The First 9 Things Women See | How To Attract a Woman in 2020

Last time we did this topic it was almost 3 years ago and it was just Ashley. So today we’re going to discuss the first things women notice about a guy – from both a woman and man’s perspective. Some of these may be obvious, but we guarantee that a lot of these aren’t.

Your Silhouette or Shape

Especially from a distance or behind, it’s hard to tell much about a person except by the shape of their body. So how you’re standing and carrying yourself will immediately be noticed. Stand up straight and cultivate good posture to appear confident.

Your Clothing

It’s hard to tell much about a person just from first glance, but if you’re wearing ill-fitting, old/stained or wrinkled clothing, a woman will notice this immediately. Make sure you’re clothing fits your body properly and looks relatively clean and you’ve got the big bases covered.

Your Face

As humans, we immediately look at faces to identify whether you’re a friend or foe. Make sure it’s a pleasant experience and take care of any skin issues if you have. Also, always remember she’s also looking at your eyes to see where your attention is. If you’re trying to attract her, make sure your eyes meet for a second, then give her the next item on our list.

A Smile

Giving her a smile makes her feel good, makes you look better and more pleasant, and also acknowledges that you like her too. No woman or anybody, for that matter, likes a sour puss. Smiles bring out the best in you and others around you.

Your Hair

Next up is something that frames your face – your hair. Since she’s look at your face as a whole, the hair is going to play a big part of her impression of you. Regardless of your hair type or whether you’re balding or not, ensure your hair game is on point and compliments your face shape.

Your Shoes

This will never change and has been confirmed each and every time we ask females – they look right at your shoes because whether you know it or not, your shoes tell the story of you – how well you take care of yourself and your situation in life. Make sure your shoes are relatively clean, well-cared for and the laces tied properly.

Your Mannerisms

Be slow and deliberate in your movements. Have a pleasant, easy-going body language. Show her that you’re in control of yourself. It makes people nervous if you’re constantly fidgeting or nervously looking around or it makes you look like a slob if you’re splayed out like a couch potato (younger guys have this problem the most).

Your Hands

Just like your shoes, your hands give women an indicator of your station in life. Are they clean and well-cared for? A man with long, dirty fingernails are one of the biggest turn offs for women.

The Way You Speak

The way you communicate will be the final confirmation that she’s right about you based on everything else she’s seen so far. So speak well, calmly, and with class, courtesy and attention and you’ll win her over.

Gap Striped T-Shirt, AllSaints Jeans, Nike for J.Crew Killshot 2 Sneakers

Overall, this outfit is simple and great. I love the color pairings. The red and gray striped t-shirt looks great with his olive complexion. If he were paler, the red tones would bring out the pinkness in his skin. Jeans are great – length shows the right amount of ankle, slim fit, and perfect looking cuff. Sneakers are nice and clean with shoelaces that aren’t too long and floppy.

My Critique

  • The T-shirt is too big:
    • Shoulder seams are past his natural shoulders.
    • Sleeves are too long.
    • Baggy through the torso and it looks a little long.

How A T-Shirt Should Fit

Check out my t-shirt fit guide for the proper fit, but briefly, a t-shirt should fit like this:

  • Shoulder seams should follow your natural shoulders.
  • Sleeves should just cover your bicep and hug your arm and not flare out.
  • The body of the shirt should lightly hug your torso and end just past your belt buckle.

How To Fix

Try sizing the t-shirt down one size, but if the Gap shirt doesn’t fit correctly try the below brands:

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