Why “Bad Boy” Style Is Usually Cheesy

here’s a ton of content out there about dressing like a “bad boy” or an “alpha” and usually, it’s not a great look. Many men equate “bad boy style” with confidence and these things are simply not that intertwined as you think. Improving your style should be a pillar to growing your confidence, you shouldn’t adopt an exaggerated persona or image and expect confidence from a costume.

Why “Bad Boy” Style Is Usually Cheesy

It’s Not Really That Stylish
Sure, I love a good leather jacket and dark denim, they should be staple pieces in your essential wardrobe, but most of this so-called “bad boy” style involves a lot of things that don’t look great – over accessorizing with jewelry, out-of-style items, too much embellishment and “look at me” attitude. It’s a little too try-hard.

It’s Not Versatile/Practical
Ultimately it’s too one dimensional for most men. Having good overall style means having a well-rounded wardrobe with a mix of different items for a variety of situations. You can’t wear a t-shirt, boots, and jeans everywhere.

It’s Inauthentic
Typical “bad boy” items don’t work for everyone and every body type. Trying to fit your look and personal style into a particular box because it might make you seem cool or confident will only come off as fake.  Finding your own individual style and sense of self are way more important (and attractive!) than pretending to be something you’re not.

5 Ways To End A Conversation That Work

Since we talked about 7 Conversation Starters That Actually Work last time there has been an overwhelming response by you guys out there for us to do an article about how to end a conversation. I have my fiancé Dorian joining me again as we go over the 5 ways to end a conversation.

The goal is to end the conversation gracefully and to not be patronizing to the person you are having a conversation with.

1. “It was nice to meet you”

or “It was great chatting with you.” This is called the roadblock. I use this one constantly whenever I’m in a conversation I want to get out of, or the person is not allowing me to talk in a conversation or are just rambling.

2. “I’m just going to go say hi to the host. It was nice to meet you.”

3.“Have you met…”

If someone I know comes by and I want to get out of the conversation, I’ll grab them, introduce them to the person, let them say their pleasantries and then excuse myself and just never come back.

4. “I’ve got to X, but it was really great chatting with you.”

You can say anything from – grab another drink, grab some food, or use the restroom.

5.“I’ve got to take this.”

No one can tell if your phone is on vibrate.

Top 4 Sneakers For 2017

I want to talk about the Top 4 sneakers for 2017. These are 4 sneakers I highly recommend if you’re looking to put together an intentional sneaker collection that’ll cover you for some of the different aspects of your life. For example, working out, traveling, or just needing an everyday, lifestyle sneaker.

4. Nike Flyknit Racer

This is a great athletic sneaker because it weighs practically nothing and the woven upper makes it very breathable. Also, these are a great lifestyle sneaker that you can wear with your casual clothes because the design is so minimal and it has a very sleek silhouette.

Flyknit Racer Ashley Weston

$150 – Nike Flyknit Racer (in Black/White or Black/Anthracite/Black)

3. Converse All Star & Jack Purcell

These are classics and super easy to wear year-round. Leather or canvas options are great – and always default to low-tops because they’re easier to wear than high-tops.

Converse All Star and Jack Purcell Ashley Weston

$80 – Converse Jack Purcell Tumbled Leather Low Top (in white and black)
$65 – Converse Jack Purcell Canvas Low Top (in white, navy, and black)
$65 – Converse Chuck Taylor All Star Leather Low Top (in white and black)
$50 – Converse Chuck Taylor All Star Low Top (in white, navy, and black)

2. Adidas UltraBoost

I love the minimal design of the UltraBoost. The knit upper makes it very breathable too. You can treat these as your everyday sneakers or make them your running/workout shoes because they’re super comfortable.

Adidas Ultra Boost Ashley Weston

$180 – Adidas UltraBoost

1. Adidas Stan Smith

This one will be on my list every year until something better can replace it.

These are a great lifestyle, everyday tennis shoe. Also, they’re not expensive and relatively easy to keep clean if you give them a wipe down every week or two and don’t go hiking in them. Remember, women look at your shoes for an indication of what type of man you are. Clean white shoes = this dude’s got his shit together.

Adidas Stan Smiths Ashley Weston

$75 – Adidas Stan Smith Shoes (with either the green or navy logo)

 

Notably absent in my list are basketball sneakers because those are for a very specific group of men out there who either play basketball or are crazy sneakerheads. Some guys can pull them off really well, while others end up looking immature and silly in them.

