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We all deal with insecurities and doubt, it’s a part of life. But we’re here to tell you that you’re probably not giving yourself enough credit. Being confident takes some work, but here are 5 reasons why you’re actually more attractive to women than you think.
You Actually Are – Many of us have a tendency to naturally underrate ourselves. In fact, studies have shown we are actually scientifically 20% more attractive than we may think. So give yourself some more credit, it’s true.
Attractiveness Isn’t Just Physical – Personality, sense of humor, kindness, being well-spoken, all of these non-physical factors have an immense effect on how attractive you are perceived to be. That’s why it’s all the more important that you cultivate these qualities as well as physical ones.
You Care About Yourself – You’re watching this channel so you’re immediately ahead of the game because you care about your style and appearance and are willing to put some effort into them. Caring about these things not only makes you more attractive than you probably think, but it also puts you head and shoulders above a lot of other men.
Your Perception is Warped – We live in a world dominated by perfection and social media and this has given us a warped sense of who we are. Absolutely nobody is perfect, but celebrity culture and internet culture has unfortunately made us think we need to be, but it’s simply not true. The fact is, most average people are attractive by any normal standard, yourself included.
You Can Always Improve – Many of the traits that make up so-called “attractiveness” are things you can learn and get better at. It just takes putting your mind to it and making the effort. Confidence and self-improvement are sexy and they’re things every man can work on.
How you speak and the words you use say a TON about who you are and how women will perceive you. Using the wrong words can really be detrimental to how you come across, especially to the opposite sex. Are you using any of these 8 Words Men Use That Women Hate?
Bro/Dude – Sure, we all use these, but be aware of how often and in what situations. To many “bros” or “dudes” can just make you seem immature.
Smash/Bang – Any childish or over-the-top reference to sex just makes you seem like an amateur.
C-Word / Bitch / Slut – It should go without saying that anything sexist or misogynistic, even if you think you are “joking”, is never, ever a good look.
Relax/Calm Down – There is a right way and a wrong way to use these words, they can come off as insensitive and condescending, a huge red flag in your communication skills.
Gay – Never ok, even in a joking or casual way.
Racial Slurs – The same goes for these, no woman ever, ever wants to hear or can appreciate any kind of slur.
Any joke/comment about a woman’s period – Want to instantly put yourself in the dog house? Make one of these tasteless jokes or condescend to a woman about what she’s going through during PMS.
Babe/Sweetie/Missy/Sweetheart – Sure, using these in the appropriate loving/kind way with a close friend or significant other is totally acceptable. But in the wrong situation, at work/in professional situations, for example, it comes off as disrespectful and condescending.
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The right tattoo can be an amazing way to express yourself, and as good as they can be, the wrong tattoo in a terrible place can be a huge mistake. Ashley sat down with our friend, and amazing tattoo artist, Romeo Lacoste to talk about the 5 worst places to get a tattoo.
All jokes aside, a single lower back tattoo is never a good spot for a man to get a tattoo. Don’t be that guy with a tramp stamp.
Sure, there are great ways to get your bicep tattooed, but as far as having a high probability for cheese factor, the bicep ranks very highly.
Pain varies from person to person but these three places are definitely on the most painful places on your body to get tattooed, so make sure you know what you are getting in to.
Again, there can be some good options here but ultimately I just feel like this is a bit too feminine a place or a man to have a tattoo.
Many people do like these areas, but you have to be realistic about these locations given your professional life and the commitment they require. They are quite hard to cover up properly so make sure you know what you’re in for.
Extra special thanks to Romeo and California Dream Tattoo!
Being a good conversationalist can help you in all aspects of life from socially to professionally, and since we’ve mentioned how important this skill is in other videos, we thought we’d break it down to the key points.
It actually starts with not talking at all. Whether you’re meeting someone for the first time or working a crowded room or bar, listening will help you be more engaged with others which will, in turn, make the conversation flow much more easily and make it a better experience for everyone else.
Starting with a friendly, genuine interest in others is an important foundation to becoming a better conversationalist.
Giving someone a thoughtful and genuine compliment (but not too over the top) will instantly put them at ease and make them more comfortable in the situation.
Just like with many other things in life, the more you practice your conversation skills, the more confident and comfortable you’ll be in your skills.
It can just be as simple as introducing yourself and asking simple questions. If you’re in a social setting, keep it simple. You can even practice a few basic questions for any type of setting so you’ll always feel prepared and relaxed. For more conversation starters, check out this video.
Back to asking questions and being genuine, simply being engaged and thoughtful will help any conversation progress organically.
Ending a conversation politely is just as important. You want to make sure the other people involved don’t feel ditched. So be friendly but direct, your delivery will determine how everyone else feels after you’ve left.
Give these tips a shot and make sure to practice and you’ll hone your conversation skills in no time!