bros” or “dudes” can just make you seem immature.
Smash/Bang – Any childish or over-the-top reference to sex just makes you seem like an amateur.
C-Word / Bitch / Slut – It should go without saying that anything sexist or misogynistic, even if you think you are “joking”, is never, ever a good look.
Relax/Calm Down – There is a right way and a wrong way to use these words, they can come off as insensitive and condescending, a huge red flag in your communication skills.
Gay – Never ok, even in a joking or casual way.
Racial Slurs – The same goes for these, no woman ever, ever wants to hear or can appreciate any kind of slur.
Any joke/comment about a woman’s period – Want to instantly put yourself in the dog house? Make one of these tasteless jokes or condescend to a woman about what she’s going through during PMS.
Babe/Sweetie/Missy/Sweetheart – Sure, using these in the appropriate loving/kind way with a close friend or significant other is totally acceptable. But in the wrong situation, at work/in professional situations, for example, it comes off as disrespectful and condescending.
In this round of EDC, Ashley sat down with Perkens Bien Aime to discuss his go-to carry items for each and every day. Here’s a peek at what Perkens relies on as a busy influencer and tailoring specialist.
Thanks to Perkens for joining us for this video and thanks to IWC, one of our favorite watch brands of all time, for helping make this video happen!
The right tattoo can be an amazing way to express yourself, and as good as they can be, the wrong tattoo in a terrible place can be a huge mistake. Ashley sat down with our friend, and amazing tattoo artist, Romeo Lacoste to talk about the 5 worst places to get a tattoo.
All jokes aside, a single lower back tattoo is never a good spot for a man to get a tattoo. Don’t be that guy with a tramp stamp.
Sure, there are great ways to get your bicep tattooed, but as far as having a high probability for cheese factor, the bicep ranks very highly.
Elbow, Ribs, Spine
Pain varies from person to person but these three places are definitely on the most painful places on your body to get tattooed, so make sure you know what you are getting in to.
Again, there can be some good options here but ultimately I just feel like this is a bit too feminine a place or a man to have a tattoo.
Many people do like these areas, but you have to be realistic about these locations given your professional life and the commitment they require. They are quite hard to cover up properly so make sure you know what you’re in for.
Extra special thanks to Romeo and California Dream Tattoo!
It’s back to school time again, so we thought we should share a bit of advice and wisdom for all you students out there. School is a time for fun, sure, but it’s also time to start thinking about and working on your future. So with that in mind, here’s some of our favorite advice that every student should know.
The pressure you’ll feel is self or community imposed. All the decisions you think are completely life-changing are easily fixable if you keep your head about you and don’t fall for the trap that the major or direction you choose now is what you have to do for the rest of your life. Take your time, you don’t have to figure it all out at once.
Start good habits now
Good habits will absolutely carry through long past graduation day. So start taking your mental and physical health seriously. Work on things like eating better, getting enough sleep, reading more, and putting a productivity workflow into place (check out GTD, Pomodoro Technique, Bullet Journaling). Learn how to find your motivation and use it.
Learn how to be a good conversationalist
This skill is something that will be useful for the rest of your life. Be genuinely interested to learn about other people. Whether you’re making new friends or using your conversation skills for networking, being confident and comfortable making conversation is really important.
If you’re in college, even as a freshman – start looking into company internships NOW. They will show you what it’s really like to work for a certain type of company or industry. Use these as a try-out for potential careers. You can also talk to your guidance counselors and career centers and ask if they have any specific programs for this.
Learn money management
While it’s not taught in most schools, learning how to budget is huge. Look up personal finance (try Reddit) and how even putting $20 or $100 a month now will give you financial freedom much earlier in life – even if you’re working in a low-wage job. Don’t take on unnecessary debt. It’s easy to get sucked into putting things on a credit card, so don’t do it unless you have the means to pay it off everything month. Also, build credit as early and quickly as possible by getting a credit card and only adding 1 autopay item to it that you automatically pay off each month. If you’re worried about yourself, send it somewhere – parent, friend, etc. – if you’d be tempted to use it for unnecessary spending.
Evaluate your career/life goals
Think hard, do you actually need to be in school right now? Trades pay incredibly well and most don’t require college degrees. Your late teens and early twenties will see lots of changes. Not sure if school is for you? Take a gap year and go explore career opportunities! Education is important but school will always be there for you when the time is right.
Take responsibility for your decisions
You don’t get to blame your parents for your problems anymore. As you come of adult age, it’s time to be responsible for your thoughts and actions. You can’t blame anyone else for what happens to you from here on out. It’s up to you now to make your life as good or bad as you want it. If things aren’t going well in your life, start with numero uno and figure out what’s happening before jumping to blame outside factors. You dictate the way your life goes and you have the opportunity to make it what you want. The world doesn’t care about you enough to cause you to fail.
Evaluate all your friendships
The friendships you make during your school years will often impact your life in negative and positive ways you won’t foresee now. Toxic people can hinder you from being the best version of yourself and we talked about taking responsibility for everything earlier. Now it’s time to let that also dictate who you surround yourself with. As the saying goes, you’re the sum of the 5 people you hang with the most. So surround yourself with only good people.
Saying inappropriate things to people is something that’ll be harder to shake as you get older. Follow the 2-minute rule. Listen for approximately two minutes before interjecting into a conversation. You convey tact, have context of the subject matter, and understand the contributor’s style. Tact is a huge part of those conversationalist skills we mentioned earlier.
Get to know your professors
In your later years, good relationships with professors can lead to recommendations, research, and job opportunities. Don’t think your adjunct professors can’t help you, too. A lot of them actually work in the industry you’re interested in and teach as a side gig. Most faculty members are delighted when students visit them to ask about the readings, the course topic, or just to get to know them. Professors are required to hold office hours for students: your tuition is paying for that kind of contact. So use it!
You’ve entered an exciting and formative time in your life, so make the most of it! As we said, setting yourself up for success in the future starts now.