6 Tips To Be Better Looking

There’s a lot of misconceptions and confusion out there about what women find attractive in a man and how they define a “good looking” gentlemen.

Right off the bat, I want you to understand that none of these tips have anything to do with money or being physically attractive. So for all of you poor saps out there who like to use that as an excuse, it’s complete bullsh*t and really isn’t that high on the list for any quality woman.

6. Smile more and often

People are attracted to friendliness – it instantly makes you more approachable and likable.

Smile More 1 Ashley Weston

5. Stand up Straight

It opens your body up and makes you look confident, inviting, and your shoulders and chest look wider which women love because it signifies strength. Poor posture projects a message of lack of self esteem, which isn’t attractive to most women.

Good Posture Ashley Weston

4. Workout or be physically active

Keeping yourself healthy physically also keeps you in better mental shape. People will notice your demeanor and you keeping in decent shape. So get out and be active for at lest 30 minutes a day.

Work Out Ashley Weston

3. Have a proper grooming routine

Want to be more attractive? Smell and look clean. You just beat out 30% of other men right off the top. Check out my article about the top grooming mistakes men make.

Grooming Routine Ashley Weston

2. Choosing the right haircut & facial hair

I can’t tell you what a difference this can make on a man. The most important thing to consider in a haircut is your hair type and facial shape. Also, consider your facial hair. Some men look more masculine and mature with a beard or some scruff.

Hairstyle and Facial Hair Ashley Weston

1. Get your clothes fitted

Never underestimate the impact properly fitting clothing can have on your appearance. Your suits should be tailored, jeans hemmed, and you’re buying appropriate fitting shirts. Don’t give me that BS about trying to hide your gut or skinny frame with loose fitting clothing because trying to hide it makes it look worse.

Fitted Clothing Ashley Weston

5 Most Common Hair Styling Mistakes Men Make and How to Fix Them

Over the years, while working with my clients, I’ve learned a lot of great tips from their hair stylists when it comes to getting the perfect hairstyle. So with their help, I put together this list of the 5 most common hair styling mistakes men make and how to fix them. I also thought it would be fun to have my friend, Jordan O’Brien from The Gentleman’s Cove Youtube Channel, give his awesome input about these hair styling mistakes since he’s kind of awesome with hair.

 

Mistake 1: Selecting the wrong hairstyle

Wrong Hairstyle Ashley Weston

1) Won’t work for your hair type

So maybe you really love a certain hairstyle, and you want to replicate it on yourself. Unfortunately, trying to style your hair like someone who has a different hair type than yours will result in something that never looks quite right.

Fix

You really need to be honest with yourself when choosing a haircut based on the type of hair you have and take your barber/hairstylist’s advice.

2) Choosing a hairstyle that doesn’t fit your lifestyle

If you’re opposed to using a blow dryer, you are probably not going to want to choose a pompadour or quiff, as they usually require some time with the blow dryer in order to get the necessary volume.

Fix

If you don’t want to spend a lot of time styling your hair, then don’t choose a high maintenance haircut and get something more in-line with the time you’re willing to put in with your hair. 

Mistake 2: Using the wrong product

Using the wrong product will often result in not getting the look or hold you want.  For example, when men with fine or thinning hair use gel or pomades in their styling routine — big mistake. Gel clumps your hair together and reveals more of scalp, making the hair look even thinner. A lot of men will keep adding more and more product, even when it’s not designed for the style you want to accomplish. Another big mistake.

Wrong Product For Hair Type Ashley Weston

Fix

For thinning hair, use mousses, matte texture pastes and conditioners to provide fluff that is more natural.

If the look or hold isn’t up to your standards, the worst thing you can do is double the quantity of product used. Start with a small amount of product and add a little more, if necessary. If that doesn’t work, then you’ve got to find a better product that’s designed for your hair type and style.

Mistake 3: Going too long between haircuts

The longer you go without a haircut, the longer your hair becomes and the more difficult it is to style your hair properly, which usually results in having to use a lot more product.

Too Long In Btwn a Haircut Ashley Weston

Fix

A fresh cut can instantly give you a put-together look, and the more it becomes part of your regular grooming routine, the fewer styling products you’ll usually need.

Mistake 4: Not using product properly

Start with HALF the amount of product of what you think you need, then apply to your hair. You can always add more, but if you put too much, it all goes downhill from there and you’ll either have to wash your hair and start over or use a lot of dry shampoo to get it back to a semi-normal hairstyle.

Not Using Product Properly Ashley Weston

Fix

To really activate a hair product and apply it effectively you need to:

1) Heat it up in your hands by rubbing them together so it warms up and then distributes easily into your hair.
2) Then, using the the full surface area of both your hands, work in the product starting from the root.

As a general rule of thumb, creams and paste should go into hair when it is damp. Pomades or softer waxes should go in when hair is dry.

Mistake 5: Not washing well

Not washing well and using quality products. Can you get away with using the drugstore 2-in-1 products? Maybe, but all the hairstylists I talked to said this is the one thing that guys overlook that has a big impact on being able to style your hair properly. It’s like putting low-grade gasoline into a rocket ship – it won’t work well.

Not Washing Your Hair Enough 2 Ashley Weston

Fix

Take at least 2 minutes to really scrub your hair and massage your scalp. Your scalp needs to be stimulated and massaged to get the blood flowing into the area and keep the best version of your hair growing long into your life, which also means your hair will be more manageable and easier to style.

And as for quality products, it’s really going to make a huge difference after you’re done showering and when it’s time to style your hair. If you don’t believe me, you’ll only know what I’m talking about when you try.

I’ve included some great shampoos and conditioners that are best for your hair type that my hairstylist friends highly recommended. If you’re using products not designed for your hair type then you really won’t see the benefit that I’m talking about.

Thinning Hair

Nioxin System1 Cleanser & Scalp Therapy Duo Set Ashley Weston

$34 – Nioxin System 1 Cleanser & Scalp Therapy Duo Set
$20 – Paul Mitchell Tea Tree Special Shampoo
$20 – Paul Mitchell Tea Tree Special Conditioner 
$20 – Redken Cerafill Retaliate Shampoo
$20 – Redken Cerafill Retaliate Conditioner 

Fine Hair

Kevin Murphy Stimulate Me Wash and Rinse Ashley Weston

$78 – Kevin Murphy Stimulate Me Rinse and Wash Duo Set 
$34 – Lush Veganese Conditioner
$14 – Bain de Terre Green Tea Thickening Conditioner 
$12 – Bain de Terre Green Tea Thickening Shampoo 

Curly or Coarse Hair

New Wash Hair Story Ashley Weston

$40 – New Wash Hairstory
$21 – Kérastase Discipline Bain Fluidealiste Shampoo
$21 – Kérastase Fondant Fluidealiste Conditioner  
$18 – Ouidad Curl Quencher Moisturizing Conditione
$16 – Ouidad Curl Quencher Moisturizing Shampoo 

Normal Hair (Straight or Wavy)

Kevin Murphy Hydrate Me Wash and Rinse Ashley Weston 1

$90 – Kevin Murphy Hydrate Me Wash and Rise Duo Set
$30 – Mister Pompadour Peppermint Shower Experience 
$24 – Moroccan Oil Hydrating Conditioner
$23 – Moroccan Oil Hydrating Shampoo

5 Most Attractive Men’s Hairstyles Women Love

In this article and video, I wanted to discuss the 5 Most Attractive Men’s Hairstyles That Women Love. I’m always amazed to see content like this that’s done by men, talking about what women love, which doesn’t really make sense since these are dudes, not women, talking about the best hairstyles for men according to women. It seems a little counter-intuitive to me. The ultimate goal of your hairstyle should be having a woman want to run her fingers through it, regardless of the type or quantity of hair you have. So let’s get into the 5 favorites.

 

1. New Pompadour

It’s a modern take on the classic Pompadour (make this a link to a classic pompadour pic) but there’s still going to be that signature volume on top. I find this hairstyle very sexy, especially when the hair’s finger-combed back so that it looks a little “piecey” and not so perfect – every woman will want to run her hands through your hair.

Characteristics of the New Pompadour

  • When the cut is tight and tapered on the sides, but longer and textured on the top.
  • The top will be either swept back, like the James Dean picture below OR back and to the side, like the Justin Timberlake picture. You’ll maintain this direction and high volume on top with a blow dryer and some wax or pomade.

2. Freeman’s Cut (Undercut)

When I see this hairstyle on a man, I instantly think he must be a badass and could give two shits. This haircut isn’t for someone who wants to blend in, so it’s actually a really easy way to fake being cool, or add a dimension of personality that women will be attracted to.

Characteristics of the Freeman

  • When the hair is cut really short (using a 1 or 2 on your clippers) or shaved on the sides and back of your head, but left about 2-4 inches longer on top.
  • The top of your hair is going to be swept straight back. The styling is really quick and easy.

3. The Crew Cut

This haircut is also known as the “Ivy League Cut.” It always looks great and is super low maintenance, so it’s a favorite of a lot of men, and I don’t blame them.

Characteristics of a Crew Cut

  • Tight on the sides with a natural fade of the sideburns and back of the head. The top will be a little bit longer and even length across the whole top of the head.
  • In terms of styling, there’s really not much to do except brushing the top front area up.

4. The Quiff

  1. There’s lots of different variations of the quiff, from short to longer versions, and a cleaner, more controlled styling to a messier, tousled look. This is another haircut that makes me want to run my hands through your hair. I love when it’s styled a little messy because it looks really sexy, masculine and cool.

Characteristics of the Quiff

  • When the top of your hair is on the longer side and the sides and back can vary in length but it should always be kept shorter than the top so there’s a definitive contrast.
  • This kind of haircut will work perfectly on men who have naturally curly or wavy hair.
  • To achieve the volume on top you’ll want to blow dry the top of your hair and then add some styling product to push the hair back and to the side.

5. Classic Businessman

Also known as the Don Draper haircut from Mad Men, it’s a classic taper haircut with a side part hairstyle. I love this timeless and formal hairstyle which looks great in all settings.

Characteristics of the Businessman

  • The top is left up to 2 inches long and the sides and back are tapered with scissors or hair clippers.
  • To get the hairstyle, take your hair product of choice and run it through your hair while it’s still damp. Take your comb and create your side part. Then create a small wave on the front of your hair by combing your bangs up and back towards either side. Comb back the sides of your hair.
  • If you want a little messier than use your fingers as a comb when pushing the top of your hair to the back towards the either side.
  • If you want a wet finish, use a pomade with a bit of shine to it.

6 Strange Ways To Be More Attractive to Women

I see a lot of videos and articles of men telling other men what women find attractive and some of it’s true on their best day, but a lot of these lists are completely wrong on their average day. So I talked with all my female friends and we came up with a list of 6 strange ways men can be more attractive.

 

Stop saying ‘Maybe’

Whenever you’re making appointments, don’t say, “Do you maybe want to grab drinks or dinner?” Instead, take charge and be more direct – “Let’s grab drinks!”

Witty and Sarcastic Humor

Even if the humor is a little mean-spirited, but not directed towards us, we’ll find you more attractive due to your sharp wit.

Roll up your sleeves

If you’re wearing a long-sleeved shirt, I’m talking about literally rolling up your sleeves in front of us. Our eyes will instantly go to your forearm which we find very sexy.

Good w/ kids & elderly

Women are always going to find this attractive because it’s show us what kind of partner and family man you’ll be in the future.

Not always available

It’s good to be available, but just don’t be so available. We respect a man who has a busy schedule and isn’t always free to hang out at the drop of the hat.

Not ashamed of hobbies

Women find it very endearing when a man gets really excited about a quirky hobby or similar things that you wouldn’t have guessed by looking at him. Just don’t go over the line with something creepy like, My Little Pony.

8 Things You Should Never Say To Women

My sister, Scarlett, and I talk about the 8 Things You Should Never Say To Women, unless, of course, you want to be in hot water, ignored or made fun of later with our girlfriends. And these apply to men no matter your relationship status, so if you’re married, single, in a relationship, pansexual, asexual, etc. just don’t say these things to any of the girls in your life. Thanks!

 

1. Why are you so serious?

Other similar winners: Why aren’t you smiling? or the other gem: C’mon, girl – smile for me. 

Because I’m not smiling means that I’m serious?

2. You look different.

If you’d like to know what’s different, ask us something specific like, “Did you get a haircut?”. We’ll probably say no and then tell you what it is, if anything. At least then it doesn’t sound so bad.

3. Is something wrong?

Or similar questions like: Is everything okay?; Did I do something wrong?

Something is about to be wrong if you ask me that again.

4. Why are you wearing that?

Just… don’t.

5. Why won’t you talk to me?

Or the equally stupid follow-up: Am I not good enough for you?

By asking this question, you effectively just made me not want to talk to you and definitely showed yourself to not be good enough for me.

6. Are you having fun?

AKA: You don’t look like you’re having a good time; Why are you so quiet?

This question just killed any fun I was having. Thanks!

7. You look stressed.

Alternates: You look tired; You look upset.

These stupid statements are stressing me out – that’s all!

8. Why’s a girl like you still single?

Or the ever-popular: Where’s your boyfriend, he doesn’t like showing you off?

Just buck up and ask if I’m single – I’ll tell you.